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Manitoba Covid Vaccination data for December 23rd - Age 5+ First Dose 86.47% (+0.07%)**, Second dose 79.62% (+0.04%)**, Third Dose 18.02% (+1.14%)**, Total doses administered 2,395,148 (+16,258), doses delivered to MB 3,075,710 (+40,000)

2021.12.23 22:00 Wpg-PolarBear-5092Manitoba Covid Vaccination data for December 23rd - Age 5+ First Dose 86.47% (+0.07%)**, Second dose 79.62% (+0.04%)**, Third Dose 18.02% (+1.14%)**, Total doses administered 2,395,148 (+16,258), doses delivered to MB 3,075,710 (+40,000)

Data Issue: MB Shared Health appear to be just 'publishing' the cumulative total doses now. So there is still a data backlog, which the 2nd chart shows how much the data changes day over day.
Doses Scheduled for Today : 5,835 (Supersites, Focused Immunization Teams, Pop-up Clinics)
StatAmount (daily change)
People administered at least one dose1,124,952 (+979)
Percentage Aged 5+ Vaccinated (1 dose)86.47% (+0.07%) [84.7%]**
People 'Fully Vaccinated' (2 doses)1,035,830 (+530)
Percentage Aged 5+ With 2 Doses79.62% (+0.04%) [78.3%]**
People with 3 Doses234,366 (+14,749)
Percentage Aged 5+ With 3 Doses18.02% (+1.14%) [17.9%]**
Percentage of MB Population 'Fully Vaccinated'74.86% (+0.04%)**
Total doses administered2,395,148 (+16,258)
Doses administered per 100k population173,089.22 (+1,174.91)
Total doses delivered to MB3,075,710 (+40,000)
Percentage of doses administered77.87% (more doses arrived)
**The Percentages will be based on MB Shared Health published population numbers from the Technical Briefing from May 28th (page 6) - Eligible Population 12+ = 1,175,703, and Total MB Population as 1,383,765 (Stats Canada Q3 2021 estimate) going forward. Eligible Population 5+ estimated at 1,300,910 (with data on population by Age from MB Shared Health June 1st 2020). The 'Official' Percentage from the Reports page will be posted as well in the square brackets, but they are consistently lower than they should be according to MB Health's own published vaccination & population data. It may be data they have, but don't publish about how many vaccinated are actually Manitoban's
'Fully Vaccinated' = 2 doses for now.
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First Nations data last updated 'December 16' - Previous update Dec 9nd.
Total Doses Administered: 255,338 (+22,791 from last week), number of doses allocated no longer posted.
On Reserve Population:
With 2 doses: 90.6% (previous weeks: 74.1%, 88.5%, 88.5%, 87.4%, 86.6%).
With 3 Doses: 13.9% (new this week)
Off Reserve Population:
with 2 Doses: 46% (previous weeks: 97.6%, 70.4%, 70.2%, 69.3%, 68.5%)
With 3 Doses: 9% (new this week)
from https://geoportal.gov.mb.ca/app/c37bd19db9de4fbeafbc6061ec9c0524
First dose data was removed from the dashboard for the First Nations this week.
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This next chart tries to show the data backlog in a more clear way. The 'Updated Cumulative Total' is a combination of the Cumulative First Dose + Second Dose from the MB Gov Covid Vaccinations Reports page. I added the Cumulative 3rd Dose yesterday, and for now to show how the Cumulative Total jumped from a couple of days ago with this new data.
DateCumulative 3rd DoseUpdated Cumulative TotalOriginally PublishedDifference from Originally PublishedChange from Previous Days numbersUpdated Daily Administered
Dec 22nd234,3662,395,1482,395,1480-9,016
Dec 21st226,1012,386,1322,378,890+7,242+7,24212,512
Dec 20th214,5772,373,6202,360,008+13,612+3,65914,720
Dec 19th200,7822,358,9002,345,656+13,244+2,0125,410
Dec 18th195,9352,353,4902,342,584+10,906+1,96612,168
Dec 17th185,3532,341,3222,332,254+9,068+1,68415,961
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March 28th2192,566173,548+19,018+6-
All dates other than Dec 9th to 13th (which had the unusual +100,000 blip of announced total doses that was then removed on the 14th) are showing higher Cumulative Totals (which now includes 3rd doses) than the number of Total Doses Administered that was originally provided by MB Shared Health. March 28th is the date I started tracking the cumulative first doses and 'originally published' totals - Data going back past March 28th is still being entered.
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Average Daily Doses Administered for the last few weeks (Mon to Sun Daily Administered/7)
Week of Dec 13th to 19th: 12,404 (Originally Published numbers give an average of 13,235 estimated - had to re-calculate because of the 100,000 reduction during this week from the previous week, otherwise it was -1,243)
Week of Dec 6th to Dec 12th: 7,651 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 7,014. (Had to re-calculate the originally published numbers to deal with the 100,000 bump in numbers, this dropped the average from 21,299)
Week of Nov 29th to Dec 5th: 6,267 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 6,077.
Week of Nov 22nd to 28th: 4,158 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 3,765.
Week of Nov 15th to 21st: 2,199 (Originally Published numbers give an average of 2,343)
Week of Nov 8th to 14th: 2,204 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 2,177.
Big jump in recent weeks with the 3rd doses being added. Each are still increasing day over day as data backlog is slowly caught up.
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Eligibility updated December 10th (Previously updated on the Nov 19th)
First Doses: 'A pediatric Pfizer vaccine has been approved for children aged five to 11. Manitoba has expanded vaccine eligibility to this age group.
Parents and caregivers can make first and second dose appointments for eligible children online or by calling 1-844-626-8222. This vaccine is also available from medical clinics, pharmacies and other locations
Children must be five years old at the time the appointment for the first dose is booked. The interval between first and second doses must be a minimum of eight weeks, or a minimum of 21 days for children living in First Nations communities.'
and for Third Doses:
NEW: To ensure the strongest immune response possible, the timeline between the second and third dose is being shortened for some individuals. Anyone aged 60 or older or those aged 18 or older who live in a First Nations community who received their second dose on or before July 10 are now strongly encouraged to receive their third dose.
A six month timeframe between second and third doses continues to be recommended for most other eligible Manitobans.
Individuals who are moderately to severely immunocompromised or have travel plans to a destination that only accepts certain vaccines or combinations of vaccine require a prescription to receive a third dose earlier than six months, unless they meet the criteria noted above. This approach is not based on an increased risk related to travel generally, or travel to certain destinations. For clarity, if you received two doses of the same mRNA vaccine, you should not be offered a third dose earlier than six months for travel.
Visit the Eligibility-Criteria link below to see full details.
There is now a recommended 56 days wait between 1st & 2nd doses (minus time frame remains at 28 days), and 6 months between 2nd & 3rd doses (booster).
https://www.gov.mb.ca/covid19/vaccine/eligibility-criteria.html
https://manitoba.ca/covid19/vaccine/finder.html
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The Manitoba Covid-19 vaccine booking website is live (still requires you to be eligible):https://patient.petalmd.com/login?groupId=6032
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'Manitobans who have received the COVID-19 vaccine can now access their immunization record online' 'Individuals who are fully vaccinated can now request a digital or physical immunization card'
'Effective today, individuals without access to the internet can call 1-844-MAN-VACC (1-844-626-8222) and follow the prompts to request their immunization card.'
https://www.gov.mb.ca/covid19/vaccine/immunization-record.html
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Timeline of Cumulative 1st Dose milestones (from Dec 1st, 2020):
Dec 7th - 1,100,000 - 98 days - as of Dec 15th, the Cumulative First Doses for Dec 7th now shows as 1,100,232. This is now 2 days earlier than it originally appeared.
Sept 1st - 1,000,000 - 65 days - as of Nov 19th, the Cumulative First Doses now shows as 1,000,122 for Sept the 1st. (7 days earlier than it looked like it would have been originally). This is still likely to move another day earlier within a couple of weeks or so.
June 29th - 900,000 - 24 days - as of Dec 6th, the Cumulative First Doses now shows 900,033 for June 29th - this is 7 days earlier than it looked originally.
June 5th - 800,000 - 11 days - as of Sept 6th, the Cumulative First Doses now shows 800,428, now 3 days earlier than it looked originally.
May 25th 700,000 - 8 days - as of Sept 28th, the Cumulative First Doses for May 25th now shows 700,146.
May 17th 600,000 - 8 days - as of Oct 25th May 8th now shows as 600,081, 2 days earlier than it looked.
May 9th 500,000 - 11 days - May 9th now shows as 500,109 first doses (updated October 18th to reflect this) This is now 2 days earlier than it originally appeared.
April 28th 400,000 - 9 days - as of August 13th, the Cumulative First Doses for April 28th now shows as 400,016 moving this a day earlier than it initially looked.
April 19th 300,000 - 12 days. As of Oct 20th, the Cumulative First Doses for April 19th now shows as 300,036, moving this a day earlier than it initially appeared.
April 7th 200,000 - 16 days from previous. As of Nov 4th, the data for April 7th now shows as 200,053 cumulative first doses. This is a day earlier than it appeared originally.
March 22nd 100,000 - 90 days from first doses administered. As of July 9th, March 22nd now shows as 100,894 moving this milestone one day earlier.
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Timeline of Cumulative 2nd Dose milestones (first one Dec 21st, 2020):
October 21st 1,000,000 - 67 days. As of December 9th, the Cumulative Second Doses for Oct 21st now shows 1,000,021. This is 6 days earlier than it originally looked. This is likely to move another day earlier within a few weeks.
August 14th 900,000 - 21 days. As of Dec 13th the Cumulative Second Doses for Aug 14th now shows 900,100 moving it 8 days earlier than it originally looked.
July 24th 800,000 - 13 days. the Cumulative Second Doses now shows as 800,023 on July 24th (as of Oct 4th) moved 2 days earlier than it originally appeared.
July 11th 700,000 - 8 days. As of Oct 12th the Cumulative Second doses now shows 700,086 moving it 3 days earlier than it initially appeared.
July 3rd 600,000 - 5 days - as of August 31st, the Cumulative Second doses now shows 600,086 moving it 2 days earlier than it originally looked.
June 28th 500,000 - 4 days. As of Oct 4th, the data for June 28th now shows 500,024. 1 day earlier than it originally appeared.
June 24th 400,000 - 5 days - as of July 9th, this moved 1 day earlier to June 24th, now showing 400,790
June 19th 300,000 - 8 days, as of Oct 4th the data for June 19th now shows 300,151. One day earlier than it appeared initially.
June 11th 200,000 - 21 days - as of July 23rd the Cumulative Second Doses now shows 200,299 moving it 1 day earlier.
May 21st 100,000 - 137 days from first Second dose administered (Jan 5th 2021) - this has moved up 6 days - As of Nov 14th, May 22nd now shows as 100,015 as the data backlog has continued to be worked on.
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Timeline of Cumulative 3rd Dose milestones (first third doses administered May 15th, 2021):
Dec 19th 200,000 - 12 days. As of Dec 23rd the Cumulative Third Doses for Dec 19th now shows 200,782 making it 2 days earlier than it initially looked.
Dec 7th 100,000 - 206 days. As of December 15th, the Cumulative Third Doses for Dec 7th now shows 100,027
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Most Data from (unless noted elsewhere):
https://manitoba.ca/covid19/vaccine/reports.html#reports
and
https://covid19tracker.ca/vaccinationtracker.html
(covid19tracker.ca has improved their data somewhat recently, still not showing 3rd doses for MB that I could see, but they have fixed the issue they did have with incorrect first doses. The percentages are a little lower - so they may be using a higher population estimate number than I am)
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Edit: added in the rest of the detail past the first chart once I had some time with a better internet connection.
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2021.12.23 10:04 virgin_fishWhat went wrong? Am I ghosted?

Recently had an experience that I am still unable to understand and come on terms with. I met this guy on Bumble, he was almost 18 years older than me but I decided to give it a shot. I'm 28 and he is 46. I am strictly looking to find a ltmarriage... and so when we matched, in our very first chats, he told me that he is looking for the same thing.
Right after our first date, he started to love-bomb me. He started to ask me out frequently (every other day), and would take me on dates around 3x a week. Good morning/good night texts, talking on phone everyday, texting many times a day, it seemed that I had found the 'one' and someone who really valued me. I started falling for his love-bombing.... i come from a broken family and so have some sort of 'daddy issues'. We came too close in just a short time and I felt like I knew him since forever. We planned our kid's names and all that stuff. He introduced me to his entire family and i got quite well with them too. I have very low-self esteem and I'm quite emotionally vulnerable and never thought someone would love me this way, so I fell hard for him. With my dad leaving my mom when i was just 2 years old, i also have fear of abandonment and an anxious attachment style. So I get emotionally attached pretty quickly.
Almost 7 weeks in, i started noticing a change in his behavior. He stopped calling everyday(wouldn't even pick up the phone when i call him), texting became less frequent and it seemed to be that something was 'off' you know that classic intuition. I started to tell him that i would love to talk to him everyday and communication is super important to me. But he would brush me off everytime saying that everything is fine and i am just overthinking it. Stuff like that. I started feeling that I am the one who is wrong and our relationship is 'perfect'. He started meeting me less frequently too (just saying he was too busy).
He would go to the gym everyday and i knew where his gym was. One evening, he called me and i couldn't pick up the phone. So i immediately called him back, however, he refused to answer my phone and said that 'he's at the gym'. My bad ( yes i am killing myself over this), since he was still on my dating app, i saw his location and it wasn't gym. Not even in the same city as his gym and he was far from there and actually in another city. I got extremely anxious and tried to frantically call him (6-7 times). And he didn't pick up the phone and instead blocked my number. I got hurt by this action and texted him the 'class break-up/hurt text' i.e. I really wanted to make it work, thanks for the good time etc. But of course i didn't mean it... i was just hurt and angry and confused.
Early in the morning, he unmatched me on Bumble. and later on I saw that he had unblocked me and I received a text from him saying that he was just at the gym. i didn't respond. Later in the night he texted me again and started gaslighting me and saying that he was just at the gym and nothing else. And that i am unfaithful/disloyal because i dumped him over the text blah blah. I tried to talk to him about it and told him that i didn't mean to dump him and it was just out of plain anger and sadness... and I was hurt that he blocked me on WhatsApp and unmatched me on Bumble.
When I told him that his action of blocking me hurt my feelings, he immediately blocked me on WhatsApp again. I didn't do or say anything as I didn't want to bother him.
The day I sent him a text and apologized to him about the 'too many calls' and 'dump text' and told him that i am really sorry. He responded to that and told me that i should never call him when he says he's at the 'gym'. I told him I understand. Later in the night I tried to talk to him and he did talk a bit. Then in the morning he told me that his mother is sick and i should pray for her. I became extremely concerned and tried to be there for him. When she got better in a few days, i asked him that i would like to bring flowers for her (as i have already met her), but he told me that he has other plans (it was a Friday evening). I also tried to invite him over my place, but he told me 'he's too busy'. I got hurt and upset but didn't react.
Later on that day I sent him a long text about how I am only looking for something serious and that i was exclusively dating him, and if we are on the same page, we can talk and communicate to make it work. But if he is not looking for the same thing, then we should be clear about it and move on so that we both have a closure.
He didn't respond.
Later that night i texted him again on WhatsApp that i would like to talk to him for a few minutes whenever he has time. he saw the message, but again no response.
It's been three days now, I have been ghosted!
He always told me that all of his exes were 'evil women' and 'crazy'... and that's why he never married any of them. I believe he will add me to that list now.
I am unable to understand what went wrong. What did I do wrong? How something that seemed to have so much potential can come to end abrupt end like this? This man claimed to wanting to marry me, made me dream about our future together introduced me to his family (that was the first time it happened to me ever), treated me better than everyone else has (i have been treated like shit and rejected many times), and suddenly ghosted me...... and doesn't even want to give closure.
I am confused, anxious and don't know how to react. I am blaming my self that i once again ruined my chances at love, i am the crazy, the psycho, the unlovable girl that's why it happened to me yet again.
Please don't be harsh in your comments. I know I wasn't supposed to frantically call him (i feel extremely guilty), and send him that breakup emotional text... I apologized to him few times too. I have decided to go for therapy before dating again. Please don't be harsh in your comments as i am already broken and unable to think clearly.
Sorry for so many grammar mistakes - i just am unable to eat drink or do anything.
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2021.12.23 01:11 YodathesexysocialistOrigin story of Yodathesexysocialist: VERY SAD! WILL MAKE YOU CRY! 200% REAL! WILL GET RELEASED ON BOLLYWOOD ONE DAY!

Many people of arrLibrandu, the most malevolent sub in the Indiaverse, have definitely heard of the Jedi libbu user named Yodathesexysocialist. He is well known for being quite a frequent commenter on this sub along with writing the most sinful and terrible fanfictions known to humankind and possibly alienkind. But not many know of the true origins of this socialist jedi libbu. They may have heard of him telling them about being him someone who is an NRI who used to watch a lot of right wing content but became liberal overtime after exposure from a based gora liberal. I am sorry to say that all these stories are not true! This is the real story of the great jedi socialist who has won the hearts of many on this sub. Your views on him MAY change after this shocking reveal of his real background.
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Yodathesexysocialist, known in his real life as Savarmodh Singh, was born in the great city of Banares on 15th August 2001. From a young age itself, Savarmodh was different from all the others. For starters, he had big ears, a small face and nose and was quite short compared to others. He was also incredibly weird. Not that this alone would be a very shocking thing since Karl Marx once took a break from simultaneously writing the communist manifesto and being a lazy entitled communist, scratched his balls using a dorito chip(because he was a lazy communist of course) and said to his wife who was next to him while he was doing all this: 'I guess we are all a bit weird on the inside'. The thing with Savarmodh though is that he was too weird for the others. While kids at his age would love playing cricket and be little shits, he would just stay at home, close his eyes and see a vision of a man wearing glasses petting him as if he was a cat. He also loved to talk backwards for whatever reason which nobody but star wars fans seemed to enjoy for whatever reason. If this was a fairytale, I would tell you that Savarmodh would stop being weird when he grew up a bit(perhaps when he became a teen) however things couldn't be further from the truth.
As he grew older, Savarmodh just became weirder and weirder until the time came when he went through puberty. That's when his visions of getting petted by the man with glasses transformed into him doing chaddi dances with the man with glasses(chaddi dance is like a lungi dance but with chaddis). Normal people his age(which was 15 around this time) also had crazy fantasies as what happens when the demon called puberty possesses us however Savarmodh's fantasies were unexplainable. And they were about to get a lot worse when he discovered a group on facebook called Love Jihad Destroyers of India.
The group was created by a virat man named Vishwa Pratap Singh and the goal of the group was to post pics of virat handsome Hindu men which would then be forwarded to 40 other people in the hopes that the naive Hindu wahmen of Bharatvarsh would see them and be dissuaded from marrying the Abduls, Aurangzebs and Tipue Sultans of Indian society. There was also a small glimmer of optimistic hope that perhaps many wahmen of other faiths such as Islam and Christianity would see the pics and do ghar wapsi in the hopes that they can marry these chad Hindu men.
Savarmodh did his best to send the pics to as many people as possible but this only made him very unpopular with others at his school. Heck before people were indifferent at best to him but now they were starting to detest him. One day, things did change for him a bit. He stopped caring about the group that much since another thing came to his life which seemed bigger than anything ever before. in his life. He had, for once in his life, fallen in love with a girl. The girl's name was Lavanya Singh and she seemed to be a witch who had exacted a charm on him for he was very heads over heels for her.
Savarmodh knew that he had to take his shot one day so he applied the best strategy that he can: he went to YouTube to search for videos on how to be an alpha male. After many minutes of hard searching, he came across a YouTube channel named Alpha Male strategies for Beta Indians. He was ecstatic. Finally, he was going to get the girl of his dreams. The channel he watched gave him many great tips. The best ones in fact. For example, how to manipulate girls, how to never give up no matter how much girls would say no and of course how to avoid rejection 100% of the time(which was in fact the end goal of the whole channel's dating coaching). Being the naive person he was, he bought into the tips and strategies and was going to try them out. This would be the biggest mistake of his life.
The next day, he went over to Lavanya's table where she was sitting with a group of friends and having a chat about how difficult the maths homework. When they saw him, they all recoiled a bit, given Savarmodh's weird reputation. Well all except Lavanya. She was more tolerant and compassionate to others and she didn't want to give in to the rumours that others spread about Savarmodh. Looking at the strategies and being confident they will work was one thing but applying them all in person was another thing which is what Savarmodh unfortunately found out as he stood before Lavanya, motionless ,completely silent and with an awkward expression on his face. Sensing the tense and awkward situation, Lavanya broke the silence and perhaps tried to see what was the matter with Savarmodh.
Lavanya: Urrr... can I help you?
Savarmodh became even more tense now as Lavanya, who he was so head over heels for, was actually speaking to him. He wanted to stay even more silent until he saw the looks on the faces of Lavanya's friends who all seemed to be glaring at him as if they wanted to beat him up. He also saw that Lavanya was getting weirded out more even more. He had to apply the strategies which were taught to him. He had to say something.
Savarmodh: Know what is harder than the math homework, do you?
As he said that, he winked which was going to be one of the biggest mistakes of his life. Lavanya turned away in disgust and simply left along with her friends who also turned away in disgust. Savarmodh was shocked and devastated to the higest order. Everything was supposed to go great since he did all which the strategies told him to. This was a big tragedy for him.
Things would go from bad to worse for Savarmodh as a week later, Lavanya started dating the absolute chad, Abdul. Abdul had everything Savarmodh didn't. Good looks, confidence and the ability to charm others. This enraged Savarmodh so much that it drove him to his breaking point. He realised that he needed to devote his life to something great now that society had rejected him(because obviously getting 'rejected' by a girl = rejection from society) and thus he started hornyposting virat Hindu men again. Along with this, his fantasies of the man with glasses smashing him came back. It was as though Lavanya had never come into his life before. This return to status quo for him wouldn't last however since when he turned 18, his life took another turn.
On his 18th birthday, he received a message from his online best friend Chintu Kumar which was a NSFW pic of the face of Savarkar attached to a bodybuilder's body. At that moment, Savarmodh had a great revelation. Perhaps that man who he always saw in his dreams was in fact Savarkar and there had always been an inner Chintu in him who loved Savarkar deeply. Perhaps this was the reality. This made him develop an obsession with Savarkar and he, in fact, printed the photo of Savarkar onto paper and made love to it in his spare time. He did this so much that it interrupted his studies greatly which is when his parents decided to try to find out what's up. One day, his mum crept up to his room only to find her beloved son licking the photoshopped picture of Savarkar. Savarmodh had been caught.
His parents decided to send him to therapy since nothing else seemed to be the solution to his behaviour. To Chintus, the idea of getting therapy itself would be ridiculous of course since checking the chakras would obviously be the superior solution but since Savarmodh and his parents lived in the Librandu city of Mumbai, Librandu sentiments seemed to overtake his otherwise Virat parents. He really did not want to do this cringe libtard thing however he knew it was no point arguing with his parents and thus he went to see the therapist at St George's therapy centre.
Upon arrival at the centre, things immediately seemed too bizzare for him for there seemed to be no other people here at this centre. There was just very old man there. Savarmodh definitely felt creeped out by all of this however, at the same time, he felt a morbid curiosity towards the man and wanted to know how a libtard therapy session goes. This would be the beginning of the end for the Virat Hindu inside Savarmodh and the rise of the Librandu inside him. Over the next 4 months, the very old man(none other than Soros) would indoctrinate him with Librandu propaganda which Savarmodh resisted at first but then, he eventually gave in to it. There were times when his resistance was definitely strong when he would sneak in a more modified and photoshopified version of Savarkar's pic and nut to it but even this would become a thing of the past when Soros had Savarmodh tortured with 10 hour long Soviet national anthem earrape in his special torture chamber.
Eventually, the inner Chaddi in Savarmodh would die and he would be reborn one day as Yodathesexysocialist. Named so because his long years, small face and nose and short stature made him seem like Yoda from star wars. And of course, the indoctrination he received at the hands of Soros would make him a socialist and very sexy.
One day, Yoda made his way over to Soros' chamber for his final 'therapy' session. This one was going to be different though as Yoda would find out.
To be continued...
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Note: None of this is real of course. This is just a ridiculous story I have come up with.
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2021.12.22 23:15 leorlevCollection of Scary/Spooky/Creepy Threads. 2021

Will include some threads not found in the other, (1, 2, 34), scary hubposts.
Scary:
  1. What the scariest true story you know? ▲69k - 24k Comments
  2. If all statues on Earth came to life and became hostile, which one would be the deadliest/scariest and be the most difficult to destroy? ▲64k - 14k Comments
  3. people who take walks at night, what's the scariest thing you've seen? NSFW ▲63k - 14k Comments
  4. What's a scary science fact that the public knows nothing about? ▲47k - 23k Comments
  5. What would be the scariest message humanity could receive from outer space? ▲41k - 13k Comments
  6. What's the scariest encounter you've had with a total stranger? NSFW ▲40k - 10k Comments
  7. What's the scariest moment in a video game you've ever had? ▲25k - 12k Comments
  8. 911 operators what call scares you till this day? NSFW ▲22k - 3k Comments
  9. What is a scary or horrifying fact that shouldn’t be true, but is? ▲22k - 13k Comments
  10. What is the scariest theory known to man? NSFW ▲17k - 7k Comments
  11. What truly scares you? NSFW ▲12k - 7k Comments
  12. What is the the scariest thing that you have ever encountered while home alone? ▲11k - 3k Comments
  13. Who is the scariest person you've ever met? ▲10k - 8k Comments
  14. People of Reddit, what is the scariest thing you think mankind has ever created? ▲10k - 4k Comments
  15. what’s the scariest experience you have been through? NSFW ▲10k - 4k Comments
  16. Hello scientists of reddit, what's a scary science fact that the public knows nothing about? ▲9k - 6k Comments
  17. Women of reddit, what are things men do that scares you but they don't realise? ▲8k - 6k Comments
  18. What is the creepiest/strangest/scariest experience you ever had in your life? NSFW ▲7k - 3k Comments
  19. If UFO's aren't aliens, and aren't hoaxes, what's the scariest scenario for what they really are? ▲7k - 6k Comments
  20. People who live rurally, what’s the scariest experience you’ve had that you can’t explain? ▲7k - 2k Comments
  21. What is something scary that has happened to you that you cannot explain rationally? ▲6k - 6k Comments
  22. People that have gone to Jail/Prison or worked there, what are your most interesting, funny, scary or gross stories? NSFW ▲6k - 1k Comments
  23. What are some of the Scariest Small Towns in America? ▲6k - 3k Comments
  24. People who have gone to summer camp as a child, what was your creepy/scary experience? NSFW ▲6k - 1k Comments
  25. Whats the scariest fact you know? ▲6k - 6k Comments
  26. What’s the strangest/scariest thing you’ve seen in the middle of the night? ▲5k - 3k Comments
  27. what is the scariest thing you have seen ever? ▲5k - 3k Comments
  28. What is the scariest book you have ever read? NSFW ▲5k - 2k Comments
  29. Botanists of reddit, what are the scariest plants in the world? ▲4k - 1k Comments
  30. Mall Santa’s of Reddit. What is the scariest thing you’ve heard a child ask for? ▲3k - 805 Comments
  31. What genuinely scares you to the core? ▲3k - 3k Comments
  32. 'Hackers' of Reddit, what are some cool/scary things about our technology that aren't necessarily public knowledge? ▲3k - 6k Comments
  33. Gamers of Reddit, what was the creepiest/scariest thing you heard someone say on their mic? ▲3k - 1k Comments
  34. What’s a true fact that that leads to scary thoughts? ▲3k - 2k Comments
  35. What’s the scariest experience you’ve ever had at a gas station or rest stop? NSFW ▲2k - 1k Comments
  36. What’s the scariest thing that’s ever happened to you? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  37. What is the scariest experience you have gone through? ▲2k - 2k Comments
  38. When driving at night, what is the scariest/most unexplainable thing you’ve ever seen? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  39. Deep woods hikers and campers, what is the strangest or scariest situation you have come across? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  40. What's the scariest or strangest thing you've seen in a National Park or National Forest? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  41. What is the scariest thing you have seen with your own eyes? ▲2k - 3k Comments
  42. What's the scariest moment you've encounter in your whole life? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  43. Frequent travelers of reddit, what's something you saw when traveling that was so scary you never went back somewhere? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  44. What is the scariest noise that you’ve heard, so scary that your body had a physical response and what made it? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  45. What were the scariest product recalls in history? ▲1k - 1k Comments
  46. What is the scariest video on the internet? NSFW ▲1k - 1k Comments
  47. What is the scariest shit you've ever came across on the Internet? NSFW ▲1k - 4k Comments
  48. What's the scariest thing you lived through? ▲1k - 1k Comments
  49. What is the scariest nightmare that you had ? NSFW ▲1k - 1k Comments
  50. What's a scary story from your childhood? NSFW ▲1k - 603 Comments
  51. What's the scariest, wierdest, most mysterious web site you ever visited? ▲1k - 3k Comments
  52. In your opinion, what is the scariest real thing on Earth? ▲1k - 1k Comments
  53. What was the scariest thing that has happened to you? ▲1k - 1k Comments
Spooky:
  1. Parents, what spooky 'past life' memory did your kid utter? ▲56k - 14k Comments
Unsettling:
  1. What are some deeply unsettling facts that you know? NSFW ▲61k - 32k Comments
  2. Dear redditors, what's the most eerie, unsettling thing you've ever encountered while hiking, and or in the woods? ▲1k - 792 Comments
Creepy:
  1. What is the Creepiest or most Unexplained thing that’s happened to you that you still think about to this day? ▲80k - 25k Comments
  2. What is perfectly legal, but creepy as hell? ▲55k - 23k Comments
  3. What's something that is romantic in movies but creepy in real life? ▲54k - 13k Comments
  4. What’s something creepy that has happened to you that you still occasionally think about to this day? ▲46k - 13k Comments
  5. What is the creepiest unexplained thing you have ever come across on the internet? ▲46k - 15k Comments
  6. What is the creepiest/most disturbing internet rabbit hole you’ve gone down, and why? NSFW ▲39k - 14k Comments
  7. Men of Reddit, what is the creepiest thing a girl has ever said or done to you? NSFW ▲28k - 11k Comments
  8. What's the most creepiest thing you've seen that you weren't supposed to see? NSFW ▲21k - 6k Comments
  9. What's a scientific fact that creeps you out? ▲17k - 10k Comments
  10. What still creeps the fuck out of you? NSFW ▲16k - 8k Comments
  11. What was the creepiest thing someone said on the first date? ▲16k - 7k Comments
  12. What are the creepiest urban legends from your area? ▲14k - 3k Comments
  13. What's your favorite creepy campfire story? ▲11k - 1k Comments
  14. What’s the creepiest thing you caught someone doing? ▲9k - 3k Comments
  15. What is the creepiest/strangest thing that has happened to you (or a friend or family member) that creeps you out to this day? ▲8k - 10k Comments
  16. As a kid, what was the creepiest, most WTF thing you ever noticed about another kid's family? ▲7k - 3k Comments
  17. Solo travelers, what is your creepiest travel story? ▲6k - 1k Comments
  18. Redditors who have a ring doorbell, what’s the creepiest thing you have caught on it? ▲6k - 2k Comments
  19. Men of reddit who had an uncomfortable encounter with a creepy woman, what is your story? ▲5k - 2k Comments
  20. People who aren't superstitious, what is something that still creeps you out/ you won't mess with? ▲5k - 3k Comments
  21. Rural folk, what is the most creepy thing you've seen or experienced? ▲5k - 2k Comments
  22. People who search ask Reddit/creepy or unexplained late at night what’s the creepiest story out there? ▲4k - 1k Comments
  23. What is the creepiest experience you’ve ever had while driving late at night/very early in the morning? ▲4k - 1k Comments
  24. What’s the creepiest unsolved mystery you know? ▲4k - 2k Comments
  25. What’s a creepy, remote, or otherwise “off-limits” place you have or would like to explore? ▲4k - 1k Comments
  26. What's the creepiest thing you've seen other families do? NSFW ▲4k - 2k Comments
  27. Whats the creepiest thing someone has ever told you? ▲3k - 2k Comments
  28. What is the nastiest or creepiest subreddit out there? NSFW
  29. What is the most creepy, unexplained event that has happened in your life? ▲3k - 2k Comments
  30. Whats a horrifying/creepy experience you have lived through? ▲3k - 2k Comments
  31. People of Reddit with security cameras, what is the creepiest thing you’ve caught on video? ▲3k - 1k Comments
  32. What is your creepiest/most unnerving experience? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  33. What was your weirdest/creepiest online experience? NSFW ▲2k - 1k Comments
  34. What was the weirdest or creepiest neighbor you had? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  35. what a creepy fact you know? ▲2k - 2k Comments
  36. What is not illegal, but is creepy? ▲2k - 2k Comments
  37. Hospital workers of Reddit, what’s the creepiest thing you’ve ever seen? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  38. Security guards of reddit, what is the creepiest thing you've seen/experience during your shift? ▲2k - 744 Comments
  39. Who is the creepiest celebrity that has yet to be publicly exposed for their past/current behavior? ▲2k - 2k Comments
  40. Parents, what weird or creepy stories do you have about your child's imaginary friend? ▲1k - 828 Comments
  41. 911 dispatchers what has been your most creepy/unnerving call? NSFW ▲1k - 744 Comments
  42. What is the weirdest or creepiest earth or space fact you know? ▲1k - 1k Comments
  43. Sailors, what’s the creepiest thing you’ve ever seen or experienced at sea? ▲1k - 841 Comments
  44. What's the creepiest thing an ex has done? ▲1k - 1k Comments
  45. What's the creepiest, most unexplainable thing that happened to you? ▲1k - 1k Comments
  46. What's the creepiest thing you've seen at your relatives house? NSFW ▲1k - 789 Comments
  47. What's something creepy that happened years ago but to this day you can't figure out why it happened? ▲1k - 1k Comments
  48. What was the creepiest thing that ever happened to you when you were at home? ▲1k - 1k Comments
  49. Hikers of Reddit, what is weirdest/creepiest thing you’ve come across while hiking? ▲1k - 1k Comments
  50. What’s the creepiest Reddit rabbit hole you’ve ever gone down? ▲1k - 783 Comments
  51. What's the creepiest/most unexplainable thing that you've ever experienced? ▲1k - 1k Comments
  52. What is the strangest/creepiest thing that has happened to you, that left you saying what the hell was that? ▲1k - 865 Comments
  53. As it's nearly Halloween, how about we share some creepy stories? I'll go first. ▲1k - 5k Comments
  54. What is one of the creepiest things you have witnessed a Girlfriend/Boyfriend has done? ▲1k - 2k Comments
  55. What is the creepiest thing that happened in the dead of night? ▲1k - 943 Comments
  56. Parents of Reddit - what's the creepiest thing your kid has ever come out with that has given you the heebies? ▲1k - 771 Comments
  57. What's the creepiest thing you've ever heard any child say? ▲1k - 912 Comments
  58. What's a creepy fact you wish you never heard? ▲1k - 1k Comments
  59. What photo has a creepy backstory? ▲1k - 914 Comments
  60. What's the creepiest experience you've ever had while camping? ▲1k - 867 Comments
Chilling:
  1. 911 operator, what is a call that got you the chills? ▲3k - 1k Comments
  2. What true, non-paranormal story gives you chills? ▲1k - 1k Comments
Paranormal:
  1. What is a supernatural event that happened in your life that just can not be explained? ▲60k - 21k Comments
  2. What is the most creepiest thing you saw even though you are very sceptical about paranormal things? ▲8k - 3k Comments
  3. What conversation or interaction with a physically normal stranger left you wondering if you'd just talked to something non-human or supernatural (like an angel/demon/ghost/alien/time traveller etc.)? ▲7k - 2k Comments
  4. What is your personal encounter with the paranormal (ghosts, aliens, sleep paralysis, glitch in the matrix, etc.)? ▲6k - 2k Comments
  5. What’s your real ghost story? ▲3k - 1k Comments
  6. What is the craziest paranormal experience you've had? ▲3k - 1k Comments
  7. What is the scariest / paranormal story you have ever experienced? NSFW ▲2k - 1k Comments
  8. What is your best ghost/paranormal experience story? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  9. Police, security guards, paramedics etc - Have you ever been called out only to realise it was a seemingly paranormal incident? ▲1k - 654 Comments
  10. Ghosthunters of Reddit, what was your scariest experience yet and why? ▲1k - 418 Comments
  11. Have you ever had an unexplained or paranormal experience? ▲1k - 2k Comments
  12. What is the most convincing video of supernatural 'proof' you've found on the Internet? ▲1k - 1k Comments
Terrifying:
Credit
  1. How do you not get completely anxious and terrified at the state of the world today? ▲9k - 3k Comments
  2. What animal, that currently doesn't fly, would be more terrifying if it did? ▲7k - 5k Comments
  3. What is something that you find terrifying that everyone finds normal? ▲5k - 4k Comments
  4. Which good guy would be absolutely terrifying as a villain? ▲4k - 3k Comments
  5. What movie would be terrifying if it was based off a true story? ▲3k - 2k Comments
  6. Doctors of Reddit, what is a disease that terrifies you but most people don’t care about? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  7. Which organism would be absolutely terrifying if it were 6 feet tall? ▲2k - 2k Comments
  8. What’s fine as a kid but terrifying as an adult? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  9. What creature would be terrifying if it was much larger? ▲1k - 2k Comments
  10. What is Your Most Terrifying 'We Need to Leave, NOW!' Rush of Fear You've Felt? ▲1k - 841 Comments
  11. What would a terrifying fact be if Pokémon were real? ▲1k - 914 Comments
  12. What is the most terrifying thing you’ve ever experienced while home alone? NSFW ▲1k - 931 Comments
  13. What was the most terrifying thing that you've experienced while staying in a hospital? ▲1k - 851 Comments
  14. What comforting quote would become terrifying if the person who wrote it turned out to be a serial killer? ▲1k - 538 Comments
Horrifying:
  1. What is socially acceptable in the U.S. That would be horrifying in the U.K.? ▲68k - 50k Comments
  2. Which punishment (either real or imagined) sounds 'light' or 'not a big deal' at first, but is actually horrific to experience? ▲51k - 16k Comments
  3. What's considered normal in Europe but horrific in America? ▲12k - 12k Comments
  4. What is the most horrific thing you've ever personally witnessed? NSFW ▲10k - 5k Comments
  5. What is something that in real life is far more horrific than the way it is depicted in movies? ▲8k - 5k Comments
  6. What was the most horrific thing you have ever seen? NSFW ▲1k - 1k Comments
  7. What movie is genuinely and utterly horrifying to the core? NSFW ▲1k - 2k Comments
  8. What is socially acceptable in the U.S. that would be horrifying in the U.K.? ▲1k - 4k Comments
Disturbing:
  1. What is the most disturbing thing to know? NSFW ▲69k - 34k Comments
  2. What is a seemingly normal photo that has a disturbing backstory? ▲58k - 16k Comments
  3. What is a disturbing fact you wish you could un-learn? NSFW ▲46k - 23k Comments
  4. What is the creepiest/most disturbing internet rabbit hole you’ve gone down, and why? NSFW ▲40k - 14k Comments
  5. What movie is so disturbing, you would never watch it again? ▲39k - 24k Comments
  6. What is a scene from a tv show that really disturbed you? NSFW ▲38k - 20k Comments
  7. rule 34 artists, what was the weirdest/ most disturbing commission you have ever received? NSFW ▲35k - 5k Comments
  8. What is a fact you know off the top of your head (preferably disturbing) that you probably shouldn’t know? NSFW ▲32k - 16k Comments
  9. What was the most disturbing thing found in a video game? NSFW ▲29k - 9k Comments
  10. What’s the most disturbing movie you have ever seen? NSFW ▲24k - 14k Comments
  11. What a song has a beautiful sound but a disturbing meaning? ▲23k - 14k Comments
  12. What is the weirdest/most disturbing fact about our worlds history that you know? NSFW ▲13k - 6k Comments
  13. What is the most disturbing true crime story you know? NSFW ▲10k - 3k Comments
  14. What's the most disturbing thing you did as a child? NSFW ▲7k - 4k Comments
  15. Teachers who zoom classes, what’s the most disturbing thing you’ve seen on a student’s zoom? ▲5k - 1k Comments
  16. What “kids” show gets more disturbing as you get older? ▲4k - 2k Comments
  17. What is the most disturbing thing you can say to a Jehovah's witness/Mormon missionaries at your doorstep? NSFW ▲4k - 2k Comments
  18. Parents of Reddit, what is the most disturbing thing your child has done? NSFW ▲3k - 1k Comments
  19. What is the most disturbing secret you know but can’t say anything about it? NSFW ▲3k - 2k Comments
  20. What's the most disturbing thing you know happened in real life that sounds like a horror movie? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  21. What's the most disturbing text message you got? NSFW ▲1k - 1k Comments
  22. What was a disturbing sign that your friend might have a broken moral compass? ▲1k - 1k Comments
  23. Sex-Ed teachers of Reddit, what was the one most disturbing question or class you’ve ever taught? NSFW ▲1k - 865 Comments
Dark:
  1. 'Once you were old enough, what were the dark family secrets you were finally let in on?' NSFW ▲76k - 20k Comments
  2. What are some dark secrets about the porn industry? NSFW ▲48k - 12k Comments
  3. What are some of dark events happened in history not many people know about? ▲46k - 11k Comments
  4. What's a company that's viewed pretty positively today but has a dark DARK history? ▲7k - 3k Comments
  5. What dark moment in a kid show threw you off-guard? ▲5k - 4k Comments
  6. what is your towns dark secret? ▲3k - 2k Comments
  7. What movie is considered for kids, but has intense and dark moments that it shouldn’t be? ▲3k - 3k Comments
  8. What's a niche, unassuming hobby that has a surprising dark side to it? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  9. What villain in a kid show was surprisingly dark? ▲1k - 1k Comments
Nightmare:
  1. People with nightmare siblings: what’s the most fucked up thing they ever did? NSFW ▲46k - 9k Comments
  2. Who has ever had a wet nightmare (if that's even possible)? What was it that made it a nightmare? NSFW ▲10k - 2k Comments
  3. What extinct creature would be an absolute nightmare for humans if it still existed? ▲5k - 2k Comments
  4. What are your worst nightmare neighbour conflict stories? ▲2k - 1k Comments
  5. What is the scariest nightmare that you had ? NSFW ▲1k - 1k Comments
Misc:
  1. Victims of sleep paralysis, what was your run-in with the sleep paralysis demon like? ▲2k - 4k Comments
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2021.12.22 22:13 Wpg-PolarBear-5092Manitoba Covid Vaccination data for December 22nd - Age 5+ First Dose 86.40% (+0.13%)**, Second dose 79.58% (+0.04%)**, Third Dose 16.88% (+1.28%)**, Total doses administered 2,378,890 (+18,882), doses delivered to MB 3,035,710 (+62,000)

Data Issue: MB Shared Health appear to be just 'publishing' the cumulative total doses now. So there is still a data backlog, which the 2nd chart shows how much the data changes day over day.
Doses Scheduled for Today : 7,601 (Supersites, Focused Immunization Teams, Pop-up Clinics)
StatAmount (daily change)
People administered at least one dose1,123,973 (+1,699)
Percentage Aged 5+ Vaccinated (1 dose)86.40% (+0.13%) [84.6%]**
People 'Fully Vaccinated' (2 doses)1,035,300 (+495)
Percentage Aged 5+ With 2 Doses79.58% (+0.04%) [78.2%]**
People with 3 Doses219,617 (+16,688)
Percentage Aged 5+ With 3 Doses16.88% (+1.28%) [16.8%]**
Percentage of MB Population 'Fully Vaccinated'74.82% (+0.04%)
Total doses administered2,378,890 (+18,882)
Doses administered per 100k population171,914.31 (+1,364.54)
Total doses delivered to MB3,035,710 (+62,000)
Percentage of doses administered78.36% (more doses arrived)
**The Percentages will be based on MB Shared Health published population numbers from the Technical Briefing from May 28th (page 6) - Eligible Population 12+ = 1,175,703, and Total MB Population as 1,383,765 (Stats Canada Q3 2021 estimate) going forward. Eligible Population 5+ estimated at 1,300,910 (with data on population by Age from MB Shared Health June 1st 2020). The 'Official' Percentage from the Reports page will be posted as well in the square brackets, but they are consistently lower than they should be according to MB Health's own published vaccination & population data. It may be data they have, but don't publish about how many vaccinated are actually Manitoban's
'Fully Vaccinated' = 2 doses for now.
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From the 'Current Situation' Page today (https://manitoba.ca/covid19/updates/index.html) : 55,426 first doses given to children ages five to 11. This represents 44.3 per cent of children in that age group.
It was also released as Covid Bulletin #544 after I had loaded the News Releases pages the last time (which is a more permanent link) - https://news.gov.mb.ca/news/index.html?item=53021&posted=2021-12-22
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First Nations data last updated 'December 16' - Previous update Dec 9nd.
Total Doses Administered: 255,338 (+22,791 from last week), number of doses allocated no longer posted.
On Reserve Population:
With 2 doses: 90.6% (previous weeks: 74.1%, 88.5%, 88.5%, 87.4%, 86.6%).
With 3 Doses: 13.9% (new this week)
Off Reserve Population:
with 2 Doses: 46% (previous weeks: 97.6%, 70.4%, 70.2%, 69.3%, 68.5%)
With 3 Doses: 9% (new this week)
from https://geoportal.gov.mb.ca/app/c37bd19db9de4fbeafbc6061ec9c0524
First dose data was removed from the dashboard for the First Nations this week.
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This next chart tries to show the data backlog in a more clear way. The 'Updated Cumulative Total' is a combination of the Cumulative First Dose + Second Dose from the MB Gov Covid Vaccinations Reports page. I added the Cumulative 3rd Dose yesterday, and for now to show how the Cumulative Total jumped from a couple of days ago with this new data.
DateCumulative 3rd DoseUpdated Cumulative TotalOriginally PublishedDifference from Originally PublishedChange from Previous Days numbersUpdated Daily Administered
Dec 21st219,6172,378,8902,378,8900-8,929
Dec 20th211,4982,369,9612,360,008+9,953+9,95313,073
Dec 19th199,2462,356,8882,345,656+11,232+6,0575,364
Dec 18th194,4132,351,5242,342,584+8,940+5,91911,886
Dec 17th184,0712,339,6382,332,254+7,384+4,68615,281
Dec 16th170,7202,324,3572,312,458+11,899+2,17415,864
Dec 15th156,9412,308,4932,297,218+11,275+1,50914,629
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March 28th2192,560173,548+19,012+3-
All dates other than Dec 9th to 13th (which had the unusual +100,000 blip of announced total doses that was then removed on the 14th) are showing higher Cumulative Totals (which now includes 3rd doses) than the number of Total Doses Administered that was originally provided by MB Shared Health. March 28th is the date I started tracking the cumulative first doses and 'originally published' totals - Data going back past March 28th is still being entered.
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Average Daily Doses Administered for the last few weeks (Mon to Sun Daily Administered/7)
Week of Dec 13th to 19th: 12,166 (Originally Published numbers give an average of 13,235 estimated - had to re-calculate because of the 100,000 reduction during this week from the previous week, otherwise it was -1,243)
Week of Dec 6th to Dec 12th: 7,623 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 7,014. (Had to re-calculate the originally published numbers to deal with the 100,000 bump in numbers, this dropped the average from 21,299)
Week of Nov 29th to Dec 5th: 6,262 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 6,077.
Week of Nov 22nd to 28th: 4,156 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 3,765.
Week of Nov 15th to 21st: 2,198 (Originally Published numbers give an average of 2,343)
Week of Nov 8th to 14th: 2,204 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 2,177.
Big jump in recent weeks with the 3rd doses being added. Each are still increasing day over day as data backlog is slowly caught up.
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Eligibility updated September Dec 10th (Previously updated on the Nov 19th)
Updated - December 10, 2021
First Doses: 'A pediatric Pfizer vaccine has been approved for children aged five to 11. Manitoba has expanded vaccine eligibility to this age group.
Parents and caregivers can make first and second dose appointments for eligible children online or by calling 1-844-626-8222. This vaccine is also available from medical clinics, pharmacies and other locations
Children must be five years old at the time the appointment for the first dose is booked. The interval between first and second doses must be a minimum of eight weeks, or a minimum of 21 days for children living in First Nations communities.'
and for Third Doses:
NEW: To ensure the strongest immune response possible, the timeline between the second and third dose is being shortened for some individuals. Anyone aged 60 or older or those aged 18 or older who live in a First Nations community who received their second dose on or before July 10 are now strongly encouraged to receive their third dose.
A six month timeframe between second and third doses continues to be recommended for most other eligible Manitobans.
Individuals who are moderately to severely immunocompromised or have travel plans to a destination that only accepts certain vaccines or combinations of vaccine require a prescription to receive a third dose earlier than six months, unless they meet the criteria noted above. This approach is not based on an increased risk related to travel generally, or travel to certain destinations. For clarity, if you received two doses of the same mRNA vaccine, you should not be offered a third dose earlier than six months for travel.
Visit the Eligibility-Criteria link below to see full details.
There is now a recommended 56 days wait between 1st & 2nd doses (minus time frame remains at 28 days), and 6 months between 2nd & 3rd doses (booster).
https://www.gov.mb.ca/covid19/vaccine/eligibility-criteria.html
https://manitoba.ca/covid19/vaccine/finder.html
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The Manitoba Covid-19 vaccine booking website is live (still requires you to be eligible):https://patient.petalmd.com/login?groupId=6032
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'Manitobans who have received the COVID-19 vaccine can now access their immunization record online' 'Individuals who are fully vaccinated can now request a digital or physical immunization card'
'Effective today, individuals without access to the internet can call 1-844-MAN-VACC (1-844-626-8222) and follow the prompts to request their immunization card.'
https://www.gov.mb.ca/covid19/vaccine/immunization-record.html
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Timeline of Cumulative 1st Dose milestones (from Dec 1st, 2020):
Dec 7th - 1,100,000 - 98 days - as of Dec 15th, the Cumulative First Doses for Dec 7th now shows as 1,100,232. This is now 2 days earlier than it originally appeared.
Sept 1st - 1,000,000 - 65 days - as of Nov 19th, the Cumulative First Doses now shows as 1,000,122 for Sept the 1st. (7 days earlier than it looked like it would have been originally). This is still likely to move another day earlier within a couple of weeks or so.
June 29th - 900,000 - 24 days - as of Dec 6th, the Cumulative First Doses now shows 900,033 for June 29th - this is 7 days earlier than it looked originally.
June 5th - 800,000 - 11 days - as of Sept 6th, the Cumulative First Doses now shows 800,428, now 3 days earlier than it looked originally.
May 25th 700,000 - 8 days - as of Sept 28th, the Cumulative First Doses for May 25th now shows 700,146.
May 17th 600,000 - 8 days - as of Oct 25th May 8th now shows as 600,081, 2 days earlier than it looked.
May 9th 500,000 - 11 days - May 9th now shows as 500,109 first doses (updated October 18th to reflect this) This is now 2 days earlier than it originally appeared.
April 28th 400,000 - 9 days - as of August 13th, the Cumulative First Doses for April 28th now shows as 400,016 moving this a day earlier than it initially looked.
April 19th 300,000 - 12 days. As of Oct 20th, the Cumulative First Doses for April 19th now shows as 300,036, moving this a day earlier than it initially appeared.
April 7th 200,000 - 16 days from previous. As of Nov 4th, the data for April 7th now shows as 200,053 cumulative first doses. This is a day earlier than it appeared originally.
March 22nd 100,000 - 90 days from first doses administered. As of July 9th, March 22nd now shows as 100,894 moving this milestone one day earlier.
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Timeline of Cumulative 2nd Dose milestones (first one Dec 21st, 2020):
October 21st 1,000,000 - 67 days. As of December 9th, the Cumulative Second Doses for Oct 21st now shows 1,000,021. This is 6 days earlier than it originally looked. This is likely to move another day earlier within a few weeks.
August 14th 900,000 - 21 days. As of Dec 13th the Cumulative Second Doses for Aug 14th now shows 900,100 moving it 8 days earlier than it originally looked.
July 24th 800,000 - 13 days. the Cumulative Second Doses now shows as 800,023 on July 24th (as of Oct 4th) moved 2 days earlier than it originally appeared.
July 11th 700,000 - 8 days. As of Oct 12th the Cumulative Second doses now shows 700,086 moving it 3 days earlier than it initially appeared.
July 3rd 600,000 - 5 days - as of August 31st, the Cumulative Second doses now shows 600,086 moving it 2 days earlier than it originally looked.
June 28th 500,000 - 4 days. As of Oct 4th, the data for June 28th now shows 500,024. 1 day earlier than it originally appeared.
June 24th 400,000 - 5 days - as of July 9th, this moved 1 day earlier to June 24th, now showing 400,790
June 19th 300,000 - 8 days, as of Oct 4th the data for June 19th now shows 300,151. One day earlier than it appeared initially.
June 11th 200,000 - 21 days - as of July 23rd the Cumulative Second Doses now shows 200,299 moving it 1 day earlier.
May 21st 100,000 - 137 days from first Second dose administered (Jan 5th 2021) - this has moved up 6 days - As of Nov 14th, May 22nd now shows as 100,015 as the data backlog has continued to be worked on.
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Timeline of Cumulative 3nd Dose milestones (first one May 15th, 2021):
Dec 21st 200,000 - 14 days.
Dec 7th 100,000 - 206 days. As of December 15th, the Cumulative Second Doses for Dec 7th now shows 100,027
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Most Data from (unless noted elsewhere):
https://manitoba.ca/covid19/vaccine/reports.html#reports
and
https://covid19tracker.ca/vaccinationtracker.html
(covid19tracker.ca has some issues with their data & percentages lately, for example their 'doses delivered' has been behind by a day or two. Then the percentages of at least one dose is high because they make a bad assumption that the 'Total Doses Administered' minus the 'Cumulative 2nd doses' = the number who have received at least one dose. Which should be true, but because of the MB Shared Health data backlog it isn't accurate, this means they consistently have the numbers for first doses higher than the actual data shows, which means their percentage of population or age 12+ population is higher than it should be. This issue has become bigger with 3rd doses not being accounted for either)
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2021.12.22 20:05 citiestarlightsWas I crazy? Was I being abused?

Hello....i guess i get a low point and think that i was the mean and evil one in the relationship.....
I should start from the beginning
i was in a three long relationship. the first two was great! I really did love this person.
But i do have screenshots. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1bLLfPuEuWdzS-flAaLydigEYCFbhAtYJzycnenyo01U/edit?usp=sharing
i want to put in more. however, i dont know how to make them bigger without making it look like is blurry.
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But in 2020 a girl named S got raped by this guy named K. you can read his text messages. I took her to the cops and I also stayed that K also Sa me as well. It was at my ex's house while his friends were all watching, after me and S reported it. My ex and his friends said that S was getting money and getting famous. (she is still waiting for a trail 2 years later) I should note that k did go to the hospital after he r4p3 s. he tried to commit suicide.
at the time i started to question the group. I will say that this was very normal behavior. K was a 30 year old man. He and his friends, who were also 25-30 year old men only dated 16 year olds. K dated this girl named G. G was raped by D when she was a minor. D was the one telling k that girls always changed their minds. Additionally, the group said that G was evil and manipulative. G was a 16 year old girl. the group was all men who were 30. When i was around her i felt like she was a good person. THese guys would live in Pa drive to N's house who lived 2 hours away in Pa to play dnd. These adult men would drive these girls there.
Furthermore, my ex's closes friend named N. Dated a girl with Asperger's. He broke up with her. Then he called back saying that he missed her and wanted back together. she flat out said that he was mean to her. N told everyone that she was evil and mean. I questioned my ex about it saying why was she mean. He only could give me the answer because she was mean. But i was asking what did she do. he just shrugged and said just because.
As time passed I kept questioning the group.
I was asking my then partner can you please not be around K and his friends who said it was ok being around k. He told me I was mean and evil person. No one will ever ask someone to do that, i felt so guilty for asking that i did not talk to anyone. I locked myself away. and talked to no one for a whole year. I only went to his place that was it. During that year, I was questioning him and his actions. I was wondering why would a men who was 22 with his friends who were all 25- 30 year old men only being around 16 year old girls. No girl was older then 18. i felt off about this one girl who was 16. She would always make fun of me because i did not want to spend money on games, he would always ditch me to be with her. And when i would ask about adult fun time. he said no he would be taking her soon. I know what i did was wrong but i did go through his phone. I saw their text messages they sent to each other, They were saying i love you's and sending hearts. and he was being lovely dovey with her. i was heart broken. i spent a whole year crying and asking him can please stop seeing her. He would say you are breaking up a friendship. you are evil. he would always have other women's jewelry in his car. i did not say anything. but he as the one picking it up and say 'wow i never seen this where did this come from?'
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I felt like i was the other women. i would always beg him to be around. but he would rather be with his friends. in the relationship it was getting worse. I hope this is not to bad....to say here.....
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some stories, I have a history of a family's member calling me up and sayin if you do not sleep with me ill kill you and how i r4p3 you and another cousin. yes i told. no people did not do anything to protect me. Well my mom invited family over. I knew it was happening in a 2 months, I told him what was happening crying. asking for help. He told me 'I have dnd. Go ask someone else.' Now this was normal. His mom had a birthday that fell when he would play dnd. furthermore, he ditched her birthday to play dnd. And she was crying. He would always ditch his family parties to go play dnd. I did ask friends for help. Who was away in north Carolina. I was hanging out with their parents. I was petting chickens and playin with their dogs. I know this is horroble. I told him that i wanted him to be with me., but he said how i had his friends backs. and he was having fun at dnd.
Another example, before covid i did not have enough money to get food. So you would go to local places that gave poor people food. (he knew he saw me get bags ) During covid i did not have enough money to get food. I did not eat for weeks, I was begging him food everyday. He did not care,..
I bruised my metatarsal bones that broke years ago when I slid into a tree. I could not walk. he had to care me into the shower. when i was in there he would always pee on me. He would sit there and laugh and say you deserve this. I would silently cry. He did this multiple times when we took a shower, and there is video of me and him in his back yard. I was running around playing with his sweet dog. I got tired so i laid down under their tree that was half way up a small hill. I was out of breath. He walked over he said ' i have to take a dump' he turned around and acted like he was taking off his pants. I screamed and said do not ever do again. he looked scared. his parents were in the kitchen looking at us. He went inside,. I sat outside thinking i was a horrible person. i ruined our relationship. i was a evil gf. a horrible gf. i was trying my best.
He would always leave a text message saying you are making me stop talking to my friends.!! I felt horrible....I sat there and cry thinking that i was a horrible person. i would call. and text him but he did not answer for hours and hours!! i felt so horrible. i felt like i deserved it. he would answer back saying 'oh i had a bad brian. i got really depressed.' this time he was back in person with his dnd group. they would all hang out all weekend. and he would not come home until sunday night. SO i dont understand how i was stop him from being around his friends...when even at times i stop talking to him for hours......he was the only person i would talk to.....and i hated it i felt sooo sad saying i love you to him.
the thing was i was calling him out for what he did.. sometimes he would say yah....i know. i know i keep hurting you. to you are crazy i never did anything like that. you are crazy you are thinking badly!!
i had no idea what to do so i went to his parents and his good friends and told everything. his mom was crying. i showed the police report. the other victims and wanted to make it clear i wanted my ex top have a good happy life. not be around questionable men. He had a 16 year old sister at home i did not want her to be around these guys who still hang out with k. at a JULY PARTY one of ex's good friends said fuck k. my ex pulled me close and said 'do they know about k? did you tell mthem anything!!'
'no. they do not know.' i lied.
the next day. i told him what k did. i found out that k was still in the group. my ex and k were best friends. the group still had a group of minors. My ex said his friends would get girls across the county to stay at k's house. i really wanted my ex to get away from these guys and was begging can you please stop talking to his friends who are ok with k. my ex said they kick k out.
but my ex broke up with me a few day later. and i see that my ex's friends still hang out with k around town.
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i did meet another girls who were hurt by the group.. who my ex paid to have sex with. he gave her money. but his *cough* was to small. she could not do it. he would call and leave threating voicemails and messages saying he would hurt himself if she did not have s3x with him.
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even after 6 months later i can still hear him say i am evil and mean......i still cry and hurt thinkin about what my ex did....
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2021.12.22 18:35 ginandjets[RF] First Year in College

To the people who seem happy all the time, may this bring some color to your monochromatic abyss.
My dad was a Lieutenant Colonel in the Air Force. He was everything a dad could be. Being in the Air Force he wasn’t home very much when I was growing up. But when he was home we made the most of our time together. He would come to all of my basketball practices and games, help me with my homework, and we would watch the Atlanta Braves on the couch whenever we could. We would always take a family vacation when he got back from deployment. My fondest memory was when I was in 5th grade and I got called up to front office. To my surprise I saw my dad in uniform and my mom, she was crying as usual. In instantly ran to embrace him and my mother. He had just returned a month early from Afghanistan. They pulled me out of school and we hopped in my dad’s F-150 to go camping near the base of the Appalachian Trail for a long weekend. I don’t know how he did it, he spent the last six months living in less than optimal conditions and still wanted to go sleep outside and eat mediocre food. I guess it wasn’t where he was sleeping but who he was sleeping with. I remember him pointing out constellations and making up funny names for cloud formations as I laid between my mom and dad in our open air tent. My mom’s crying never really stopped on that vacation. I soon realized why, my dad was sent home early because he was diagnosed with terminal cancer and passed later that fall. My mom had the hardest time adjusting. She had to go back to work. She worked at the public library during the day and waited tables at my favorite restaurant, The Diner, most nights. Life didn’t seem that bad to me. I was surrounded by books and had a quiet place to go after school. Then I got to go to dinner at The Diner. I got to pick nearly whatever I wanted on or off the menu. I would always ask for a side of fries, unfortunately all the waitresses knew I really meant “seasonal vegetables”. Luckily the cook, Jared, would sneak some fries for me back in the kitchen and usually paired it with a slice of pie. Everyone knew he was sneaking me unhealthy food, but when we would get caught he would loudly proclaim, “Jack is a growing boy and needs to put on weight for football, Jack made me do it!” I didn’t play football, I wasn’t allowed, but growing up in the south and being above average height for my age all the coaches wanted me to come test the waters. My mom wouldn’t have it. She gave up everything for me, my life was her life, my future was her future. After my dad passed we were all we had. We continued to say farewell to all of the people that had surrounded us for the last 18 years of our lives, but I didn’t care about them. I wanted to spend as much time as I could with Lilly and Max. The three of us hopped in my Dad’s old F-150 and began to drive around town. We had offers to attend the hundreds of graduation after parties but none of us had any interest. We just drove. We talked about what we wanted to do in our final summer together. Max only had a few months before he went to basic training. Max was very smart, but got easily distracted and bored in High School, needless to say he didn’t have much interest in further education. Lilly was brilliant, she made it into every college she applied to, to include George Washington University. I barely made it into the University of Georgia, my mom couldn’t afford to send me out of state. Despite Lilly and my arguments, she wanted to go to UGA to be with me. I half-heartedly told her to go to George Washington a hundred times, but she refused and decided to go with me. I wasn’t disappointed. Lilly and I had known each other since I moved to Georgia in 4th grade. I was sat next to her on the first day of class. She was so nice and welcoming. Being a quieter military brat, making friends was always harder for me and unfortunately the moves occurred too often. Lilly was so pretty. That first day of recess I decided to swing by myself. Being alone didn’t last long, Lilly was quick to occupy the swing next to me. We didn’t say much that first day as we swung. While in line a lunch, Lilly stood right in front of me, she motioned to me to follow her to the table. That is where I met Max, he wasn’t in our class but Lilly and him were neighbors. Max was quick to show his nonconventional intelligence as he launched french-fries across the lunchroom using different utensils to see which device could hurl them further. Such a waste of French fries. I slowly opened up to both of them throughout the next couple of weeks and from that moment forward we were inseparable. Lilly and Max were the only people who I would let see me cry that autumn and winter of 5th grade. I trusted them with everything. As we moved into middle school I became very protective of Lilly. Being as pretty as she was I was the first to intervene when another boy attempted to talk to her. I loved her and she knew that. Max knew it too, he had no interest in her nor any girl at that time. Max was our third wheel; he was the front wheel of our trike. He made our lives interesting and repeatedly gave us “great” ideas as we followed him on the countless adventures.
Lilly was in class, but I was able to muster the strength to take myself. Parking on campus was always terrible. All of the students realized they could park at the clinic in the spots reserved for sick patients and not pay for a parking pass or get ticketed. Knowing this, I walked. It was a miserable fall day, grey skies with a light cold drizzle. The walk over was refreshing but exhausting. I sat in the sick section of the waiting room. I refused to touch the disgusting magazines laying on all the end tables. I got called in the patient room, the nurse was quiet despite my efforts to lighten the mood. Soon the doctor entered. He sternly looked at me and said, “Before I tell you anything, I need to ask you if you have insurance. If you don’t have insurance, you need to get some and soon.” My heart sank. I told the doctor I did have excellent insurance, my father was in the military and passed on all of his benefits after his death. A slight look of relief appeared in the doctor’s eyes. “What is wrong?” I asked eagerly. “The blood work came back and your body is attacking itself, the lab results are congruent with cancer” the doctor stated. I stared, completely shocked, in utter disbelief. I couldn’t find any words, I just sat there, frozen. All I could think about was my mom, Max and of course Lilly. What would I say to them? How do I tell them? I soon left the doctor with a referral to the hospital. As soon as I got back to the dorm Lilly texted me. I didn’t know what to say, I ignored it, something I have never done before. Thirty minutes later, I hear a knock on my door, I recognized it as Lilly’s. I heard her voice asking if I was there. I ignored it as I sat there with tears running down my face. The next day I drove myself to my appointment at the hospital. This hospital was more depressing than the clinic at our school. The magazines scattered throughout the room were either four-year-old national geographic or medical magazines filled with insurance adds and new treatments to ask your doctor about, at least I could touch these magazines, cancer isn’t contagious. I approached the counter to be greeted by a nice southern lady. When she made eye contact with me she looked around, as if I was here with someone else. It was just me I said. Her eyes instantly turned to a look of grief. I was asked to fill out a book’s worth of papers. On the last page it asked for an emergency point of contact, I left it blank. I had more blood work done, and an MRI. This time I was told to wait for the results. I sat in the abysmal room, it had two chairs. I recognized the larger chair as a similar one my dad sat in those years ago while receiving chemo treatment. I chose to sit in the normal waiting room chair. My phone was blowing up all day, Lilly kept begging me to talk to her. I don’t know how long I could go ignoring her. The doctor eventually came in with the results. “Jack, how are you doing?” She asked. I told her I had been better. She smirked in an agreeing manner. “Jack, you have cancer and you don’t have many options. We can try chemo therapy, but to be honest, the cancer is at stage four.” I remembered that stage three was what my dad got sent home with and he hardly made it to stage five. “How long do you think I have?” I asked. “Three to four months, I am sorry Jack” My phone vibrated, I knew who it was, but I couldn’t even look at it. “We can offer you medication to cope with your symptoms too,” the doctor said. I looked at the doctor and said, “I don’t want treatment, I will take the medicine though.” The bewildered look on the doctor, as if she had just watched an eighteen-year-old quit, everything. I left the hospital with the medication in hand. I had been given some pain killers and some anti-nausea medicine to help combat the pain killers side effects. My phone vibrated again, this time Lilly was calling me. I answered. She frantically asked me tons of questions and exclaimed how worried she was. I instantly lied. I said I had slipped and dropped my phone on the way to the doctor’s office yesterday and I am at the Verizon store now. She calmed down and asked how I was feeling. I lied again. I am feeling fine, much better. I asked her if she wanted to go to dinner. She happily agreed and we decided to meet at the cafeteria at 6:00. Immediately after the conversation, I threw my phone on the ground and went to the Verizon store. Thank God for phone insurance. Dinner was hard. I wanted to tell her, tell someone, so bad. I couldn’t. The medicine made me feel almost normal, a little loopy, but almost normal. I walked Lilly back to her room. She invited me in to spend the night as usual. I declined and said I needed to do some work for the classes I had missed this week. She acknowledged and asked if she could help. I declined. She said I love you. I looked at her, said goodbye and gave her a kiss on the cheek. The next day I didn’t go to class, instead I went to the dean’s office. Who would have known the secret to getting a 4.0 GPA was to bring a note to the dean’s office saying you have cancer? The dean said I would receive full credit for the semester and I could stop classes now and come back when I was better. I really appreciated the dean’s optimism on the current situation, but I knew I wasn’t coming back. I asked the dean to not send any letters home nor send out my end of semester transcripts. The dean assured me he wouldn’t. I asked if I could stay on campus while I am receiving treatment. The dean didn’t know I was refusing treatment. He happily obliged to my request and said my grants and tuition assistance would cover me until the end of the semester. Day to day I continued taking my medicine, I continued to act like I was going to class, I continued to see Lilly. Every few days I would call home and tell my mom how classes were going. Everyone was oblivious. Finally, Thanksgiving fall break came around. Lilly and I drove home together. Max was going to be at home for four days during the holidays. I figured this week would be a good week to tell everyone. On the way home the car ride was a little quieter than normal. I asked Lilly if she wanted to do a nice date night in Atlanta. She smiled, and I could see her excitement. I selfishly wanted one more good memory with her. We had talked about all of our favorite restaurants, she wanted to go to the Cheesecake factory. I told her I wanted to go to something nicer, somewhere we have never been before, somewhere expensive. She grew more excited. We decided to go to Fogo-de-Chao, a Brazilian steak house, which had the highest review on Yelp. We set the date for Friday after Thanksgiving. Perfect, it allowed my stomach to expand after Thanksgiving dinner. Thanksgiving was great. My mom and I ate with everyone from the Diner, Jared and I cooked. After dinner Lilly, Max, and their parents came over for dessert. I thought now would be good time to tell everyone about my cancer, but I couldn’t do it. Everyone was so happy. I decided to wait until Saturday after Lilly and my date. Everyone had heard of our date and were very excited for us. Lilly’s dad didn’t know how a poor college student could afford such a nice dinner. Dessert wrapped up, everyone was miserably full from the eating event I call Thanksgiving. We said goodbye to Max, Lilly, their families, and the Diner crew. After dinner my mom and I sat down and talked. She asked, with a smile, if there was anything important going on in my life. I told her no and how it looked like I was going to get a 4.0GPA this semester. She was happy but a little disappointed. That night, Max texted me. He asked, “Did her father say yes?” Oh fuck. I am a fucking idiot. Everyone thinks I am going to ask Lilly to marry me tomorrow night. I told him, “I am not going to ask her bro, we are way too young and I don’t want to mess up college for us.” He said, “You are an idiot, you have known her for 10 years and dated for 8.” I willingly admitted to being an idiot and left it at that. That night I said my prayers for the first time in a while. I wasn’t praying for myself, I was praying for everyone I loved. I prayed for Lilly, Max and my mom and that they forgive and respect my decisions. The next day I drove to Lilly’s house to pick her up for dinner. I was wearing slacks and a button down shirt. Lilly’s dad answered the door, with a stern look on his face. His face slowly broke into a smile as he punched me in the arm. He said, “It is ok… you can smile.” Behind him Lilly walked down the stairs. She was beautiful, drop dead gorgeous. She wore a black dress and black high heels. She had borrowed her mom’s pearl earrings and necklace which brought out her smile even more than it typically gleamed. I couldn’t breathe. I just starred. My eyes began to water. I held in the tears. Lilly’s mom began to cry. Lilly was clearly embarrassed and quickly rushed us out the door. We drove to dinner. Lilly holding my hand the whole way. The restaurant was incredible. It was everything the yelp reviews said it would be. I ordered a bottle of sparkling water for our table. I could hardly eat, knowing what was coming tomorrow. Lilly was just as nervous. When Lilly went to the restroom, I quickly slipped some more pain killers hoping it would let me get through this night. It did, I felt great. She lightened up, we had the time of our lives, well the time of my life. After dinner we found a gelato place. It was too cold outside for gelato but I gave Lilly my jacket and I couldn’t feel anything from the pain killers anyway. On the way home, Lilly still held my hand the whole way. Our graduation song came on the radio. She smiled and began to sing it out loud and squeezed my hand to the beat of the music. She sung the line, “Can you tell me what was ever really special about me all this time?” It was like I hit a wall when I heard those lyrics coming from her mouth. I could go on for hours telling her what was really special about her. I couldn’t say a word for the rest of ride home. We got out of the car, Lilly invited me inside for the night. All I could do was stare at her. She asked me what was wrong. I couldn’t speak. She asked if I was ok. I hesitantly said, “No, things aren’t ok.” She grew nervous, “What is wrong?” She asked. I looked at her and said, “I don’t love you.” My heart sank, the darkest deepest place it has ever been. She looked at me with a destroyed look on her face. At that very instant I had to convince myself I didn’t love the most amazing girl in the world. I kept saying, “Lilly, I am sorry, I don’t love you.” She fell down in tears. I couldn’t bear to watch. I coldly said I am sorry and turned around. As I turned tears began to flow down my face. I quickly got in my car. I couldn’t drive home. I drove to our old field, the one with the oak tree. I walked down our tree and sat there. My phone began to blow up. Lilly tried to call me. My mom tried to call me. I ignored them. Max finally text me, “WTF BRO! What is wrong with you! You just threw away the best thing to ever happen to you!” he didn’t know anything. I was so angry at myself. This was the only way through. Everyone can live happily ever after, except for me. All I could say was, “Fuck you Max.” I continued to sit under the tree and cry. What do I do next? I sat there until morning. I didn’t go home, I drove back up to school that Saturday morning ignoring phone calls and text messages the whole ride home. All I could think about was what to do next. I can’t tell anyone about the cancer. Just let them live. I got to school and walked into my dorm room. I sat on my bed thinking about everything that transpired. I walked down the hall with some of my pain killers. I knock on a stranger’s door, the one that always smelled like weed. The sketchy guy opened the door and let me in. “I need to get high” I was prepared to barter as I showed him my pain killers and he let me in. “I am Zak” he said. I introduced myself. We began to exchange medication. He asked me if I wanted to light up right then and there. I conceded and we hit his glass bong. This was the first time I had ever smoked before. The weed was an incredible high, I wish the doctors had just prescribed it to me. Zak and I began to talk, I told him nothing. It was just nice to be human again. We played Call of Duty for a few hours. Then we broke into my pain killers. We just sat there completely immobile but laughing uncontrollably. It had been too long since I laughed. Sunday night came around, all the students came back from their homes and miserably occupied their dorm rooms to prepare for the remaining month of school. I continued to hang out with Zak. No one knew where to find me. Zak seemed equally happy to enjoy my company or at least my pain killers. I didn’t go to class that week; after all I was guaranteed straight A’s regardless of my attendance. I went back to my room when Zak went to class. A few times Lilly and Max came to my door. I ignored them. When I wasn’t high, I felt horrible. I could feel the cancer destroying my insides. I couldn’t move. The only motivation I had to move was to go over to Zak’s to smoke weed and get high from my pain killers. Friday night came around Zak had two of his stoner buddies come over. We sat around the Xbox, played video games and passed the bong around. Around 11:00 I broke out the pain killers. Everyone was pretty eager to try them. We continued to sit and laugh. Zak’s buddy Mark asked, “Where do you even get shit this powerful?” I looked at him and said, “The Doctor, I have cancer.” The only movement I witnessed that night occurred right then when everyone turned their heads to look at me. Zak looked at me and said, “Bro, you’re kidding me…that sucks.” Then we all started laughing. I continued to tell them the events that happened the weekend prior, we laughed at the whole thing. It was a cathartic experience. The weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders. No judgement was passed. The pain killers started to wear off around 3:00AM. So we decided to hit the bong again. Not 5 minutes later we heard a knock at the door. Zak stood up and moved to the door, and eyed the peep hole. “Oh shit, it is the police,” Zak whispered. I told the three of them to go hide in the bathroom. Once they were out of sight, I grabbed the bong, dumped my prescription bottle, but kept the meds and answered the door. The bewildered look on the officer’s face was priceless. Needless to say, I was quickly arrested. The officer didn’t even bother going back into the dorm room. I got down to the station, they found the pain killers in my pocket. After I got through with booking, I was placed in a cell. Soon after I was awarded my one phone call. I didn’t really want to call anyone. Sure I could call my doctor and maybe get out of this whole situation. I decided to call my mom. “Hey mom, it’s me.” “Jack, I have been worried sick, where are you? What number are you calling me from?” “Mom, I screwed up, I am in jail. I got busted for drugs” “You’re fucking kidding me Jack, what the hell is wrong with you, why did you even call me? Do you think I am going to help you?” “No, mom, I don’t, I will figure it out on my own, bye.”
After three days of laying on my side and not eating, I was eventually sent to the jail nurse. I told the nurse about the cancer. She looked horrified. Against my will she immediately started making phone calls. Six hours later I was released and sent to the hospital. After being placed in a room that looked all too familiar, the same doctor came to see me. “How are you doing Jack?” She asked. I replied, “I have been better.” The doctor didn’t smirk this time. She said, “I noticed you didn’t have an emergency point of contact on your records, you need to fill that out now.” “Sure,” I said. I listed Zak, I couldn’t tell anyone else. In about two hours Zak showed up at my bed side. “Hey Jack, how are you doing?” “Way too sober, bro” I replied.
I decided to give my mom a call and tell her the good news. “Hey mom.” “Hi Jack” “Mom, I got kicked out of school.” “I know, she said, the RA and president of the school called me.” Thank god it wasn’t the dean of my college I thought. My mom broke down in tears. “Jack, I gave you everything, I worked two jobs just to get you to school, I raised you, I fed you, I gave everything” she bawled. “I know mom, I am sorry, I don’t know what got into me.” I mumbled as I held back my tears. “What are you going to do now?” She asked. “I need sometime alone; I think I might drive around the country. I will take some time off and try to figure out what I want in life.” I replied. I lied. I wasn’t going anywhere. “Get idea Jack, just waste everything, you were such a good boy Jackie” she whimpered “I am sorry mom. One day you will understand. Bye mom” “Bye Jack”
She hung up this time. I broke down in tears.
The next week in the hospital was surprisingly okay. My pain was being managed professionally. Zak would stop by every other day to say hi. The hospital staff all grew to know me. The calls from Lilly, Max and mom came to a halt. I guess everything was working out the way it was supposed to. I couldn’t stop thinking about them, I just want them to live happy lives. The following month took a toll on me. The pain became less and less manageable. The doctors avoided “snowing” me with pain killers, the cancer was winning. As attempt to fall asleep at night, the only happy thought I could muster was maybe tonight will be the night. The days grew longer, all my food and liquids were sent in through an IV. Steve Harvey, from Family Feud and Drew Carey from Price is Right became less funny. I could have probably won either game show with all the practice I was getting. The Doctor came and saw me every other day. She decided it was time for another MRI. I didn’t really care; I was just along for the ride. I laid in the white tube, listening to the humming and rotating workings of the machine. I was pulled out about 15 minutes later and rolled back to my room in a wheel chair. A few hours came by and the Doctor returned to the room. “I have your results back,” she said. I turned and looked at her. “You have reached staged five.” I don’t know what I was expecting to hear. Cancer just doesn’t beat itself. This still came as a shock to me, I plummeted to a deeper level of depression. “It is probably time to call your family,” she said. “Yeah, I guess you are right.” I wasn’t going to call anyone. Within the next two days it took a turn for the worse. My body lost its will to survive. I was beat mentally and physically. My vitals were slowly getting worse and worse. I couldn’t move without assistance. That night, I begged the doctor for more painkillers, I couldn’t take it anymore. She surprising gave them to me. They knocked me out from about 2:00am till about 7:30am. I was barely able to open my eyes but I could hear muffled voices. I heard Sarah, the Doctor, Zak and a few others. As I started to move the blur of people came closer to the bed. I was able to make out faces. I could feel someone holding my hand, I felt the warm drip of a tear on my forearm. I whispered that I couldn’t see and they turned on the remaining lights in the room. I saw my mom and Lilly. Max was sitting in the corner trying to hold in tears. Zak was standing against the wall, quiet and ashamed. Zak betrayed me. Tears began to roll down my face. Lilly and mom began to cover my body with their bodies. My life flashed before my eyes. I thought about growing up with mom and dad, meeting Max and Lilly. I glazed over the memories I shared with them. My mom and Lilly stood up, but continued to cry and hold my hands. Mom could only sob, “Jackie, my boy.” Lilly looked at me and cried, “Jack, I never stopped loving you.” All I could muster was, “I am sorry, did this for you, I love you.” No one ever tells you that you hear the heart rate monitors solid tone, but you do, and then you hear nothing.
“I'm waking up at the start of the end of the world,But its feeling just like every other morning before,Now I wonder what my life is going to mean if it's gone,The cars are moving like a half a mile an hourAnd I started staring at the passengers who're waving goodbyeCan you tell me what was ever really special about me all this time? But I believe the world is burning to the groundOh well, I guess we're gonna find outLet's see how far we've comeLet's see how far we've comeWell I, believe, it all, is coming to an endOh well, I guess, we're gonna pretend,Let's see how far we've comeLet's see how far we've come I think it turned ten o'clock but I don't really knowThen I can't remember caring for an hour or soStarted crying and I couldn't stop myselfI started running but there's no where to run toI sat down on the street and took a look at myselfSaid where you going man you know the world is headed for hellSay your goodbyes if you've got someone you can say goodbye to I believe the world is burning to the groundOh well, I guess, we're gonna find outLet's see how far we've comeLet's see how far we've come Well I, believe, it all, is coming to an endOh well, I guess, we're gonna pretend,Let's see how far we've comeLet's see how far we've come It's gone gone, baby its all goneThere is no one on the corner and there's no one at homeIt was cool cool, it was just all coolNow it's over for me, and it's over for youWell its gone gone, baby its all goneThere is no one on the corner and there's no one at homeWell it was cool cool, it was just all coolNow it's over for me, and it's over for you But I believe the world is burning to the groundOh well, I guess we're gonna find outLet's see how far we've comeLet's see how far we've comeWell I, believe, it all, is coming to an endOh well, I guess, we're gonna pretend,Let's see how far we've comeLet's see how far we've come”
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2021.12.22 07:08 virgin_fishCan't think clearly. Everything ended abruptly and I wanted to make it work?

Youdate scam
Recently had an experience that I am still unable to understand and come on terms with. I met this guy on Bumble, he was almost 18 years older than me but I decided to give it a shot. I'm 28 and he is 46. I am strictly looking to find a ltmarriage... and so when we matched, in our very first chats, he told me that he is looking for the same thing.
Right after our first date, he started to love-bomb me. He started to ask me out frequently (every other day), and would take me on dates around 3x a week. Good morning/good night texts, talking on phone everyday, texting many times a day, it seemed that I had found the 'one' and someone who really valued me. I started falling for his love-bombing.... i come from a broken family and so have some sort of 'daddy issues'. We came too close in just a short time and I felt like I knew him since forever. We planned our kid's names and all that stuff. He introduced me to his entire family and i got quite well with them too. I have very low-self esteem and I'm quite emotionally vulnerable and never thought someone would love me this way, so I fell hard for him. With my dad leaving my mom when i was just 2 years old, i also have fear of abandonment and an anxious attachment style. So I get emotionally attached pretty quickly.
Almost 7 weeks in, i started noticing a change in his behavior. He stopped calling everyday(wouldn't even pick up the phone when i call him), texting became less frequent and it seemed to be that something was 'off' you know that classic intuition. I started to tell him that i would love to talk to him everyday and communication is super important to me. But he would brush me off everytime saying that everything is fine and i am just overthinking it. Stuff like that. I started feeling that I am the one who is wrong and our relationship is 'perfect'. He started meeting me less frequently too (just saying he was too busy).
He would go to the gym everyday and i knew where his gym was. One evening, he called me and i couldn't pick up the phone. So i immediately called him back, however, he refused to answer my phone and said that 'he's at the gym'. My bad ( yes i am killing myself over this), since he was still on my dating app, i saw his location and it wasn't gym. Not even in the same city as his gym and he was far from there and actually in another city. I got extremely anxious and tried to frantically call him (6-7 times). And he didn't pick up the phone and instead blocked my number. I got hurt by this action and texted him the 'class break-up/hurt text' i.e. I really wanted to make it work, thanks for the good time etc. But of course i didn't mean it... i was just hurt and angry and confused.
Early in the morning, he unmatched me on Bumble. and later on I saw that he had unblocked me and I received a text from him saying that he was just at the gym. i didn't respond. Later in the night he texted me again and started gaslighting me and saying that he was just at the gym and nothing else. And that i am unfaithful/disloyal because i dumped him over the text blah blah. I tried to talk to him about it and told him that i didn't mean to dump him and it was just out of plain anger and sadness... and I was hurt that he blocked me on WhatsApp and unmatched me on Bumble.
When I told him that his action of blocking me hurt my feelings, he immediately blocked me on WhatsApp again. I didn't do or say anything as I didn't want to bother him.
The day I sent him a text and apologized to him about the 'too many calls' and 'dump text' and told him that i am really sorry. He responded to that and told me that i should never call him when he says he's at the 'gym'. I told him I understand. Later in the night I tried to talk to him and he did talk a bit. Then in the morning he told me that his mother is sick and i should pray for her. I became extremely concerned and tried to be there for him. When she got better in a few days, i asked him that i would like to bring flowers for her (as i have already met her), but he told me that he has other plans (it was a Friday evening). I also tried to invite him over my place, but he told me 'he's too busy'. I got hurt and upset but didn't react.
Later on that day I sent him a long text about how I am only looking for something serious and that i was exclusively dating him, and if we are on the same page, we can talk and communicate to make it work. But if he is not looking for the same thing, then we should be clear about it and move on so that we both have a closure.
He didn't respond.
Later that night i texted him again on WhatsApp that i would like to talk to him for a few minutes whenever he has time. he saw the message, but again no response.
It's been three days now, I have been ghosted!
He always told me that all of his exes were 'evil women' and 'crazy'... and that's why he never married any of them. I believe he will add me to that list now.
I am unable to understand what went wrong. What did I do wrong? How something that seemed to have so much potential can come to end abrupt end like this? This man claimed to wanting to marry me, made me dream about our future together introduced me to his family (that was the first time it happened to me ever), treated me better than everyone else has (i have been treated like shit and rejected many times), and suddenly ghosted me...... and doesn't even want to give closure.
I am confused, anxious and don't know how to react. I am blaming my self that i once again ruined my chances at love, i am the crazy, the psycho, the unlovable girl that's why it happened to me yet again.
Please don't be harsh in your comments. I know I wasn't supposed to frantically call him (i feel extremely guilty), and send him that breakup emotional text... I apologized to him few times too. I have decided to go for therapy before dating again. Please don't be harsh in your comments as i am already broken and unable to think clearly.
Sorry for so many grammar mistakes - i just am unable to eat drink or do anything.
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2021.12.22 06:59 tiredboxerI just don't think I know enough about sex, man. long, heavy one ahead.

Me again, 33, OCD+GAD+Depression.
This is going to get pretty descriptive so if stuff related to sex, masturbation, and so on are rough topics for ya, definitely skip this one. Also skip this one if suicidal feelings are rough to read about.
This is also extremely personal but at this point I don't fucking care anymore. I need help, I'm not getting it no matter where I go or what therapist I see, and I feel like this subreddit is the only place that fucking gets it.
I was born and raised roman catholic which became less and less strict the older I got, if that makes any sense.
Even so, things got instilled in me from the get-go.
And as much as I love my parents, I think pretty much all of us dropped the ball at multiple critical times.
For one thing, somewhere around 1999 (I was born in 88), I came across a trivia video game called You Don't Know Jack. To this day, I swear one of the answers basically said 'if you masturbate too much, you'll be destined for hell.' I wish I had the full context. It wasn't a christian game (far from it), I don't know what this was.
All I know is that I was 11, I feared I had already masturbated too much by that point, and I was now terrified that I was destined for hell. Fun!
I was stuck in that mindset for a considerable amount of time, unfortunately.
For another thing, my parents divorced when I was 5 and while dad stayed around, he remarried fairly quickly, and I mean, I'm all but positive he married the woman that split them up..
So there's me, there's a new attractive woman who is not technically family (since she's not blood and almost everyone in the family hates her anyway), and I'm heading towards puberty.
Speaking her name in front of mom is a no-no and I definitely didn't feel like bringing it up to dad, of course.
So now you have this constant presence of an adult, attractive woman who is forbidden.
By the time I hit high school she'd get stuck in my head all the time and I noticed I'd avoid getting interested in girls that I thought looked like her. I felt I was absolutely wrong and maybe even evil for finding my dad's wife attractive, for finding similar-looking women attractive, and so on.
Shortly after graduating, I'd be diagnosed with OCD, and all of this would suddenly make sense. She had become the primary focus of my OCD for a long time at that point.
Unfortunately, shortly after graduating, I would also walk my dumb ass directly into strict evangelical/borderline fundamentalist 'power rangers is evil because they use magic and don't give god the glory for winning battles' type of christianity, which I would be in the thick of for the next two or three years and at which point I would only slightly start easing up until eventually leaving 10 years later.
At that time, I'm an 18 year old virgin who has never dated. And now I'm about to close the door on sex for good for a while.
Unfortunately (yeah, lots of this shit is unfortunate) I also developed an underhanded way to get my rocks off regarding some dumb kinks of mine. It wasn't bad but it wasn't right.
So my daily life went a little something like this.
Wake up, go to my college, pray and beg god for the strength not to give into what I would later realize was an addiction of sorts, fail and do the underhanded thing to get my rocks off, come home, masturbate, immediately after masturbating turn my ass around on my bed and face the crucifix and make myself feel guilty and sorry for what I'd just done, promise god I won't do it again, wake up the next morning, repeat.
One of my many therapists pitched that the underhanded-kink-addiction thing was my only successful sexual outlet, which is why I was never able to control it, and when I was, it wasn't for very long.
Even when the super intense christian shit began to fade, around 2010/2011ish, hard to say, the underhanded shit didn't end. Looking back, I think a lot of people in my life probably figured it out. Some people didn't care, some people understandably weren't comfortable around me, and if you add trust/abandonment issues from childhood and a dash of incel-ish beliefs, it makes sense why I no longer have any connection with literally anyone from those years that wasn't an online friend. There's one IRL person I still talk to from that time, and that's it. I fucked things up royally.
Years passed, end of 2016 I finally left christianity, and as time progressed I began finding proper, healthy, non-underhanded ways of engaging with the kinks. But it would still take an awfully long time before I was able to fully put an end to the underhanded stuff, and I'm proud to say that I literally don't remember the last time I did it. I feel like I'm going to do it all the time, but I never do. Because I have real outlets for it now.
Well. Kinda. I briefly had an internet partner, the only sexual experience of any kind I've ever had with another person, but she ghosted me because of course she fucking did lol
That's something I still wish I could figure out again, but at least I have other ways, ways that are all also consensual and up-front, of getting what I need.
But why am I only ever masturbating to kink shit
Actually no, let's keep going. What is normal for a man? What is normal for a 33 year old sexually-active male?
What is normal for a 33 year old sexually HEALTHY male?
What SHOULD I be doing? Should I just be watching my kink porn all day, or should I be trying to get off on normal stuff? Should I surround my room with posters of half-naked women so that the stuff stays in my head?
Because the OCD has made all of this nightmarish lately. There was a shift in the OCD halfway through this year that became so severe I genuinely considered suicide. And unlike the first two times that happened, this stayed around for a considerably long time.
Remember back in high school, how I felt like every girl I knew looked like my dad's wife and that I shouldn't find them attractive, just like I shouldn't find her attractive?
Now it's happening with family members.
This woman I'm incredibly attracted to, she kinda looks a little like mom, doesn't she? How bout the girl I still talk to from back home, doesn't she look a little like my older sister? What about this girl, doesn't she look a little like dad?
And not like 'haha maybe they look a little similar,' more like 'they look VERY similar and you are sick in the head.'
Hence the thought about bombarding myself daily with random women's faces and bodies to try and throw off the bullshit the OCD's been pulling for months now.
Random adult women, because my OCD also loves making me look up the ages of any women I see on TV or in a movie that I find attractive. I've always been notoriously bad with ages, but now the disorder's using that for fuel.
I'm the same guy who once turned away from a photoset of Natalie Dormer in disgust, thinking she was a teenage actress. She was likely in her late twenties/early thirties at the time. I am bad at this.
So... I guess it's just a perfect storm of fuckery. It's like I literally never had a wild crazy chance in hell at being a normal human being, or a sexually-healthy human being.
And I don't know what to do about it now because what the fuck kinds of services are available to basically teach a 33 year old not just sex-ed but also life experiences that I should've had long ago?
My god, why does the dick seem to just move around on its own? Not like, sexually, just chilling. And why do my balls tingle sometimes for non-sexual reasons? Excitement? Nervousness? What the fuck is going on down there?
Thank god I learned about the 'groinal response' and how the ding dong can go off whenever it damn well wants to, otherwise I'd be pretty freaked out about the random times it's gone off. Like, no, dick, I'm hanging out with my dad, there's no reason to be active right now.
I'm so fucked up. I'm so goddamn fucked up and just. Scared.
I just want to fucking be normal.
I don't want to cut off any of these women because the disorder or my mind or my dick thinks they look like family members.
There's just so few resources available for people who've gone through extreme religion, and to be blunt, I feel like there's even LESS resources available for people like me, who didn't technically grow up in any major cult-like backgrounds or super evangelical families but did manage to speedrun ALL that shit at a critical time in their young adult life.
I'm sorry, because I know this site has been an indispensable resource for you all, but I've had no success with Recovering From Religion. I've tried using their chat multiple times and I never had a good experience. One time they just kept sending quotation marks.
I dunno, man.
I'm just so fucking fucked up and I hate it.
The OCD, the religious terror that's still present (I'm STILL scared christianity might be real), the sexual bullshit, the social bullshit, the physical bullshit (extremely exhausted all the time as a result of all of that), plus the stuff that daily life throws at me. I don't know how my body hasn't just given the fuck up and died on its own already.
Thank you for reading.
I'm putting the trigger warning as Purity Culture because I think that's kinda what most of this is about sorta maybe?? I dunno man.
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2021.12.22 00:22 WerewolfOverlordNo Time For Rest Part 2: Earth 999 Season 5 Episode 24

Kilo crawled up behind the head of security, Crimella, and said,' Mother says Nightsister and friends are to leave... Tell clients they get paid if threat captured... Tell guards shoot threat... ' Crimella replies,' Alright... If this is from The Shadowed One, then it must be important... ' Kilo smirked, bearing her fangs as she crawled back to Analiese. The guards informed the more violent clients about the upcoming event, encouraging them to take part. Analiese asked Kilo,' Is Crimella aware?' Kilo nodded, Analiese stating, ' Let us avoid the bloodshed. Foxtrot, get the lesser witches to safety, and then start the show...' Foxtrot obliged, crawling off. Lyra walks off, towards the exit. Analiese says to Kilo,' Contact our ally, Mr Cooper... We really should have these 3 disposed of.' Kilo replies,' Cooper already here. Cooper male witch, or you forget?' Analiese turned around, locking eyes with a tall man in black suit. The man said,' Your little pets told me about the intruders. I'll make it a quick job...' Analiese said,' Just do what you do best... Hijack some planes, get us some money, and avoid making a scene... I'm confident that you can get them alone.' Cooper vanished and the witches escorted the trio out.
At the hotel, Lyra guarded as the others slept, but strangely, stayed near Merrin. Octavia hadn't fallen asleep, as the thoughts running through her head were keeping her awake. Lyra almost could feel what Octavia was thinking, so when she walked up, and said something, Lyra didn't emotionally break down. Octavia said,' Look... I know we've been together for like a year now, but I feel like we're more sisters than lovers.' Lyra replies, ' I kinda was thinking the same thing, but I didn't want to ruin our friendship... ' Octavia replied, ' It wouldn't hurt me. If anything, knowing that you could find someone for you would be much better than trying to fake this relationship. Also, I think the new girl might have an interest in you. You should take her out on a date, it'd be cute. Besides, she's not even more than a year older than us.' Lyra said,' Honestly, I've just wanted someone like me to talk too. I'm not saying you're uncool b-' Octavia replies, ' Just go, you furry goofball!'
The following morning, Lyra sat at the table, looking at her phone. Much to her surprise, Merrin was the one to ask her out. After telling Octavia, Lyra said,' You think it'll work?' Octavia replied, ' Don't think too hard, Lyra, or you'll just act stupid.' Lyra nodded and left for the date, nervous.
The pair sat under a tree, inside the old memorial park for the victims of the Witch Trials. The air was crisp, no one was around. Merrin asked nervously, ' So... What it's like hunting..?' Lyra replied, ' It has its ups and downs. The part I like is meeting new people... What about you? What do you do?' Merrin nervously twirled her hair, trying to respond. Lyra said,' Oh... You've suffered, haven't you...' Merrin nodded, placing her head against the tree. Lyra asked,' My mom, well, adopted mom, says that people should talk about their issues... I've never been good at listening to people's stories...' Merrin asked,' Would you try for someone you cared about?' Lyra replied, ' I guess... I just have always hated myself because of my real mother, Tsunami...' Merrin placed her hand on Lyra's, before saying, ' When I was young, my tribe lived in Russia. They always talked about this great journey we took centuries ago... One day, the scouts never came back, meaning something was wrong... Soon, droid tanks and Covenant Banshees attacked us... They killed almost all of us... I... I... lost my entire family... During the raid, they placed the children inside our transport, but they couldn't get it running... I saw who led the attack... It was... Was... A cyborg... With four arms... He wasn't alone... There was a male... Thing... It had double jointed legs... Red armour, and this... This... Blue Sword... It was like his arm had a blade emitting from it... The thing had a head... Like a worm... The soldiers called him Shipmaster Volir... He looked like a child being sworn into a gang... He was young... Probably only 4 or 5 years older than us... He... He stabbed those guarding us, he didn't care that children saw... Then... Then... He ordered the children out... Those too afraid to die did as he said, and he told them they were joining him... They cheered, as if their whole life prior meant nothing. I was the only one left, so they opened fire... The next thing I remember... Is ONI agents and Spartans fighting the remaining Covenant... A spartan... He pulled me out of the wreck... Said I'd be safe... That's when I met Dare... She was only a rookie back then, but she watched me recover, even helping me sleep at night... Years later, Dare found me again, and at that time, the people who attacked my village were wanted by ONI for a different attack. She said that I could see the two that destroyed my life... So I did... I walked into a room, and on the opposite side of that wall, clear as day, like they didn't age, were the same two... The cyborg and the worm... I think I shed a tear when I saw the shipmaster, knowing that he corrupted my friends... To this day, I've never learned their names, yet I still picture them, sitting in that cell... ' Lyra looked at her, saying,' I drew them based on your description... I know who these two are...' Merrin looked at the picture, confirming that it was accurate. Lyra said,' The one with four arms is General Grievous... The worm, as you call it, is Let Volir, a Banished Shipmaster...' Merrin asked,' Where are they now? Are they in prison?' Lyra replies with a chilling tone,' No... Grievous always escapes, and Volir wouldn't be left behind... They're probably serving new masters... Killing innocent people...' Merrin sheds a tear, saying,' What would you do if you were me and saw one of them?' Lyra replies coldly, ' I'd kill them... ' Merrin replies, ' So would I...' Lyra said,' This life... You get to meet new people a lot... Some good, some bad... You gotta stick with the good ones. In our field, people will try and kill you, but that's what friends are for, having each others backs...' Merrin, now more happy, said,' I've... I've never kissed anyone... ' Lyra whispered,' Neither have I... But there's gotta be a first time for everything... ' Merrin moves in, kissing Lyra. Lyra blushed and kissed her back. The pair got up, now realizing that night had come. The duo walked into the forest, confused. In the distance, the galloping of a horse... Lyra had brought her shotgun, yet now realized she had left the rounds behind. Merrin looked around, clutching Lyra's hand. The wind grew duller, the sounds of night fading, as if something was blocking it. Near the river, It sharpened its blade, grabbing something out of a bag. The thing turned to Analiese, who said,' Ride, my dark warrior. You know what to do.' The thing climbed on a ghostly white stallion, clutching the reins and riding off. Lyra says,' Quiet! I hear something! ' The creature opened the bag, tossing it aside and lighting a fire inside the object from said bag. It brandished its sword, cackling with fury as It rode towards the town. Lyra said,' It's a goddamn horse... What the hell is a horse doing out here?' She spotted the light in the distance, not realizing it was headed for them. Lyra realizes in the nick of time, as the creature leaped at them, swinging its sword. As It rode off, laughing, Lyra said,' You gotta be fuckin' kidding me...' She grabs Merrin and runs off, the rider still searching. 'It's the fucking Headless Horseman! This bastard is relentless!' She said, running through the bushes. The Horseman came around for another pass, allowing the duo to get a clear look at the ghost. It sat upon a bone white horse, clad in black clothing, with what appeared to be chain armor. Its neck, or what remained, was covered by a cloak that flapped in the wind. In its left hand, a flaming pumpkin, a sword in the other. The Horseman appeared to be looking with its pumpkin, before turning to attack. Lyra drew her revolver and fired at the monster, hitting it in the arm. She grabbed Merrin again, running once again. The Horseman pursued, cutting away all the branches and leaves in his path. Lyra leaped away, pulling Merrin to the side. The Horseman didn't see this, and continued up the hill. The galloping grew more distant, allowing the pair to rest. Merrin pants,' I thought he only was in New York! What is he doing here?!' Lyra replies,' I don't know! He had to have been released from Sleepy Hollow! We gotta get away from that guy!' She motioned for Merrin to follow, before the pair sprinted for the exit. The Horseman followed, staying quiet however. Lyra stopped, saying,' The Horseman is around... We have to get rid of him.' Merrin replies,' I might have an idea...' Lyra said,' Do it.' Merrin nodded and waited for the Horseman to ride up. He did, and she used magic to throw a fallen log into his path, blocking him in. The Horseman growled, swinging at the log. The duo ran off, before Lyra had to support Merrin, who had succumb to exhaustion. Lyra had also sprained her ankle, so the trip to the village would take longer. Before long, she too had become tired, and collapsed near the forest edge. Back in the forest, the Horseman had fled, being called back by its master.
Octavia and Anastasia searched for the duo, finding them unconscious by the forest. Lyra awoke, finding herself being treated by EMT's. Merrin had been injured in the fall. Octavia looked down, seeing horse tracks, along with pumpkin remains and evidence of blades striking the trees. Lyra said,' You won't believe who attacked us, Via...' Octavia asked,' Who?' Lyra said as a nurse tied her wound, wincing, ' The Headless Horseman!' Octavia said,' I can tell, He must've gotten pretty close. You were surrounded by horse tracks.' Lyra paused, stating,' The Horseman didn't chase us to the edge, we trapped him...' Octavia pointed to the scene, to which Lyra replied, ' Oh, shit...' Merrin looked at the sword marks, stating,' It's not random, its a counter rune. Witches use them to erase existing spells. Are there tracks leading away from the forest?' Anastasia replies,' Yeah, but it looks like way more than the Horseman. It almost looks like they drove a car outta here.'
Octavia says,' You two should really stay here, We'll get Dare out here. Just rest, you guys have been injured.' She closes the door, leaving the pair alone. Lyra ponders why Merrin kissed her, despite enjoying it. Merrin battled her consciousness, as it shamed her for kissing a girl. Merrin grabbed a blanket, covering herself, attempting to shield herself. She shed a tear, scared of the world that took her family, the same world she thought would judge her. Lyra broke the silence, ' ...For a first kiss... That was pretty good....' Merrin looked over, trying to tell herself it'd be ok. Lyra asked,' When you were little, what did having a boy or girlfriend look like?' Merrin chuckled, replying, ' We always said that we'd be with our first crush... But...' Lyra says,' I know this might sound cheesy... But ever since I left my birth mom, I've seen couples who look so happy... Sometimes, I ask myself if that will ever be me...' Merrin looks at her, inhaling before stating, ' In the short time you and I have known each other, I've been more happy than any other time after my village was destroyed... I see something in you, it draws us together... It's like we were meant to be...' Lyra smirks,' Did you just parody Disney? ' Merrin giggles, ' Yeah... But I honestly think your the most interesting person I've ever met... So... Will you be my girlfriend...' Lyra says,' No one in my 18 years has ever asked me that before... I never could tell if it was me or them... But now.... With you.... I feel complete.... So, yes.... I would love to date you....' Merrin smiles and comes over, kissing Lyra with never before seen confidence. Lyra embraced this, wrapping her arms around her new partner. As Merrin pulled back, a smile lit up her face. Lyra looked into her eyes, stating,' Let's go show what these witches and that headless cunt what a real power couple is!'
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2021.12.21 22:26 Wpg-PolarBear-5092Manitoba Covid Vaccination data for December 21st - Age 5+ First Dose 86.27% (+0.09%)**, Second dose 79.54% (+0.03%)**, Third Dose 15.60% (+0.99%)**, Total doses administered 2,360,008 (+14,352), doses delivered to MB 2,973,710 (unchanged)

Data Issue: MB Shared Health appear to be just 'publishing' the cumulative total doses now. So there is still a data backlog, which the 2nd chart shows how much the data changes day over day.
Doses Scheduled for Today : 3,411 - this appears to not having been updated in many days (Supersites, Focused Immunization Teams, Pop-up Clinics)
StatAmount (daily change)
People administered at least one dose1,122,274 (+1,122)
Percentage Aged 5+ Vaccinated (1 dose)86.27% (+0.09%) [84.5%]
People 'Fully Vaccinated' (2 doses)1,034,805 (+389)
Percentage Aged 5+ With 2 Doses79.54% (+0.03%) [78.2%]
People with 3 Doses202,929 (+12,841)
Percentage Aged 5+ With 3 Doses15.60% (+0.99%) [15.5%]
Percentage of MB Population 'Fully Vaccinated'74.78% (+0.03%)
Total doses administered2,360,008 (+14,352)
Doses administered per 100k population170,549.77 (+1,037.17)
Total doses delivered to MB2,973,710 (unchanged)
Percentage of doses administered79.36% (+0.48%)
**The Percentages will be based on MB Shared Health published population numbers from the Technical Briefing from May 28th (page 6) - Eligible Population 12+ = 1,175,703, and Total MB Population as 1,383,765 (Stats Canada Q3 2021 estimate) going forward. Eligible Population 5+ estimated at 1,300,910 (with data on population by Age from MB Shared Health June 1st 2020). The 'Official' Percentage from the Reports page will be posted as well in the square brackets, but they are consistently lower than they should be according to MB Health's own published vaccination & population data. It may be data they have, but don't publish about how many vaccinated are actually Manitoban's
'Fully Vaccinated' = 2 doses for now.
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First Nations data last updated 'December 16' - Previous update Dec 9nd.
Total Doses Administered: 255,338 (+22,791 from last week), number of doses allocated no longer posted.
On Reserve Population:
With 2 doses: 90.6% (previous weeks: 74.1%, 88.5%, 88.5%, 87.4%, 86.6%).
With 3 Doses: 13.9% (new this week)
Off Reserve Population:
with 2 Doses: 46% (previous weeks: 97.6%, 70.4%, 70.2%, 69.3%, 68.5%)
With 3 Doses: 9% (new this week)
from https://geoportal.gov.mb.ca/app/c37bd19db9de4fbeafbc6061ec9c0524
First dose data was removed from the dashboard for the First Nations this week.
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This next chart tries to show the data backlog in a more clear way. The 'Updated Cumulative Total' is a combination of the Cumulative First Dose + Second Dose from the MB Gov Covid Vaccinations Reports page. I added the Cumulative 3rd Dose yesterday, and for now to show how the Cumulative Total jumped from a couple of days ago with this new data.
DateCumulative 3rd DoseUpdated Cumulative TotalOriginally PublishedDifference from Originally PublishedChange from Previous Days numbersUpdated Daily Administered
Dec 20th202,9292,360,0082,360,0080-9,177
Dec 19th194,3612,350,8312,345,656+5,175+5,1755,226
Dec 18th189,6582,345,6052,342,584+3,021+3,02110,653
Dec 17th180,2952,334,9522,332,254+2,698+2,69812,769
Dec 16th168,8972,322,1832,312,458+9,725+1,53515,199
Dec 15th155,7032,306,9842,297,218+9,766+75514,131
Dec 14th143,6862,292,8532,283,775+9,078+39311,576
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March 28th2192,557173,548+19,009+10-
All dates other than Dec 9th to 13th (which had the unusual +100,000 blip of announced total doses that was then removed on the 14th) are showing higher Cumulative Totals (which now includes 3rd doses) than the number of Total Doses Administered that was originally provided by MB Shared Health. March 28th is the date I started tracking the cumulative first doses and 'originally published' totals - Data going back past March 28th is still being entered.
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Average Daily Doses Administered for the last few weeks (Mon to Sun Daily Administered/7)
Week of Dec 13th to 19th: 11,382 (Originally Published numbers give an average of 13,235 estimated - had to re-calculate because of the 100,000 reduction during this week from the previous week, otherwise it was -1,243)
Week of Dec 6th to Dec 12th: 7,557 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 7,014. (Had to re-calculate the originally published numbers to deal with the 100,000 bump in numbers, this dropped the average from 21,299)
Week of Nov 29th to Dec 5th: 6,256 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 6,077.
Week of Nov 22nd to 28th: 4,156 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 3,765.
Week of Nov 15th to 21st: 2,198 (Originally Published numbers give an average of 2,343)
Week of Nov 8th to 14th: 2,204 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 2,177.
Big jump in recent weeks with the 3rd doses being added. Each are still increasing day over day as data backlog is slowly caught up.
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Eligibility updated September Dec 10th (Previously updated on the Nov 19th)
Updated - December 10, 2021
First Doses: 'A pediatric Pfizer vaccine has been approved for children aged five to 11. Manitoba has expanded vaccine eligibility to this age group.
Parents and caregivers can make first and second dose appointments for eligible children online or by calling 1-844-626-8222. This vaccine is also available from medical clinics, pharmacies and other locations
Children must be five years old at the time the appointment for the first dose is booked. The interval between first and second doses must be a minimum of eight weeks, or a minimum of 21 days for children living in First Nations communities.'
and for Third Doses:
NEW: To ensure the strongest immune response possible, the timeline between the second and third dose is being shortened for some individuals. Anyone aged 60 or older or those aged 18 or older who live in a First Nations community who received their second dose on or before July 10 are now strongly encouraged to receive their third dose.
A six month timeframe between second and third doses continues to be recommended for most other eligible Manitobans.
Individuals who are moderately to severely immunocompromised or have travel plans to a destination that only accepts certain vaccines or combinations of vaccine require a prescription to receive a third dose earlier than six months, unless they meet the criteria noted above. This approach is not based on an increased risk related to travel generally, or travel to certain destinations. For clarity, if you received two doses of the same mRNA vaccine, you should not be offered a third dose earlier than six months for travel.
Visit the Eligibility-Criteria link below to see full details.
There is now a recommended 56 days wait between 1st & 2nd doses (minus time frame remains at 28 days), and 6 months between 2nd & 3rd doses (booster).
https://www.gov.mb.ca/covid19/vaccine/eligibility-criteria.html
https://manitoba.ca/covid19/vaccine/finder.html
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The Manitoba Covid-19 vaccine booking website is live (still requires you to be eligible):https://patient.petalmd.com/login?groupId=6032
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'Manitobans who have received the COVID-19 vaccine can now access their immunization record online' 'Individuals who are fully vaccinated can now request a digital or physical immunization card'
'Effective today, individuals without access to the internet can call 1-844-MAN-VACC (1-844-626-8222) and follow the prompts to request their immunization card.'
https://www.gov.mb.ca/covid19/vaccine/immunization-record.html
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Timeline of Cumulative 1st Dose milestones (from Dec 1st, 2020):
Dec 7th - 1,100,000 - 98 days - as of Dec 15th, the Cumulative First Doses for Dec 7th now shows as 1,100,232. This is now 2 days earlier than it originally appeared.
Sept 1st - 1,000,000 - 65 days - as of Nov 19th, the Cumulative First Doses now shows as 1,000,122 for Sept the 1st. (7 days earlier than it looked like it would have been originally). This is still likely to move another day earlier within a couple of weeks or so.
June 29th - 900,000 - 24 days - as of Dec 6th, the Cumulative First Doses now shows 900,033 for June 29th - this is 7 days earlier than it looked originally.

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June 5th - 800,000 - 11 days - as of Sept 6th, the Cumulative First Doses now shows 800,428, now 3 days earlier than it looked originally.
May 25th 700,000 - 8 days - as of Sept 28th, the Cumulative First Doses for May 25th now shows 700,146.
May 17th 600,000 - 8 days - as of Oct 25th May 8th now shows as 600,081, 2 days earlier than it looked.
May 9th 500,000 - 11 days - May 9th now shows as 500,109 first doses (updated October 18th to reflect this) This is now 2 days earlier than it originally appeared.
April 28th 400,000 - 9 days - as of August 13th, the Cumulative First Doses for April 28th now shows as 400,016 moving this a day earlier than it initially looked.
April 19th 300,000 - 12 days. As of Oct 20th, the Cumulative First Doses for April 19th now shows as 300,036, moving this a day earlier than it initially appeared.
April 7th 200,000 - 16 days from previous. As of Nov 4th, the data for April 7th now shows as 200,053 cumulative first doses. This is a day earlier than it appeared originally.
March 22nd 100,000 - 90 days from first doses administered. As of July 9th, March 22nd now shows as 100,894 moving this milestone one day earlier.
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Timeline of Cumulative 2nd Dose milestones (first one Dec 21st, 2020):
October 21st 1,000,000 - 67 days. As of December 9th, the Cumulative Second Doses for Oct 21st now shows 1,000,021. This is 6 days earlier than it originally looked. This is likely to move another day earlier within a few weeks.
August 14th 900,000 - 21 days. As of Dec 13th the Cumulative Second Doses for Aug 14th now shows 900,100 moving it 8 days earlier than it originally looked.
July 24th 800,000 - 13 days. the Cumulative Second Doses now shows as 800,023 on July 24th (as of Oct 4th) moved 2 days earlier than it originally appeared.
July 11th 700,000 - 8 days. As of Oct 12th the Cumulative Second doses now shows 700,086 moving it 3 days earlier than it initially appeared.
July 3rd 600,000 - 5 days - as of August 31st, the Cumulative Second doses now shows 600,086 moving it 2 days earlier than it originally looked.
June 28th 500,000 - 4 days. As of Oct 4th, the data for June 28th now shows 500,024. 1 day earlier than it originally appeared.
June 24th 400,000 - 5 days - as of July 9th, this moved 1 day earlier to June 24th, now showing 400,790
June 19th 300,000 - 8 days, as of Oct 4th the data for June 19th now shows 300,151. One day earlier than it appeared initially.
June 11th 200,000 - 21 days - as of July 23rd the Cumulative Second Doses now shows 200,299 moving it 1 day earlier.
May 21st 100,000 - 137 days from first Second dose administered (Jan 5th 2021) - this has moved up 6 days - As of Nov 14th, May 22nd now shows as 100,015 as the data backlog has continued to be worked on.
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Timeline of Cumulative 3nd Dose milestones (first one May 15th, 2021):
Dec 21st 200,000 - 14 days.
Dec 7th 100,000 - 206 days. As of December 15th, the Cumulative Second Doses for Dec 7th now shows 100,027
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Most Data from (unless noted elsewhere):
https://manitoba.ca/covid19/vaccine/reports.html#reports
and
https://covid19tracker.ca/vaccinationtracker.html
(covid19tracker.ca has some issues with their data & percentages lately, for example their 'doses delivered' has been behind by a day or two. Then the percentages of at least one dose is high because they make a bad assumption that the 'Total Doses Administered' minus the 'Cumulative 2nd doses' = the number who have received at least one dose. Which should be true, but because of the MB Shared Health data backlog it isn't accurate, this means they consistently have the numbers for first doses higher than the actual data shows, which means their percentage of population or age 12+ population is higher than it should be. This issue has become bigger with 3rd doses not being accounted for either)
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2021.12.21 16:49 SylarinoMushoku Tensei: evidence-based approach to the controversy.

Since there is a lot of controversy about Mushoku Tensei, I want to present evidence-based approach to some of the disagreements people have. I am gonna paste some of the responses I had to people on this sub when discussing this anime. I will also state my subjective opinion on some topics.
I will divide the post into several parts:
1) Is Rudy a pedophile? Should we call him that?
2) Effects of media consumption on crime rates, normalization of criminal behaviour
3) Restrictions and cancellations
4)Why is there so much disagreement and vitriol in discussions on this anime?
5) Additional comments on Rudy and Eris in the context of MT.
I want to warn that I am an anime-only watcher. I have not read the WN or LN.
I also want to say that I am open to being wrong: if you present good arguments and evidence, I am ready to change my stance.
Part 1: 'Pedophilia'.
Pedophilia is a medical term and has well-established definitions. Now, let's look at some of them:
APA's definition 'a paraphilia in which sexual acts or fantasies involving prepubertal children are the persistently preferred or exclusive method of achieving sexual excitement. The children are usually many years younger than the pedophile (or pedophiliac). Sexual activity may consist of looking and touching but may include intercourse, even with very young children'.
DSM criteria: ' An individual who has had arousing fantasies about, urges for, or behaviors with a prepubescent child or children. The individual has acted out these sexual desires, or is experiencing significant distress or difficulty as a result of these desires. The Individual is 16 years of age, and at least five years older than the child or children noted in Criterion A'
ICD-11: 'Pedophilic disorder is characterised by a sustained, focused, and intense pattern of sexual arousal—as manifested by persistent sexual thoughts, fantasies, urges, or behaviours—involving pre-pubertal children. In addition, in order for Pedophilic Disorder to be diagnosed, the individual must have acted on these thoughts, fantasies or urges or be markedly distressed by them. This diagnosis does not apply to sexual behaviours among pre- or post-pubertal children with peers who are close in age'
We can clearly see that Rudy does not 'persistently prefer' achieving sexual excitement through prepubescent children. The main sexual moments in the anime: him touching Eris and getting hit and them having sex happen when she is 13 and 15, respectively. She is not prepubescent in these moments. In real life, not all child molestors are pedophiles, for example.
Now I want to talk about the fact the harm of applying the word pedophile to people who are not pedophiles. I think this is important: people who get outraged at MT and insist Rudy is a pedophile are actually not doing any favors to actual victims of pedophilia:
https://www.thestranger.com/slog/2019/07/15/40768104/jeffrey-epstein-is-a-horrifying-person-but-that-doesnt-mean-hes-a-pedophile
“Clinically, an accurate diagnosis matters because the trajectories and outcomes for pedophilic versus nonpedophilic men who have sexually offended are different,” Seto told me. “Scientifically, we can't start our research if we don't define our terms accurately and as precisely as possible. A lot of my career has been spent studying pedophilia, and the research I've produced would be a lot less useful—maybe even useless—if I didn't distinguish interest in prepubescent children from young teens. Not making this distinction would change how we understand the etiology of pedophilia, how we assess for it, characteristics of offenders, and how we understand it relates to sexual offending against children and the risk of doing it again.”
'Conflating pedophilia with child abuse may ultimately harm not just non-offending pedophiles like Ender and Adam, but potential victims themselves. Social scientist Brian Earp wrote about this in the wake of the allegations against former Alabama Senator Roy Moore: “If the goal is to protect children from harm, as it should be, then we should stop stigmatizing pedophilia per se and start stigmatizing (or keep stigmatizing) those who actually sexually abuse children for whatever reason, whether they happen to be pedophiles or not.” Stigmatizing pedophiles, treating them as subhuman, and condemning them for their attractions—not their actions—may very well make them more likely, not less likely, to commit an offense.'
https://blogs.bmj.com/medical-ethics/2017/11/11/pedophilia-and-child-sexual-abuse-are-two-different-things-confusing-them-is-harmful-to-children/https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7460489/
'Most importantly, the emotionalized, stigmatizing, and uniformly negative media coverage of pedophilia, which is common in the yellow press (i.e., no differentiation between pedophilia as sexual preference, pedophilic disorder as a mental disorder, and sexual offenses against children) appears to be most harmful.'
'But among [child abusers] who are [caught], most are not pedophiles. In fact, about half of all victims are post-pubescent, ranging in age from twelve to seventeen, so that most of their offenders would not qualify as pedophiles. Moreover about a third of offenders against juveniles are themselves juveniles (an even larger share of the offenders against young juveniles are juveniles). These young offenders are also not pedophiles, but include a mixed group of generally delinquent youth and youth who engage in somewhat impulsive, developmentally transitory behavior. Even among adults who victimize children under thirteen, at least a third or more do not qualify as pedophiles. The equation of sexual abuse with pedophilia is thus misleading.'
http://www.unh.edu/ccrc/pdf/CV192.pdf
2) 'Crimes and normalzation'
In this section I want to talk about the issue many people have with MT: they think that it 'normalizes' child molestation/creepy relationships. I am gonna assume something: people who make such claims probably think the same about hentai depicting children or about lolis in anime. This is an assumption, I might be wrong. Let's look at some of the research that can help us.
There is some evidence that pornographic depictions, for example hentai, leads to positive outcomes like reduction of sex-related crimes:
'The unexpected outcome of this analysis is that the high availability of hard-core pornography in Denmark was most probably the very direct cause of a considerable decrease in at least one type of serious sex offense, namely, child molestation. Between 1965 (the first year of the availability of hard-core pornographic pictures) and 1969 (the year of the repeal of the Penal Law ban, and of peak production), the number of cases of this type dropped from 220 to 87. The implication of our conclusion is that a large number of such offenses have been avoided since the late 1960s, because potential offenders obtained sufficient sexual satisfaction through the use of pornography, most probably combined with masturbation.' https://spssi.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1540-4560.1973.tb00094.x
'It is certainly clear from the data reviewed, and the new data and analysis presented, that a massive increase in available pornography in Japan, the United States and elsewhere has been correlated with a dramatic decrease in sexual crimes and most so among youngsters as perpetrators or victims'
http://www.hawaii.edu/PCSS/biblio/articles/1961to1999/1999-effects-of-pornography.html
'Issues surrounding child pornography and child sex abuse are probably among the most contentious in the area of sex issues and crime. In this regard we consider instructive our findings for the Czech Republic that have echoed those found in Denmark (Kutchinsky, 1973) and Japan (Diamond & Uchiyama, 1999) that where so-called child-pornography was readily available without restriction the incidence of child sexual abuse was lower than when its availability was restricted […] We do not approve of the use of real children in the production or distribution of child pornography but artificially produced materials might serve.' 'If availability of pornography can reduce sex crimes, it is because the use of certain forms of pornography to certain potential offenders is functionally equivalent to the commission of certain types of sex offences: both satisfy the need for psychosexual stimulants leading to sexual enjoyment and orgasm through masturbation. If these potential offenders have the option, they prefer to use pornography because it is more convenient, unharmful and undangerous. (Kutchinsky, 1994, pp. 21).'
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007%2Fs10508-010-9696-y
'Considered together, the available data about pornography consumption and rape rates in the United States seem to rule out a causal relationship, at least with respect to pornography availability causing an increase in the incidence of rape. One could even argue that the available research and self-reported and official statistics might provide evidence for the reverse effect; the increasing availability of pornography appears to be associated with a decline in rape.Whatever the explanation is, the fact remains that crime in general,and rape specifically, has decreased substantially for the last 20 years.Concurrently, availability of pornography has increased steadily in the last 20 years.'
www.christopherjferguson.com/pornography.pdf
There is no evidence of loli material being assosiated with negative outcomes or that the fans of such material are more likely to be pedophiles, it actually is possible it contributed to the desrease in crimes againt minors:
“Takatsuki Yasushi points out that sexual abuse of minors was statistically much more common in Japan in the 1960s and 1970s, and has actually been decreasing since, which roughly coincides with the increasing presence of fictional lolicon (Takatsuki 2010: 258-262)”
'There is no evidence to support the claim that the existence of lolicon, or engagement with such content, encourages “cognitive distortions” or criminal acts. As Mark McLelland argues, criminalizing such material represents a form of “thought censorship” and a trend towards the “juridification of imagination.” This potentially might shut down alternative spaces of imagination and communities negotiating or opposing dominant cultural meanings.'
https://www.imageandnarrative.be/index.php/imagenarrative/article/view/127
So what we see is actually some evidence of positive outcomes of crime against children being reduced. Isn't it better when pedophiles watch cartoons instead of abusing children in real life? To me, the answer is obvious.
3) 'Restrictions and cancellations'
Whether a minority or not, there are people who wanted to cancel certain things: anime like Redo of Healer, MT or games like Rapelay, Bully.
The question is: why? Again, people cite normalization. However, as I have shown above, there is no good evidence such depictions lead to increase in crime, actually quite the opposite. We can see clearly that some topics in particular bring more outrage than the others: you can genocide thousands in shooters, but depictions of rape like in the video game Rapelay receive a far more sharp outrage. I personally do not see any reason to censor such depictions, because there is no evidence it would lead to negative outcomes. Having rape fantasies is common in both men and women. Yes, some people enjoyed Redo of Healer solely because of rape fantasies they have. So what?
Rapelay was successfully cancelled. Yes, not a big loss. But why it needed cancellation in the first place, if there is no good evidence something like that leads to negative outcomes?
Most people agree that depiction of violence in games does not lead to increase in violence in real life. And most recent meta-analyses do show this. But when it comes to fictional depictions of rape, sex with underage people, molestation a lot of people more people start demanding cancellation.
Even if there was some link between games, music, books, cartoons and violence, at what point we would ban things? Does everyone has to lose out on art/entertainment because a small group of people are so unhinged anything can trigger them to do violent things?
4) The source of disagreement
For someone who does not have any problems with not only MT, but even things far more 'edgy' it was hard (and still hard) to understand : What do people rallying against this anime actually want to happen?
I think it's clear: a lot of people outraged at MT would prefer for the mc not to display the behaviour shown in the anime. They would prefer the author didn't write it the way he did. They would probably prefer they had changed some parts in the anime. But people who like this aspect of MT too feel the need to defend it so it doesn't get 'cancelled' and so in the future authors do not succumb to the outrage when writing controversial material. Because some people like the controversial parts of the anime too.
It's one thing to say : 'Humbert from Nabokov's Lolita is a piece of shit' when discussing the book. It's another thing to want to influence the society so that no author dares write something like that because outraged crusaders are gonna make a big fuss about it demanding cancellation.
Nobody owes you not making you feel disgusted by main characters. Nobody owes you not creating characters that you find reprehensible. Nobody owes you always depicting morally reprehensible characters in certain light. Nobody owes you writing stories where 'bad behaviour' always gets punished. Why any form of art, be it literature, movies or anime need to show and explain that creepy guys are bad? What if someone wants to write a fictional book about a mass murderer in a fantasy world and not say he is bad? Are you tryng to cancel 'Dexter' because you think it 'normalizes' murdering people?
5) More on Rudy and Eris (rambling)
A person I was having a discussion with told me Rudy needed to 'apply the ethical and moral considerations he would expect from himself as an adult' . This is my response:
'Moral and ethical considerations that he had on Earth, where there is an arbitrary age of consent depending on the country and time in history? In the fantasy word he is in, people become adults at 15. Do we know if in this fantast world people grow at the same rate as on Earth. Rudy's body is that of a 13 years old boy. Is everything suddenly ok if he had sex with Eris when she turned 16 or 18? And isn't the age of consent in Japan 13? At what point him having sex with Eris stops being a problem? What makes it a problem anyway? People do not suddenly become adults at 18. Someone at 15 can be more mature than someone at 17. Someone who is 18 might have ASD, which complicates things. The arbitrary age of consent is there because we have to draw the line somewhere. But it does not mean that we can't judge individual cases by all the evidence we have. And we have plenty of evidence on case of MT, as watchers and readers. Of course, we take into account all the circumstances. Of course, it would be different if we were talking about a character who is in his 30s in the real world and gropes someone who is 13, without all the elements of fantasy that MT has. I still wouldn't want to cancel such book/anime though. Lolita exists. We judge Humbert, as we should. We should not ban the book though. But generally, we see their relationship and whether there is harm done to Eris because of Rudy being a reincartee (is this a word?)
Now, let's put that all aside. Was anyone actually harmed? I had a similar problem with people getting outraged over Oreimo: it depicted siblings falling in love. Because people are conditioned to feel disgusted by incest, many people just do not listen to arguments. There was nothing wrong with their relationship: there was no grooming, coercion, gaslighting. Two people who happen to be siblings fell in love.
There is a bit famous example on incest: 'Julie and Mark are brother and sister. They are traveling together in France on summer vacation from college. One night, they are staying alone in a cabin near the beach. They decide that it would be interesting and fun if they tried making love. At the very least, it would be a new experience for each of them. Julie was already taking birth control pills, but Mark uses a condom, too, just to be safe. They both enjoy making love, but they decide never to do it again. They keep that night as a special secret, which makes them feel even closer to each other. What do you think about that? Was it okay for them to make love?'
Now change example to fit Rudy and Eris. I do not see anything wrong with Rudy's relationship with Eris. There is no indication it will lead to harmful outcomes for her just because he was an adult in his previous life.'
I also see a lot of people claiming he is the same as he was as an adult, because his cognitive function seems to be that of an adult since he was reborn. To me, he did exhibit child-like behavior. But nevermind that. Do we know how exactly his body functions? He did undergo the process of growing up, going through puberty, undergoing hormonal changes. How can you consider him a full-blown adult, when biologically he is not?
Our bodies also have an effect on how we view ourselves: would Rudy do something to Eris if he looked like an adult from his previous life?
Let's imagine a 70 year old woman drinking a potion that turns her 22. How would she view herself? Would she be creepy if she pursued a 20 year old man and had sex with him? Could she be morally in the right only if she dated other 70 year olds while looking young?
Edit: People who reported it as soon as I posted it without even reading: what the hell is wrong with you? Come out and explain.
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2021.12.21 13:19 X14X16This is my story at 25

Hey all.
I've been lurking this sub for the last few weeks and after reading about your struggles and success stories, it made me want to share my own story and my struggles with porn addiction.
At the age of 6-7 years old I was abused by an older male family member on several occasions over the length of a few years. At the time I didn't know it was a horrible act, as I was groomed to believe it was 'play time' between one another. By age 10-11 I was very sexually promiscuous and would touch myself a lot as it felt good. At a sleepover with my friends between the age of 11-12 I was introduced to porn and I was instantly drawn in. At the time I told my friends it was disgusting, although deep down I knew when I was alone I had to watch it. This led me to figuring out how easily accessible porn was and I was watching porn almost daily from age 11-12 onwards throughout my entire high school journey. I mainly watched milf porn throughout my high school years and was lucky enough to not go any deeper. On the outside during high school I was doing great; I had good grades, I was good at sport, I got along with a lot of people and had a lot of friends. But on the inside I was broken; I was angry all the time, I was so insecure about my body, I was addicted to porn, I was afraid to talk to girls, I hated myself and I had realised that 'play time' with my family friend when I was younger was actually abuse and I had been raped on several occasions. Not a single person knew I had been abused when I was younger because I was too afraid to open up and if I had told my parents they wouldn't believe me, as this family friend was loved by everyone in the family and growing up I never really opened up to my parents about my emotions and feelings. It's not like my family situation made it any better, my family constantly fought, my father went to jail when I was 15 for a year and was a heavy alcoholic. I'll never forget the day my father was released from jail and I was so ecstatic to see him again because it finally felt like my family was going to be whole again and the moment I did see my father he had a drink in his hand. This absolutely killed me inside and words cannot describe how angry and backstabbed I felt by my father because I believed he would quit drinking.
The porn addiction continued between the ages of 18-24 and it got really bad. I found myself going deeper and deeper into porn and eventually stumbled across absolute filth categories that no-one should be watching. As I was insecure about my body, porn led me to be insecure about my average penis, so I fell into being addicted to cuckold porn at I believe around age 19-20. The inner struggle of telling myself I was not a real man due to the size of my penis and that I couldn't and wouldn't be able to please a woman sexually absolutely destroyed me. Throughout high school to my current age now I've never been able to hold a relationship with a woman. I've been on a single date. All my friends and family say I'd make a great partner because I'm caring, compassionate and understanding. But they don't know I have an inner struggle where I constantly think about porn, sex and penis size. When I did talk to women the first thing I thought of was how I could fuck them and use them. I would get attached way too easily, which led to every woman I talked to eventually ghost me. When a woman did ghost me I'd go on a porn rampage and watch it hours on end because it made me feel like I wasn't good enough. By age 21 I came across reddit and this was where I truly began to spiral into a dark hole. I found the endless amounts of sexual subreddits and I was on them daily for hours at a time. I would be on these subreddits before uni, work, gym and be late to social gatherings because I lost track of time on these subreddits. My thirst kept growing and I eventually delved deeper by joining online chatrooms, sending explicit pictures of myself, receiving explicit videos and pictures and feeding my addiction to unimaginable heights. This led to me not being sure about my sexuality because I was receiving explicit content from all genders, so I thought to myself maybe I am bi and at one stage I thought I was gay, because for a few months I could only get off to gay porn. By watching so many different categories of porn, nothing gave me that dopamine rush, that was until I decided to watch gay porn. I eventually decided to search for escorts around my city on google at age 23 and this led to me meeting with escorts on most weekends for about a year. But the most embarrassing thing is I only had sex with the escort I met the first time and I ejaculated very quickly. I'd really go to these escorts for them to hug me, hold me and show me warmth, the warmth that I had never felt from a woman because of my porn addiction and how I felt about myself. I spent a large amount of money on escorts over that year, sometimes even going twice a month. I would find myself sitting on my phone on a Friday night scrolling through escort advertisements trying to find the perfect escort that lined up with the women I watched in porn, when I really should have been out with my friends enjoying myself and making lifelong memories.
The turning point for me was when I was out one night with my friends last year and one of my friends overdosed on drugs. Seeing my friend being carried away by the medics on a stretcher made everything come to the surface and as I was sitting with my closest friend waiting for our Uber, I couldn't control myself and told him everything; my severe porn addiction, about my sexual abuse, my family, my past and how I truly felt about myself. He sat there for what felt like hours and listened quietly and at the end he gave me the greatest embrace I've ever had and told me everything would be fine, we all have our struggles, to not be ashamed and he will help me get the help I need. He was my saving grace and I can never repay him for what he's done to help me. From there I went to a few therapy sessions and over the last year I've reduced my porn consumption down heavily. I have not yet been completely able to stop watching porn, but I've gone from watching it every day for hours, to every few days to now once every few weeks. One of the hardest parts was getting help, when I did open up to others about how porn can be so addicting, I'd get laughed and and get called soft. 'Watching porn is normal' is the response I got most times. It's so sad that porn addiction is frowned upon by so many people because they believe it is normal, when in reality it sucks you in and slowly but surely ruins your life physically and mentally. It takes away all the good from you and the amazing relationships you could have and in turn it turns you into someone that you hate. You'd rather sit in front of a screen and watch hours and hours of porn then to be out in the world exploring, making memories, striving towards your goals and being the best version of yourself.
I still struggle and as I'm writing this I have felt unmotivated for the past two days, I felt like watching porn today, but I didn't. I still struggle with how I view my penis size, women, sex and myself, but it's slowly getting better and I am on the path to accept myself for who I am. It's time for me to overcome this addiction, it's time for me to love myself and eventually I want to find a woman that I can love and we make our own loving family. I will overcome this porn addiction and so will all you that are on this subreddit. I know it's going to be a long road, but it's the path that I have decided to take. I want to become the best version of myself, to chase after my goals and to one day be porn free. My future self will look back at this and be proud that I fought to become better.
I apologise for such a lengthy post, there is more that I could have wrote, but I feel like this is more than enough to get the point across; PORN RUINS YOUR LIFE. Let's all take a stand together and fight this monster. If you feel like you have no one to talk to, my inbox is open, I am more than happy to talk to you. We will all overcome this addiction together, we will stand in solidarity and not judge one another. We've all been through the lowest of lows, now it's time to soar the highest of highs.
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2021.12.21 09:36 ChokeyoulovinglyIn Sickness and Health - Part Two

'Come, we're going shopping!'
Oh god what have I gotten myself into?
'Please it's not a big deal, I can get some stuff later', I tried to reason.
'Nonsense! Now come we still have plenty of time to get you some essentials', Melissa smiled excitedly.
'I don't have a choice in this do I?'
'Nope!' Jake and Melissa both said together.
'They always get what they want sir', Carl said.
Fuck...
'Alright...', I sighed. I'm so uncomfortable right now and I think they could tell.
'Brandon, listen to me. I'm doing this because I want to and you need things okay. I don't expect you to pay me back. just pay it forward one day if you can okay', Melissa said and she had such a sincere look in her eye, I couldn't say no. Is this what separates rich people from poor people? They could afford to have people owe them. I felt bad as soon as the thought crossed my mind. These people are doing something kind and generous for me and I'm standing here trying to find their true motives. Maybe I trust my gut too much.
I nodded and said 'thank you'.
'Terrific, boys you stay here we will be back', Melissa said. Suddenly the thought of being alone with her was terrifying to me. What if she was just putting on a show in front of them and then she hit me with her real motives when she had me alone and vulnerable?
'I wanna come too, I can help him pick out some good looking clothes', Jake said.
'Are you saying you don't trust my fashion sense child?', Melissa asked in mock offense.
'Not at all, I just think I know what would look good on him too', Jake countered.
Look good on me? What does that mean? Is he checking me out or something? Not that I'd care if he was. I don't know what I would do if a guy or even a girl made a pass at me honestly. I've never had the time or desire to even consider dating or anything like that. Still, that seemed odd to me. Maybe I was just overthinking it. These people are nothing like the people I regularly encountered during my life and it was confusing as hell to me.
We headed down to the SUV and headed deeper into the city. We stayed on the interstate entirely circumnavigating the part of the city I knew. The poorest part of the city. It wasn't long before I didnt recognize much of anything. Had the last few years of my life been so confined to just a dozen miserable city blocks?
'So Brandon you said you're from the city, where abouts?', Melissa asked but I think she knew the answer going in.
'The inner city mostly but I've floated around here and there the last few years. Got a job out of high school and saved to afford college', I answered. I was honest if a little vague.
'How old are you?', Jake asked.
'Turned twenty one last week actually'
'Awesome!', Jake responded excitedly.
'Don't get any ideas now', Melissa cut in.
'I'll be twenty in September. I was going to go to college right out of high school but I got sick', Jake said and went back to looking out the window.
'Are you still sick?', I asked.
'Kinda, I guess its always going to be a problem. That's why I have the inhaler and the breathing treatments', he said.
'I'm sorry to hear that buddy', I said.
'Don't be. I have an amazing life and I know it now. This disease has helped me appreciate life and how good I've always had it', he said. His mom smiled with pride at her boys words. Maybe they weren't as weird or up to something like I thought. Maybe they were those kind of people you see on TV that say things like 'jiffy' after all...
'My parents... I never knew them...', I started. They both fell silent and I could see Melissa trying to focus on the road but she kept glancing into the rearview mirror to make eye contact with me. She looked concerned.
'I spent time in an orphanage before being adopted but I wasn't a good fit for the family and they sent me back. The next people were an older couple but the husband hurt me... badly and I ran away. They called the police and said I had attacked him and they didn't believe me when I said that he was beating every day. I ended up in a boys home for troubled kids named The Nyesom Home for Troubled Children for a few years, then it was back into the system. By then I was 14 and kids that age don't usually get adopted I guess. So I stayed in the system until my 16th birthday until I was able to emancipate myself. Which took a year and finished my last year of high school. I just kind of got around and found work where I can and saved all I could. Now I'm here.'
Melissa had tears in her eyes and Jake was deathly silent.
'So that's uh... that's my story I guess'.
'You poor thing, I'm so sorry you've had such a hard life', Melissa said.
'It's okay. It is what it is. I'll make the best of it', I said and that seemed to cheer them up some but there was still an awkward silence until we reached a huge shopping mall, and it was packed. We drove around for several minutes looking for a place to park on several levels of the malls indoor parking garage before Melissa gave up and sought out a spot on the street. We eventually found one by a mexican restaurant I had always heard about in radio commercials. So we stopped and ate. It wasn't anything to write home about though.
'Are you a picky eater Brandon?', Melissa asked as we walked a block up towards the mall.
'No but I've grown to appreciate good food when I get to have it. That place wasn't bad but I feel like I could make better', I answered.
'Well I guess I'll have to introduce you to Lee if you ever come to visit. He's our chef', she said.
'You have your own chef?', I asked flabbergasted. Yet another thing I only thought happened on TV.
'Yes, we've been very fortunate to end up where we are in the last decade, aren't we Jacob?', she questioned.
'Yeah, dad made a new medicine that helps people with cancer, but we don't get to see him much', Jake said and I could tell he resented not seeing his father much. I could kind of relate in a way having never met my parents. It must be hard to know they are there and never get to see them too.
'Hey there's an alley up ahead we can cut through to get to the mall', Jake pointed out.
'Sure, why not?', Melissa said. I on the other hand was more cautious.
As we got closer the smell of urine and garbage became stronger. 'Nope, let's not go that way, it's not much farther anyway', I said.
'What's the matter tough guy, I thought you were some strong inner city kid', Jake laughed.
'If an alley smells like piss and shit, nobody cares what will happen to you there', I said.
'Well that settles that argument', Melissa cut in. She seemed on edge after hearing what I said. We picked up the pace a bit and soon we were walking into a large appliance store full of all manner of gadgets and appliances. Then it out into the main plaza of the mall itself.
People were everywhere, mostly absent mindedly shopping, or looking at their phones. Nobody seemed to be on guard or even paying attention to their surroundings. It was jarring to witness how care free and casual everyone was in such a crowded public space. It was different from where I was used to though. Nobody was approaching us to ask for money, or trying to sell boot leg jewelry or mix tapes. There were still hungry eyed people here, only they were dressed nicely and wearing fake perfect smiles. No doubt those pearly whites helped separate a lot of people from their money here. Every 20 or so feet had some hungry eyed salesman trying to get us to check out their kiosk.
This was a different kind of ocean for me and if these were the bottom feeders then who were the sharks? I wondered.
Melissa and Jake navigated their way around with ease. They had been here many times. Every store we passed, they would tell me something about. There's a salon but it's over priced and the staff are inexperienced. That's hot topic, and Spencer's and so on. Everything seemed over priced or made in China they said. That didn't stop them from coming here though...
'So where to first?', Melissa asked.
'He looks more like an H&M than an Abercrombie and Fich', Jake said.
'What did you call me?', I chuckled. Not sure if I should be offended or not.
'You'll see', Jake smiled and lead the way. We made it to Abercrombie and without even walking in, I could see from the displays that there was no way I would ever dress or behave like the models in the photos.
'I'm not feeling it', I said.
'Told ya', Jake smiled.
Then it was on to the next store. H&M looked like a more preppy white version of what the guys in my neighborhood would wear. Some of the stuff was nice though. Melissa set out to do what I figured she does... Shop and she did not disappoint. The next two hours was full of her holding up shirts to my chest and asking what I thought, asking me questions about what size clothes I wore, holding pants up to my waist and so on.
'Brandon, you should go pick out some socks and underwear you like okay', she said.
'Uhh I don't really wear any underwear', I admitted and was embarrassed when they both said, 'we could tell'. Then Jake dragged me over to pick out some.
'I'm sorry, I didn't think it was a big deal', I said to Jake and he started laughing.
'It isn't to me but you're not exactly inconspicuous in grey sweat pants dude'
'Okay, well what do you wear? Any recommendations?', I asked.
'For you, I'd probably go with briefs or boxers if you don't like snug fitting underwear', he said.
'I guess I'll try both...', I said and found a pair of red boxers with a standard checkered design and a pair of black boxer briefs. The briefs they had looked way too small and snug to me.
'Boxer briefs, that's a good choice. I usually wear those and regular briefs myself', jake said.
'They look too snug around the groin', I said and he said, 'yeah I like that though, and they make my butt look good'. Then he lifted his his hoodie to show me his butt and laughed when I agreed with him. His cheeks flushed a little bit but I didn't say anything more on the matter. I didn't want to embarrass him. We walked back over to Jake's mom who was busy picking out quite a few different outfits.
'Find anything you like?', she asked.
'I found these but don't know which I would like better', I said.
'Jake, take him to the changing room to try those on', she said.
'What?', I asked, suddenly embarrassed that I'd have to out on underwear in the store.
'Don't worry, they're closed rooms. Just go try them on and see which you like better, cmon', Jake said and waved me towards the dressing rooms.
A lady working nearby saw us and stoooed us to let me know I would have to pay for any underwear I tried on for sanitary reasons and Jake assured her we would. Then he pointed to the room and said, 'I'll be right here, go ahead'. So I went in and sat down to take off my shoes. I can't believe this is happening. In trying on underwear in some store with my new roommate and his mom waiting outside to know what kind I like to wear. How much more awkward could things get?
I took off my sweat pants and first tried on the boxers. Not bad. They were loose and even felt like I would enjoy sleeping in them. The gap in the front was an issue at first. I could clearly see the shaft of my penis showing through it. Then I found a button and that helped some. Then I tried on the briefs and they were very snug. Almost uncomfortable at first but after adjusting my genitals into a pouch that seemed purpose built for them they weren't so bad. They hugged my butt a lot too and I found myself looking in the mirror at it and my bulge. I actually thought I looked pretty good. I decided to take off my shirt too and flex in the mirror. My body isn't ripped and muscular but it is toned. I checked myself out and how the brifs hugged my strong thighs and flexed my arms while tightening my core. I felt kind of sexy to be honest. Then there was a knock and without thinking I said, 'come in', and in walked Jake with a handful of clothes for me to try on.
'Whoah, sorry man!', He said and turned to look away.
'It's cool what do you think?', I asked honestly wanting to know what he thought.
'Uh looks pretty good on you haha', he said somewhat nervously and his cheeks were bright red. I wasn't really paying him much attention though.
'Do you think these are better or the boxers?', I asked him.
'Uhhh those look good', he said sheepishly.
'Do you mind giving me your opinion on the boxers?' I asked.
'Uh sure, sure let me just step out and', before he finished his sentence he fell silent. I slid off the briefs and out on the boxers instead. Readjusting myself after pulling them up so my bits hung down the left leg. When I turned to look at Jake he was just staring at my groin and his face was flushed. The. He started wheezing again. He fished out his inhaler and gave it a couple of puffs and sat down. I rushed to his side and asked him if he was okay.
He nodded that he was and used his inhaler again and breathed slowly. This attack was nowhere near as bad as the one back at the dormitory earlier which I was thankful for.
'Are you sure you're okay, Jake?', I asked and he said he was. I felt relieved, 'just let me sit for a minute and breathe okay', he said.
'No problem, so which do you think looks better?', I asked.
'Umm I think they both look fine, I guess it comes down to what feels more comfortable to you', he said.
'I kinda like them both for different reasons', I said and explained why.
'Why not get a mix of both then', he said and that was a pretty good idea I thought.
'Thanks, I'll pick out a few more', I said and then stripped back down to put my sweats back on. This time I noticed Jake looking at my body as I looked in the mirror. He took another puff from his inhaler but didn't so much as blink or look away. Hmm I wondered but out any notions out of my mind. Then we walked out of the changing room and I grabbed a few more pairs of each type and we met back up with Jake's mom.
She quickly sent me back to change Into various outfits she had picked out for me.
'Go try these on and then come show me', she said. I wasn't alone though. Jake was also going into the changing room opposite of mine and trying on outfits his mom had put together. I had to say, she definitely had an eye for fashion. Every outfit I tried in looked like what you would see on clothing ads. The only thing I didn't care for were long sleeve button ups but there weren't many of them and I didn't have the heart to disagree. As I was coming out to model yet another outfit for Melissa, Jake would be going back in. At one point some other people wanted to try on some clothes as well and I heard a knock on the door to the room I was using.
It was Jake and he was looking a little nervous again. 'What's up bro?', I asked with a smile. 'People are wanting to use the changing rooms too, do... do you mind if we share this one?', he asked. 'Sure, it's not like you haven't seen anything already anyway right?', I said as I let him in. 'I guess we should get used to changing around eachother if we're going to live together I guess', he said but his voice was a little shaky. 'Exactly bud, relax alright', I said trying to calm him down. Jake just stood there unsure what to do, so I turned to face away from him and took off the white tee shirt I was wearing.
'Woah', Jake said. 'Are those scars on your back?' 'Yeah, remember that family I told you I ran away from?', I left it at that. Jake had noticed five long scars that criss crossed on my shoulder blades from being beat with a switch so hard it left deep bleeding welts and cuts. 'It's so shitty that so much bad happened to you dude', Jake said. 'It is what it is, no use feeling sorry for myself, ya know what I mean?', I responded. 'Yeah, still I don't think I would have made it through what you have', he answered. 'You'd be surprised bro. Never give up', I said as I finished buttoning up a pair of pants and I turned to face Jake. I got my first solid look at him. He was skinny and pale but not sickly looking by any means. He had that lean look with a bit of baby fat. He wasn't lying when he said he wore briefs.
He was bent over pulling up a pair of pants and he had a round butt on him and two prominent dimples above his butt. He had a black birthmark on the left side of his rib cage and as he stood I could see he had a tattoo on his right bicep. It was a date. 5/4/00 - 11/7/18. I asked him about it and he told me it was for his best friend who died after a hit and run. They never caught the person who killed him. Jake turned to face me and show me and brushed the bushy brown hair out of his face. His green eyes seemed to almost glow under the light of the changing room. He was a good looking dude. I thought. 'Any girlfriends back home?' I asked as I pulled something Melissa called a cardigan over my head. 'I was dating someone on and off for a year but we broke up earlier this morning', he said. I thought back to when I first met him outside and he was wiping away tears from his eyes. 'That's rough man, but you're a good looking guy. You'll meet someone in no time', I said and patted him on the arm. 'Maybe if I had what you're packing it would be easier', he said and then he followed up with, 'what about you? Dating anyone?'. 'No, I've never dated anyone. I'm actually a virgin', I answered. 'Now that I don't believe', he laughed. 'Why would I lie about something like that?' I chuckled. 'I mean, you carry yourself with confidence and it's not like people can't tell that you're pretty big down there', he said and sat to pull on some socks.
'Not that again', I laughed. 'It's true dude, you're pretty big' 'Well okay but what about you?', I asked. 'What do you mean?', he asked and I could see he was instantly nervous. He seemed to shrink a little. 'How big are you? You saw me right. We're going to be living together so it's not like I won't see it eventually', I reasoned. I was genuinely curious mostly because he kept bringing up my size. 'You won't laugh at me?', he asked. 'No, why would I laugh?', I responded. 'Okay...', he said and undid his pants and pulled down his briefs to reveal he fully shaved his pubic hair and his 4 inch, circumcised flaccid penis and his scrotum was tight against his body. 'Looks like it would work to me', I said and he quickly pulled his underwear back up.
After that Jake seemed to be more comfortable around me as he changed. He started stripping down to just his briefs when ever he'd try on a new outfit so I did the same. Though I didn't have any underwear to cover me. Jake made some comments. Asked if I ever fully shaved, which I haven't. Does it get bigger when it's hard, and other really personal dick related questions. Then he asked me something I wasn't ready for. 'What is it like having a foreskin?', he seemed genuinely curious. I didn't really know what to say though. 'It's fine I guess, I don't know what it's like to not have one'. I said and Jake went to say something but stopped. 'What's on your mind?', I asked. 'Oh nothing, we should probably get back out there', he answered.
After that Jake was done trying on outfits and I only had a few left to try so I tried to hurry. When all was said and done we were leaving with bags and bags of clothes. There was more clothes than I've ever owned throughout my entire life! I was blown away by Melissa's generosity and both of their collective kindness. On the way back Melissa asked to exchange phone numbers with me in case I would need anything or if god forbid something happened with Jake and he didn't have his medication on hand. He was really diligent about keeping it nearby but accidents happen.
'I actually don't have a cell phone anymore, I had to drop my service to save for school', I told them which was partly the truth. The rest being that I never had anyone to talk to anyway and it's not easy to maintain and charge a phone when you lived on the street. Plus it was just one more thing people would try to take from you so I sold it to a pawn shop.
'That's okay, you can have my old one. I keep it as a backup. I'll get it setup for you when we get back', Jake said and that made Melissa happy. I started to feel like I was being added to their family oddly enough. They were so nice and inviting that I was having a very hard time keeping them at arms length and we'd only spent an afternoon together. When we made it back to the SUV and stuffed it full of our shopping we headed back to campus and it was the first time I really had a moment to reflect on just how lucky I had been and how the last three years on the street might have been worth it.
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2021.12.21 02:23 ThorkittenI'm in a bad way right now

Firstly, if your in a fragile headspace right now then don't worry about this post. I dont want to put any more baggage on your mind. Just remember you can do it, you can get through it and so can I. I just can't see the way through for myself.
I'm mostly writing this to try to clear my head, and because I do t really know what to do. This may come out disjointed and random because of it.
My hands are shaking while writing this. I hit 4 years this dec 2nd and I couldn't be happier about that. Its been a tough couple years. My family has lost 3 people, first was my cousins 18 month old due to a negligent baby sitter, then my grandmother passed from covid, and a couple months ago a different cousin (half brother of the cousin i already mentioned) passed after a lifelong fight with diabetes.
Before all of these i lost a man who was my best friend for several years and very much an older brother figure (my dad was out of the picture over half my life ago, like 17 years). And he passed from liver and kidney failure due to alcoholism.
Its already been rough, add on me moving back to the midwest from California and not having had an SO in like 8 years and OCD that really ramps up the negative thoughts.
I have a good friend now who I first started hanging out with because I thought she was cute. Well several months ago she became single and its been like meeting her for the first time again. The relationship was on the controlling side.
I won't get into all the details but suffice it to say that its a classic situation of I am super in to her but I have no intention of blowing it all up by confessing my attraction to her. She's become my best friend and I cant lose that. She's also made it clear that she doesn't want to date a friend because she's done that and it ended badly. I understand 100%. But the OCD thoughts don't care, I have been in an OCD cycle that puts me into a deep dread filled depression every few days thinking about her and I can't stop it.
The point of this post is that I am for the first time in 4 years really struggling with not going to the corner store. I am losing the battle with my OCD thoughts and the one sure fire way I know of stopping it, even temporarily, is to get absolutely smashed. Ive been pasing my living room for like an hour and I figured it would be better to get some stuff out instead of diving back into that hole.
I think I just need to know that someone is hearing this and sympathizes. Its real fucking bad right now. Im getting irrational and i hate it. I'm feeling real goddam bad and my best friend is, as above stated, not someone I can talk to about it as she is the main character in my OCD thoughts right now.
I do promise you that I will not go buy booze right now.
Tldr, family deaths, unrecipricated romantic interest, and OCD thoughts have me in a bad place right now and I need some relief so I'm venting. (Not the right word, but it works)
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2021.12.21 01:33 Wanaflaka2012NParents and Dating

NinjaEdit: I didn’t expect for this to become a journal entry for me with my background, but I appreciate the space this sub gives me to do so.
Aside from the obvious patterns we all fall into as a result of our upbringings, how do you all handle the topic of your nparent(s) throughout the stages of dating, and eventually the stages of a relationship? Starting a family is a top priority to me.
Context: my Mother was 20 and my Father was 22 when I was born - having met in HS. I have no idea how a relationship was fostered between them. They split when I was ~15 months old, with me staying with my Mom. Cue my stepdad entering my life at ~18 months old. That man is a national treasure, and I consider him to be my best friend in life some 30 years later (although I initially viewed him as an enabler).
Growing up, I endured the flavor of nparent that played victim while she succumbed to prescription drugs back when you could just order that shit online. This is with 3 younger siblings, mind you (was not rare for me to come home from HS to my baby sibling screaming in their crib while Mom was PTFO with Judge Judy or Bill O’Reilly reruns on the TV). I had very little contact with my Father at the time, and no contact once I turned 14.
I moved away from that family in October of my senior year of HS with the idea that I was escaping from prison - I enjoyed maybe 3 or 4 months of life before I realized something was off with my Father. It took working for him (at his successful car dealership Empire) during the summer before I went to college for me to fully realize this was just another flavor of nparent.
After college and a year with the federal government, he was able to convince me to start working for him in an accounting / “numbers guy” kinda way, which included WAY more things than just the car business (I was effectively his personal assistant for 3 years before I was able to secure myself an ACTUAL job title and duties). Without diving into the details of these 9 years, I’ve now left the family business with the full realization that I cannot grow as a person until I’m on my own, free of contact from either my Mother or my Father’s family (at the dealerships, I have two ‘brothers’ [Father ‘adopted’ them, 3 and 4 years older than me, and I’m pretty sure he ‘adopted’ them to fill the son sized hole in his heart], two uncles [one of whom runs the show and was my most recent boss...most Boomer guy you can imagine], a stepmom, and countless ‘family friends’ that have been used to guilt trip me over the years).
It’s been 8 months since I’ve spoken with my Father, and years since I’ve spoken with my Mother. I’ve resolved to tell people (acquaintances) that my parents have passed, rather than explaining how I’m estranged from them, separately.
I’ve just gotten out of a semi-serious relationship where it was clear that I have some major unresolved issues surrounding my Father. I’m on an entirely new career trajectory and I’m about a decade behind my peers.
What are you strategies surrounding your nparent(s) during the different stages of dating?
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2021.12.20 23:52 SeeTheSeaInUDPMom Is An Idol Ep.2. : My thoughts and evaluation

Ep2 of one of the best programs to come out of recent kpop, Mom Is An Idol has aired!
After last week's first three members of the mom idol group this show wants to form and debut - Jewelry's Park Jungah, After School's Kahi and Wonder Girls' Sunye - were evaluated, the other three are introduced. There were blind items on who might join and they were right.
Ep1 writeup is here
This post will be kinda different because I was writing down my reactions and thoughts while watching live. It will be like a replay of my emotions haha. Anything extra I add will be in italics.
The 4th member is introduced. Lead vocalist of a all-female rock band and lead/side actress Hyun Jyuni, who has starred in Beethoven Virus, Iris, Descendants Of The Sun. On the singer side, she is known for her powerful rock vocals.
Park Sunjoo already knows her well as she was casted on a show hosted by her.
Vocal evaluation: damn a ballad? A rock ballad…? Pls?? Nah it's the Taeyeon song, A Poem Called You. She's so... weak? She's nervous, holding back, wait, where'd those rock belts go? Girl? Did they all get scared to receive the Jungah and Kahi treatment and go easy on the power? She was so weak. The first evaluation that left me disappointed...
Oh no. She said she had vocal cord nodules so she had to change her voice from powerful to soft. o u c h. This is obligatory by now but yeah, she was so weak. I hope she improves. She is given a Low. Deserved actually, she could've chosen a really good rock song that doesn't need many high notes... but I understand. Vocal cord nodules fuck you up majorly, it can make a opera singer be afraid of opening her mouth again.
Dance : she chooses Gucci by Jessi. Damn she's lit! She looks like the actress version of Lachica's H1. Eyes and all. Kahi approves. Well done.
Oh man, her moves aren't that neat. Kinda stiff, not moving fully. She got groove and swag though, and in the middle, her body gave out full time. You could see her panting. Oh damn. Mentors don't go easy on peeps with less stamina. I mean they faulted that for Jungah where it was less obvious…
I had expected a Low - Average, but she gets a Low for both. Mentors praise her charm, charisma and say she can improve.
Funny backstage scene. She meets the others, sits next to Kahi, says she feels like she doesn't deserve to sit next to her. Kahi says Jyuni was cool. Jyuni says 'you burnt up the stage right before me… how can I be anything now' and Kahi like the QUEEN she is jokingly goes 'sorry, y'all~'.
Byul is a solo RnB ballad singer who debuted 2002 with '32nd December'. She won the SBS Rookie award for it. She went on to marry entertainer Haha in 2012. She has three kids.
Ooh hell yeah, Mommies Group showing Kpop what a VOCAL line is. And who else to get in except the 2002 rookie award winner, ballad singer Byul? She's popular but no one can guess her because they don't know her as an 'idol'. She said she joined because she wants to be in a group and rely on someone and not be alone all the time. Aww.
She chooses Holo by Lee Hi and slays it, High grade worthy the moment she does that high note. She could've shown a bit more power or high notes, but I know she was scared of the vibrato comment that the mentors passed to Jungah. I guess they all were...
It works??? The mentors praise her as 'idol-like' and 'modern'. Ha. She evaded the Jungah judgement.
Or…? no. Suspense.
She is given an Average.
Wooooah hold on.
Exca-use me but the vocal judging on this show is getting a slight bit ridiculous. What am I hearing from the vocal coach? She sang too many low notes and the bright, nasal Byul that they know needs to be back?
She's a mature woman not the 19 year old Byul anymore. She will and cannot sing like she was at age 18. Omg what? 'Her voice has gotten deeper due to shouting at the kids and she needs to start TALKING in a nasal voice so she gets her skills back' WHAT KINDA NONSENSE IS THIS? I'M ANGRY OMG
WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS? Is this even a legit critique or reason? Or are they just searching for reasons to not give her a High because they all love Sunye too much?
Jungah sang the same as in 2005 and retained her voice, mentors roasted her for it. Byul did the opposite, could pass as a 2020 indie girl, and mentors roast her for it too?
BITCHES CATCH MY HANDS.
Dance : She chooses Somi's Dumb Dumb and wow, she has reslly never danced before. Like at all. And it's so visible. But her stage presence and expressions were really a page out of Jang Wonyoung's book. She really went back to her 20s here and looked f r e s h! Her expressions was really idol-like.
She even re-recorded the song with her voice because she wanted to do it live lmao. BYJ praises her ability to hide her skills behind her stage presence. Is this worthy of an Average because it was idol like...?
Surprisingly, she gets a Low. Oof so the dance judging is the only thing I can get behind on this show. I mean sorry y'all had THE Kahi on this as a contestant, there ain't no way there's someone who can top her (And I'm still firmly standing by the fact that Sunye's performance was not worthy of a High skill-wise). I had expected an Average because she really showed great expressions but oh well. But what the mentors say is right - this group of mom-dols need to SLAY it in the current industry. The public will go 'ah her dance skills are bad cuz shes a mom' either way, they'll look down on them. She'll improve a lot. Just put her in the Kahi-Jungah bootcamp lmao
Apart from that I love her easy going personality and humour. Shes someone who'll definitely brighten everyone. If she were to debut today she'd be the variety person.
Yang Eunji was part of Baby V.O.X.'s 2nd generation, Baby V.O.X. Re.V. from 2005 to 2007. They were supposed to carry forward Baby V.O.X.'s legacy but that era was kinda shitty for girl groups plus that legacy is way too big to fill so they disbanded. They had some killer songs like I Believe, Never Say Goodbye and Shee. She married football player Lee Ho and has three daughters
Wow they guess her faster than Byul wtf haha y'all wanna tell me Re.v. was known? Dayum. Shes also Yang Mira's sister and the wife of Football player Lee Ho.
Wow...hearing Never Say Goodbye again where One More Time and Diva played omg- Kim Dohoon wrote that song, and she thanks him profusely. He's meeting a lot of his old proteges here. Omg her voice is so unique, it's husky but girly, just like a more older version of Dana. She also reminds me of a slightly older Ayumi visual-wise, with her big eyes. Y2K alright!
She says her daughters are in grade 5 and 3 and watch her old videos and make fun of her - kids pls leave y2k fashion alone! - says because she married at a young age and had kids almost successively she forgot and suppressed being a singer, even refused the show couple times. But because her daughters are picking on her, she got provoked and wanted show her kids what she can do. Yes mom, put your daughter in her place!
And wow - she's the only one to come in with taped mix and not hand mic bevause she'll be doing live. Like, dance + singing together. Shes the only contestant that chose to do both. It's either setting her up for major failure OR… propels her to the ace of the team. She says she regrets it right now in this moment lol.
The song she chooses is Red Flavor by Red Velvet.
And… damn she's stable? She does not sound out of breath! She dances less, smaller, and pretty 'lazily' but even high notes, she does them with as good as no shaking! And she's happy, I can feel it. It's like something is slowly awaking in her when her eyes change while singing. She looks absolutely gorgeous. The Idol hype squad at the sides are cheering her on. She finishes safely with no major problems.
It is revealed that she is indeed a special person : because behind her smile is kinda a sad story. Her occupation she filled in in the 'form' was 'housewife'. When asked for her strengths she wrote 'drying hair quickly'.
The female rookie idols in front of her tear up, saying that Eunji is a sunbae whom they respect, that it hurts their heart to see her suppressed like this. She asks them not to cry so she doesn't, and in the waiting room, Byul the moodmaker goes 'y'all don't cry~ otherwise we'll all do too~'. A male idol, Verivery's Kangmin, when asked about his thoughts, calls her pretty and hopes her daughters will see her the same way. Eunji says thanks and returns the compliment that he's handsome, would like him as a son as she has only girls. He's taken aback. He didn't get bro-zoned or friend-zoned, but son-zoned haha. Way to go young man.
She gets a Low on her dancing and BYJ is honest : she says it was like trying to hit two birds with a stone and missing both. She danced like a kid dancing. Yeah… it was. But in my eyes, she's a stable lead in the making. All she needs is the right people around her, C O N F I D E N C E and practice, practice, practice.
Her vocal gets an Average and this is also deserved. She didn't blow the roof off the house but she had some power while doing the high notes despite dancing, and with good technique and her memorable voice, she can be really good. I'm really rooting for her and Jyuni. I mean no one is gonna get eliminated lmaoo this ain't Moms Planet 999 but… I want to see them become good and be the black horses.
And damn they already have chemistry as a group! Them all complementing each other, joking about having pregnancy bans instead of dating bans, joking about if they date they'll be in bigger trouble (because they'd be cheating…)
Dance trainers Lia Kim, J black + Mary and Loveran are called to help them in dancing. They want to make them a really good dance team, fitting to today's kpop standards.
They are then called on stage and introduced to a mission : If they don't reach 20000 followers on Instagram in a month (the id is @tvn_mamadol) and the fanclub reaches 2000 members, they can't debut. their Insta already has 15k, fanclub has 200 already, it's ok.
Scuse me but this is actually a fcking joke... that makes sense. 20k followers ain't bad for a pre-debut following.
But anyways, they are given a dance battle mission in groups of 2.
The mentors put Kahi and Jyuni, whom I will call the ssenunnies, in one team. Byul and Sunye, let me call them the JYP girls, in one team. Jungah and Eunji, the Y2K girls, in one team. Perfect.
Lia Kim is the JYP girls mentor. J black and Mary are the y2k girls mentor. Loveran, K-vogueing G.O.A.T., mentors the ssenunnies.
The team that wins gets to be main dancer. And of course everyone looks at Kahi because… well, she's Kahi. She's the definition of 'main dancer' But we never know what happens on this show, I mean.... Byul and Jungah got an Average on their vocals…
Also I'm curious to know who's gonna be the vocal mentor. Give us Jang Jinyoung - or no, Jungah is his sunbae by a year, it's gonna be weird lol. Please not the vocal dude who did the evaluations. Maybe Yoo Youngjin? That would be... Wow.
We are introduced to the choreos : JYP girls get Jazz-Funk by Lia Kim. Full of stretching and all. Byul is surprised by her own flexibility lol.
Y2k girls get Girlish by the couple. Jungah says she's lived as a mom for so long, shes not a tomboy anymore. Eunji is like 'imma give up....'.
Ssenunnies get vogueing by Loveran. It's new land for Kahi too, who has more of a hip hop base.
They need to practice for 7! days because there's a interim check in a week. 3 mentors except their own, BYJ, Hong Jinkyung and WOODZ will give them all max 10 points each.
Team ssenunnies go first in these really hot outfits and slays it. Perfectly in sync and I couldn't even recognise who is who apart from the legs and the small small details and isolation that Kahi added.
They get a score of 45 out of 50. Jyuni gets a lot if praises.
JYP girls is next, Byul is shown having body problems with splits while practicing. They performed and it was good! Yes there was a stamina difference but that's ok.
But damn what's this? BYJ gets Byul crying? Don't you even dare to-
Omg. No. She just didn't-. She's saying Byul plays and fools around before going on stage and that she feels Byul is being insincere, and that is reflecting in the difference between her and Sunye.
This is like - so - cruel. That's her personality, what you wanna do? Change it like you can change a 16 year old little girl?
Byul defends herself, and says she fools around to make the atmosphere brighter and not because she takes this easily, says everyone worked hard and is tense and she worked hard too, stretched every day, did what was told of her. She says she feels she's not good enough either way, she doesn't need to be reminded of that, and that she is as sincere as everyone else. Everyone cries with her, Hong Jinkyung scolds the mentors they're taking this too seriously at an interim check.
And I agree cuz wtf? She memorized these hard and physically straining moves and performed them well, what's the reason to call her out on being cheerful?
BYJ then tries to calm the atmosphere by basically joking that moms are crybabies, but I can see this comment hurt them all. Kahi looks like she about to beat a bitch up but Jyuni starts crying because her feels with Byul and she goes all out Mom mode towards her.
The episode ends there - they will show JYP girls scores and Y2k girls stage next week, ig.
Preview shows the moms visiting each other's houses and practicing together with their kids, and a performance stage with the members of each team as part of a dance crew lead by their mentors - wow wtf an idol is supposed to blend in with a dance crew nowadays? The SWF effect, I see~ - and Sunye gets an injured-during-camera-practice arc.
I hope they focus less on the 'competition' and gruelling training/ 'being good enough' aspect that each of them had already gone through, and more on the wholesome, moms supporting each other into getting back to their groove kinda show. I so wanna see all their friendship grow.
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2021.12.20 22:51 Wpg-PolarBear-5092Manitoba Covid Vaccination data for December 20th - Age 5+ First Dose 86.18% (+0.27% since Fri)**, Second dose 79.51% (+0.07% since Fri)**, Third Dose 14.61% (+%)**, Total doses administered 2,345,656 (+33,198 since Fri), doses delivered to MB 2,973,710 (+52,650)

In the title, the Doses delivered should read 2,973,710 (unchanged) I missed changing the parts in the brackets.
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Data Issue: MB Shared Health appear to be just 'publishing' the cumulative total doses now. So there is still a data backlog, which the 2nd chart shows how much the data changes day over day.
Doses Scheduled for Today : 3,411 - this appears to not having been updated in many days (Supersites, Focused Immunization Teams, Pop-up Clinics)
StatAmount (daily change)
People administered at least one dose1,121,152 (+3,585 since Friday)
Percentage Aged 5+ Vaccinated (1 dose)86.18% (+0.27% since Fri) [84.4%]**
People 'Fully Vaccinated' (2 doses)1,034,416 (+1,015 since Fri)
Percentage Aged 5+ With 2 Doses79.51% (+0.07% since Fri) [78.2%]**
People with 3 Doses190,088 (+28,598 since Fri)
Percentage Aged 5+ With 3 Doses14.61% (+2.20% since Fri) [14.5%]**
Percentage of MB Population 'Fully Vaccinated'74.75% (+0.07% since Fri)**
Total doses administered2,345,656 (+33,198 since Fri)
Doses administered per 100k population169,512.60 (+2,399.21 since Fri)
Total doses delivered to MB2,973,710 (unchanged)
Percentage of doses administered78.88% (+1.12% since Fri)
**The Percentages will be based on MB Shared Health published population numbers from the Technical Briefing from May 28th (page 6) - Eligible Population 12+ = 1,175,703, and Total MB Population as 1,383,765 (Stats Canada Q3 2021 estimate) going forward. Eligible Population 5+ estimated at 1,300,910 (with data on population by Age from MB Shared Health June 1st 2020). The 'Official' Percentage from the Reports page will be posted as well in the square brackets, but they are consistently lower than they should be according to MB Health's own published vaccination & population data. It may be data they have, but don't publish about how many vaccinated are actually Manitoban's
'Fully Vaccinated' = 2 doses for now.
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Vaccine Bulletin # 543 - https://manitoba.ca/covid19/updates/index.html
'A total of 2,345,656 doses of vaccine have been administered in Manitoba, including 53,414 first doses given to children aged five to 11. This represents 42.7 per cent of children in that age group.'
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First Nations data last updated 'December 16' - Previous update Dec 9nd.
Total Doses Administered: 255,338 (+22,791 from last week), number of doses allocated no longer posted.
On Reserve Population:
With 2 doses: 90.6% (previous weeks: 74.1%, 88.5%, 88.5%, 87.4%, 86.6%).
With 3 Doses: 13.9% (new this week)
Off Reserve Population:
with 2 Doses: 46% (previous weeks: 97.6%, 70.4%, 70.2%, 69.3%, 68.5%)
With 3 Doses: 9% (new this week)
from https://geoportal.gov.mb.ca/app/c37bd19db9de4fbeafbc6061ec9c0524
First dose data was removed from the dashboard for the First Nations this week.
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This next chart tries to show the data backlog in a more clear way. The 'Updated Cumulative Total' is a combination of the Cumulative First Dose + Second Dose from the MB Gov Covid Vaccinations Reports page. I added the Cumulative 3rd Dose yesterday, and for now to show how the Cumulative Total jumped from a couple of days ago with this new data.
DateCumulative 3rd DoseUpdated Cumulative TotalOriginally PublishedDifference from Originally PublishedChange from Previous Days numbersUpdated Daily Administered
Dec 19th190,0882,345,6562,345,6560-3,072
Dec 18th187,3402,342,5842,342,5840-10,330
Dec 17th178,2642,332,2542,332,2540-11,606
Dec 16th167,8792,320,6482,312,458+8,190+8,19014,419
Dec 15th155,2492,306,2292,297,218+9,011+4,50613,769
Dec 14th143,4902,292,4602,283,775+8,685+2,81911,555
Dec 13th134,0602,280,9052,369,451***-88,546+1,81710,077
*** Dec 9th to 13th had a sudden jump in the originally published doses by about 100,000. There was no explanation for the jump, nor when it lowered again on the 14th.
Dec 8th and earlier are showing higher Cumulative Totals (which now includes 3rd doses) than the number of Total Doses Administered that was originally provided by MB Shared Health. March 28th is the date I started tracking the cumulative first doses and 'originally published' totals - Data going back past March 28th is still being entered.
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Average Daily Doses Administered for the last few weeks (Mon to Sun Daily Administered/7)
Week of Dec 13th to 19th: 10,690 (Originally Published numbers give an average of 13,235 estimated - had to re-calculate because of the 100,000 reduction during this week from the previous week, otherwise it was -1,243)
Week of Dec 6th to Dec 12th: 7,534 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 7,014. (Had to re-calculate the originally published numbers to deal with the 100,000 bump in numbers, this dropped the average from 21,299)
Week of Nov 29th to Dec 5th: 6,250 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 6,077.
Week of Nov 22nd to 28th: 4,152 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 3,765.
Week of Nov 15th to 21st: 2,197 (Originally Published numbers give an average of 2,343)
Week of Nov 8th to 14th: 2,204 is now higher than the Originally Published numbers average of 2,177.
Big jump in recent weeks with the 3rd doses being added. Each are still increasing day over day as data backlog is slowly caught up.
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Eligibility updated September Dec 10th (Previously updated on the Nov 19th)
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First Doses: 'A pediatric Pfizer vaccine has been approved for children aged five to 11. Manitoba has expanded vaccine eligibility to this age group.
Parents and caregivers can make first and second dose appointments for eligible children online or by calling 1-844-626-8222. This vaccine is also available from medical clinics, pharmacies and other locations
Children must be five years old at the time the appointment for the first dose is booked. The interval between first and second doses must be a minimum of eight weeks, or a minimum of 21 days for children living in First Nations communities.'
and for Third Doses:
NEW: To ensure the strongest immune response possible, the timeline between the second and third dose is being shortened for some individuals. Anyone aged 60 or older or those aged 18 or older who live in a First Nations community who received their second dose on or before July 10 are now strongly encouraged to receive their third dose.
A six month timeframe between second and third doses continues to be recommended for most other eligible Manitobans.
Individuals who are moderately to severely immunocompromised or have travel plans to a destination that only accepts certain vaccines or combinations of vaccine require a prescription to receive a third dose earlier than six months, unless they meet the criteria noted above. This approach is not based on an increased risk related to travel generally, or travel to certain destinations. For clarity, if you received two doses of the same mRNA vaccine, you should not be offered a third dose earlier than six months for travel.
Visit the Eligibility-Criteria link below to see full details.
There is now a recommended 56 days wait between 1st & 2nd doses (minus time frame remains at 28 days), and 6 months between 2nd & 3rd doses (booster).
https://www.gov.mb.ca/covid19/vaccine/eligibility-criteria.html
https://manitoba.ca/covid19/vaccine/finder.html
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The Manitoba Covid-19 vaccine booking website is live (still requires you to be eligible):https://patient.petalmd.com/login?groupId=6032
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'Manitobans who have received the COVID-19 vaccine can now access their immunization record online' 'Individuals who are fully vaccinated can now request a digital or physical immunization card'

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'Effective today, individuals without access to the internet can call 1-844-MAN-VACC (1-844-626-8222) and follow the prompts to request their immunization card.'
https://www.gov.mb.ca/covid19/vaccine/immunization-record.html
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Timeline of Cumulative 1st Dose milestones (from Dec 1st, 2020):
Dec 7th - 1,100,000 - 98 days - as of Dec 15th, the Cumulative First Doses for Dec 7th now shows as 1,100,232. This is now 2 days earlier than it originally appeared.
Sept 1st - 1,000,000 - 65 days - as of Nov 19th, the Cumulative First Doses now shows as 1,000,122 for Sept the 1st. (7 days earlier than it looked like it would have been originally). This is still likely to move another day earlier within a couple of weeks or so.
June 29th - 900,000 - 24 days - as of Dec 6th, the Cumulative First Doses now shows 900,033 for June 29th - this is 7 days earlier than it looked originally.
June 5th - 800,000 - 11 days - as of Sept 6th, the Cumulative First Doses now shows 800,428, now 3 days earlier than it looked originally.
May 25th 700,000 - 8 days - as of Sept 28th, the Cumulative First Doses for May 25th now shows 700,146.
May 17th 600,000 - 8 days - as of Oct 25th May 8th now shows as 600,081, 2 days earlier than it looked.
May 9th 500,000 - 11 days - May 9th now shows as 500,109 first doses (updated October 18th to reflect this) This is now 2 days earlier than it originally appeared.
April 28th 400,000 - 9 days - as of August 13th, the Cumulative First Doses for April 28th now shows as 400,016 moving this a day earlier than it initially looked.
April 19th 300,000 - 12 days. As of Oct 20th, the Cumulative First Doses for April 19th now shows as 300,036, moving this a day earlier than it initially appeared.
April 7th 200,000 - 16 days from previous. As of Nov 4th, the data for April 7th now shows as 200,053 cumulative first doses. This is a day earlier than it appeared originally.
March 22nd 100,000 - 90 days from first doses administered. As of July 9th, March 22nd now shows as 100,894 moving this milestone one day earlier.
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Timeline of Cumulative 2nd Dose milestones (first one Dec 21st, 2020):
October 21st 1,000,000 - 67 days. As of December 9th, the Cumulative Second Doses for Oct 21st now shows 1,000,021. This is 6 days earlier than it originally looked. This is likely to move another day earlier within a few weeks.
August 14th 900,000 - 21 days. As of Dec 13th the Cumulative Second Doses for Aug 14th now shows 900,100 moving it 8 days earlier than it originally looked.
July 24th 800,000 - 13 days. the Cumulative Second Doses now shows as 800,023 on July 24th (as of Oct 4th) moved 2 days earlier than it originally appeared.
July 11th 700,000 - 8 days. As of Oct 12th the Cumulative Second doses now shows 700,086 moving it 3 days earlier than it initially appeared.
July 3rd 600,000 - 5 days - as of August 31st, the Cumulative Second doses now shows 600,086 moving it 2 days earlier than it originally looked.
June 28th 500,000 - 4 days. As of Oct 4th, the data for June 28th now shows 500,024. 1 day earlier than it originally appeared.
June 24th 400,000 - 5 days - as of July 9th, this moved 1 day earlier to June 24th, now showing 400,790
June 19th 300,000 - 8 days, as of Oct 4th the data for June 19th now shows 300,151. One day earlier than it appeared initially.
June 11th 200,000 - 21 days - as of July 23rd the Cumulative Second Doses now shows 200,299 moving it 1 day earlier.
May 21st 100,000 - 137 days from first Second dose administered (Jan 5th 2021) - this has moved up 6 days - As of Nov 14th, May 22nd now shows as 100,015 as the data backlog has continued to be worked on.
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Timeline of Cumulative 3nd Dose milestones (first one May 15th, 2021):
Dec 7th 100,000 - 206 days. As of December 15th, the Cumulative Second Doses for Dec 7th now shows 100,027
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Most Data from (unless noted elsewhere):
https://manitoba.ca/covid19/vaccine/reports.html#reports
and
https://covid19tracker.ca/vaccinationtracker.html
(covid19tracker.ca has some issues with their data & percentages lately, for example their 'doses delivered' has been behind by a day or two. Then the percentages of at least one dose is high because they make a bad assumption that the 'Total Doses Administered' minus the 'Cumulative 2nd doses' = the number who have received at least one dose. Which should be true, but because of the MB Shared Health data backlog it isn't accurate, this means they consistently have the numbers for first doses higher than the actual data shows, which means their percentage of population or age 12+ population is higher than it should be. This issue has become bigger with 3rd doses not being accounted for either)
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2021.12.20 20:43 Ok-Vegetable7196I'm at lost about this Christmas

Since I can remember (that isn't much, as I've lost basically half of my (18) life's memories, I have detested Christmas for some years (5? 4?). Although I have depression all year long, I start getting worse around these dates. Seeing everyone excited and joyful makes me want to cry.
I think at the beginning it was because it wasn't a special day. We eat with the same family members that we see each weekend, do nothing, as every weekend, and then I get presents I don't want or like. I hate all of it. That I have to go to the store to choose what I want, but I can't choose the stores I want to, to buy clothes, which couldn't be further down the list of my interests....
I want something meaningful. Even if it's just playing board games, or karaoke or I don't know. Eating the same lame food and giving expensive empty presents makes me so depressed.
I had also dealt with an ED from the ages of 12-15, which made eating in front of people almost unbearable.
Anyways, on September 2019, I was SA. Fast forward to New Year's Eve, I overheard my grandfather make a comment that basically implied he SA someone! And he saw nothing wrong with it! (He even used the R word, like, not even tried to say 'why didn't you insisted / pressure her? No! He said 'why didn't you r ped her?'). I was taken aback and told my older cousin, 19 at the time. She just said 'It's because he's old' (he was like 72 I think).
I forgot about that event until a month ago, and just thinking about when he is so caring, and lovely, but also slaps my ass (is pretty common for old people to do that, but he's the only man in my family that does this) after I've told him repeatedly it's annoying, and he knows and laughs. I don't want to see him. I don't want to see anyone.
It's tiring. Looking at the people you admired as a child. Everyone complains secretly about everyone.'Your mom is too strict' 'Your cousin is a mess' 'Your grandfather is a narcissist' 'Your boyfriend is childish' 'Your cousin is egocentric' EVERYONE HAS SOMETHING TO SAY.
EXCEPT ME. FUCK. I JUST WANT TO DO SHIT.
Last year, my boyfriend (of almost three years) came home for New Year's Eve. This year, he wants me to go to his house for Christmas Eve, so he can come over for New Year's Eve. I asked my mother about this, knowing she's very strict basically only about this one topic. She demands that I'm always home for Christmas and New Year. One year, she even told me 'I would like to celebrate New Year's Eve somewhere else, but if I'm stuck here, so are you'.
So, I asked about not spending Christmas Eve with the family and she said it made her immensely sad that I didn't want to spend it with my family (because covid restrictions aren't so hard this year, we would have an almost regular night, with my cousins, grandparents, aunt's and uncles, some of them we have only seen them a handful of times because of covid). She is hurt that 'You hate Christmas, because capitalism, bacuse it's a Christian holiday (we're all atheist, I would rather celebrate the Winter Solstice because it sounds cooler), because this, because that, you dislike birthdays, you forget dates (I forgot that Christmas Eve was on the 24th before asking. I also forget everyone's birthdays). What else? You don't like anything!'
My boyfriend, meanwhile, has been bugging me for days saying I should insist to my mother that I'm an adult, and she doesn't always have a say in what I'll do. That last year, he came over (leaving alone his sister and recently divorced mother for New Year's Eve (although he said they don't do anything special on that day)). That we have been together for three Christmas and he knows couples that have been together for a year or less that switch families between Christmas Eve and New Year. His mother is also siding with him.
I told him what my mother said and he refused to come over for the holidays, that if I want, he'll pick me up, or I can go to his house.
It's just more depressing. I need to study for my finals, that will be in January. See my friends that went abroad for university. See my boyfriend, that I only a couple of days a month because of long distance. Be with my family, that I rarely see now because of university and covid. And on top of that, enjoy a holiday I despise. Because if I'm not enjoying it, I get the 'People are not always happy, but it's just like this. You can't be unhappy about everything all the time'
Relevant information: No one knows about the ED and the SA, and I've been going to therapy about it.
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2021.12.20 16:01 larki18[Q, DEC 2012] The singer counts family hiking trips and 'dinner at the Flowers house' among his most content moments. 'I want to be myself. I live my life how I want to. Isn't that the idea of what rock and roll is? I am more rock and roll than just about anybody else that you're going to meet.'

Typed up from the physical magazine, apologies for any errors.
There is always enough time for prayer. This is what Brandon Flowers tells himself while he is rushing around as the frontman for a mammoth rock band. Often he'll be halfway out of some upscale suite in whatever country The Killers happen to be touring when the opening lines of a pertinent Mormon hymn will spring to mind: 'Ere you left your room this morning, did you think to pray?' Then he'll take a couple of quiet minutes to give thanks for what he has, ask that his loved ones be kept safe and meekly request that he not embarrass himself. 'Sometimes I'll pray in the middle of the day,' says Flowers. 'I'm happier when I'm praying in the morning and at night.'
It is Monday, 24 September and The Killers are in Los Angeles, California. Flowers chooses to meet at the restaurant of his West Hollywood hotel, where we take an outside table shaded from the midday sun. Tanned, healthy and handsome, the 5'11' singer could have stepped down from one of the fashion billboards lining nearby Sunset Boulevard. He appears laid-back in a plain blue t-shirt and jeans but our initial conversation is puzzlingly tense. Knuckles are methodically cracked, eye contact is avoided and 'I don't know,' politely delivered in his gentle rural voice, because a quite irritating catchphrase.
Fifteen minutes or so pass before Flowers begins to warm up. When The Killers first got underway with their 2004 album, Hot Fuss, his concept of what a rockstar should be had been gleaned from boyhood devotion to Morrissey, New Order and Oasis. What emerged was a truculent poseur in eyeliner. Now that he is 31 years old, Flowers has had the chance to figure things out for himself. Raised as a Mormon, he didn't give serious thought to full church commitment until reaching his mid-20s. 'I still hadn't chosen which path I was going to go down,' he says. 'Was I going to go to Ziggy Stardust or Mormonism?' A gee whiz soprano laugh. 'I made my decision and once that was solidified it's become very easy for me.' Flowers hasn't touched alcohol or cigarettes for the past five years, nor does he take drugs. Married since 2005 with three young sons, the singer counts family hiking trips and 'dinner at the Flowers house' among his most content moments. 'I want to be myself,' he says of these quaint pleasures. 'I live my life how I want to. Isn't that the idea of what rock and roll is? I am more rock and roll than just about anybody else that you're going to meet.'
We are talking the day after The Killers' new album, Battle Born, has topped the UK's charts. The Las Vegas quartet's preceding three studio releases all did the same, so this is very much business as usual. Still, no other American band in history has unfailingly hit Number 1 from their debut onwards. Such an impressive profile, along with worldwide sales exceeding the 15 million mark, hasn't been attained without a substantial amount of road work. Eventually the mileage proved too high for some; following 2008's Day & Age, bassist Mark Stoermer and guitarist Dave Keuning indicated that they wanted a rest. Consequently, barring a few festival dates and 4 July concert on the White House lawn, The Killers were put on hold for most of 2010. That year Flowers found success with his own record, Flamingo, while Stoermer and drummer Ronnie Vannucci both dabbled in less conspicuous side-projects. Asked what the other Killers thought of his solo material, Flowers says that the subject doesn't really come up but Vannucci told him that he liked it.
Having reconvened in May of last year, the band has no apparent difficulty in picking up exactly where they left off. The marketing push for Battle Born included a short documentary made by fatalistic German director Werner Herzog. Uninformed viewers of the 18 September online premiere could have been forgiven for supposing that The Killers are a power trio. 'On the day of this filming, Dave Keuning (guitar) was not to be found,' declared an elucidatory caption. So where was he? 'I forget,' Flowers claims. 'He just didn't show up. He's allowed to do what he wants.'
A couple of hours later Keuning unravels this particular mystery, 'They probably want me to lie but I was in Hawaii,' he admits. 'I planned a vacation and I didn't want to break it. The cat's out of the bag now!'
We we are at a downtown Warehouse in which The Killers have assembled to be photographed. Coincidentally, the video for Flowers' single Crossfire - wherein actress Charlize Theron rescues the captive singer from malicious ninjas - was shot here two years ago. Lazing on a battered green sofa in an austere anteroom, Keuning distractedly toys with the acoustic guitar that he purchased earlier today. 'It's a 1921 Gibson,' he says. 'It didn't cost as much as you might think; twenty-one hundred bucks.
Keuning (correctly pronounced to 'rhyme with tuning', he notes) started The Killers after moving to Las Vegas from his native Iowa in 2000. He sought like-minded musicians by advertising in a free weekly newspaper and Flowers responded. By 2002 in the wake of a few rhythm section personnel changes, the existing lineup was finalized. While Flowers has since conducted several image experiments involving feather epaulettes, pink leather and a mustache, Keuning is consistently identifiable by his fashion-resistant big hair. Indeed, minus Flowers' boutique panache the remaining killers are all brawn, boots and beards; they wouldn't look out of place crammed into a pickup truck with a deer carcass lashed to the bonnet.
Nobody seems overly concerned that Flowers is positioned as the face and voice of The Killers; Keuning neatly distills the pros and cons of Other Guy status. 'It just depends on my mood,' he says. 'Sometimes it's annoying when I'll be doing a guitar solo and some people would rather watch Brandon drink a bottle of water. Other times, when he does more work to do interviews, it's relaxing for me. I can be like, oh, I'll spend an extra hour at the hotel. What does he get out of that? Extra attention. We all share in the benefits of promotion equally so in the end it doesn't matter.'
When the 36-year-old does participate in media duties he is intermittently left feeling irked by the results. 'I've been let down,' Keuning sighs before recounting how a recent magazine article portrayed him as 'some fruit cake'. Previously he has been depicted in print as a tetchy oaf, which is not true. Yes, taken purely at face value Keuning is the band's most unreconstructed component: he owns a 1979 Pontiac Firebird Trans Am similar to the one driven by Burt Reynolds in Smokey And The Bandit; once within this vehicle he blasts '80s heavy metal cassettes through the ancient tape deck because it is 'part of the experience'; his favorite drink is a nameless, self-invented cocktail consisting of equal parts Jägermeister, Red Bull and cranberry juice that he insists is delicious. 'Everyone thinks I'm so aggressive,' he says at the mention of his short fuse. 'I've broken a TV or two in hotel rooms but I'm not that bad a person.' In a matter of seconds it becomes clear that Keuning would rather be described as emotional rather than fiery.
Regarding the band's hiatus, Keuning details how relentless the schedule had been up until that point. 'It was non-stop,' he concludes. 'I wanted to live in normal life, just for a bit.' Keuning's primary motivation for taking a break was seeing more of his seven-year-old son, Kyler. 'I felt that I needed to be around for at least a year to teach him how to ride a bike,' he reasons. 'So I'm sorry if no one's sympathetic but fuck you.' The guitarist is not currently staying in Los Angeles with everyone else, preferring instead to commute to nearly two hours from his home in San Diego because this is where Kyler and 'the mother of my child' live. Keuning's affability falters only when discussing the complex relationship that he has with this woman. 'For the record, it's on-off,' he says. 'It's driving me nuts, it's not very fun and I'd rather not talk about it.' We skip on to the lighter topic of his typical leisure activities instead. 'I do things like buy guitars to make myself feel better,' he says plaintively. 'Or maybe play basketball in the backyard by myself. I never have anyone to play with.'
Flowers' pokes his head around the door. 'Checking in?' asks Keuning. 'Can I grab my shirt?' The bare-chested singer replies. He is partially changed into somber formal trousers that rakishly hang short over black scuffed shoes. His 29-inch waist and athletic physique are the obvious rewards of daily visits to the gym. By contrast Keuning is not yet totally match fit and carries a slight paunch that he makes no effort to hold in. Flowers swigs from a small plastic container containing a chocolate-flavored protein shake called Muscle Milk. 'This is lunch,' he says.
Tonight The Killers are the featured act on Jimmy Kimmel Live!, a chat show that is actually pre-recorded. It is early evening when Flowers arrives at the studio. There are a few hundred fans patiently waiting by the rear gates, close to the car park where the band will perform. Flowers' chauffeur-driven SUV pulls up and idles alongside the queue as admittance is arranged. 'The zombies are out,' growls the driver. Perched on the back seat, Flowers chuckles nervously and widens his eyes in disbelief at this nonchalant unpleasantness. The singer is mostly shielded from public view by tinted glass but one lucky teenage girl spots him through the windscreen. Her bashfully awestruck expression suggests that this is quite a major event. As the barrier swings open Flowers offers a little wave and turns his smile up to seven. Even accounting for obsessive local attitudes to dentistry, the singer's front teeth are strikingly white and straight.
'They're fake,' says Flowers. 'I had braces and I didn't take good care of them. When it was time to get the braces off they took pieces of tooth with them. I was 14. I went to school and people kept trying to tell me that I had food in my teeth but they were holes. Eventually I had to get veneers.'
Before you decided to become so clean living what's the most drunk you've ever been?
Maybe when I was 18 or 19. We used to go to nightclubs and things. I think everybody's been to that point where they think they might die. I can remember the next day, if I could have spoken I would have said, 'Take me to the hospital.' I'd been drinking gin. I hate gin.
Are you judgmental at all if the rest of the band has a drink?
No! You've got to choose what you're going to do. That's one of the gifts that I believe we're given on this Earth. I don't see...I'm not looking down at anybody for that.
What makes you feel guilty?
Being on the road away from my kids. You get accustomed to their innocence and I really miss not just them but that too. And I feel guilty sometimes when I swear too much. That's something I'm working on, getting rid of that.
You're like something out of the '50s...
Yeah, I'm not hard-edged [laughs]. My upbringing was really solid and I think that has a lot to do with it. I didn't have a lot of strife in my life.
I get the impression that you'd rather be at home mowing the lawn than out on tour.
No, I love being on tour. It's just that I have...I've got to take care of my kids. I'm not going to be that sad when it slows down. It's just a natural...it's inevitable.
Inevitable that one day your appeal will become more selective?
What do you mean?
That you'll probably slow down when you're selling less records.
No, no, no. It would be our choice; it wouldn't be because people liked us less. I have enough appeal to last for another...I think I've got a couple more decades in me.
The Killers are yet to sound check but backstage in Jimmy Kimmel's hospitality lounge somebody has already had too much excitement. 'I'm taking him home,' says Flowers' elfin blonde wife, Tana, as she carries 18-month-old Henry toward the exit. The couple's other sons, Ammon, five, and Gunnar, three, are left in their father's care. 'Don't let these two get drunk,' Tana jokingly warns.
Helping Flowers with this task is his 43-year-old brother, Shane, who has come along to watch the band's set. The singer says that he doesn't really have a nickname but all of his siblings - he also has four older sisters - call him Bray. The first song that Flowers ever learned the words to with The Cure's 1987 single Just Like Heaven, which he heard through Shane's bedroom door when he was five. In addition to a parallel music taste, the two men share a natural ability at golf bordering on the professional. Brandon has been forced to neglect his game since early summer, when he underwent surgery on a pinched nerve in his left shoulder.
This injury doesn't cause any visible distress as dusk falls and the band go before the cameras to rip through Battle Born's lead single, Runaways. They throw in five untelevised live staples - including a tremendously vigorous rendition of their breakthrough anthem Mr. Brightside - for the deserving spectators before filing back inside. Exertion over, Flowers contendedly hunkers down on a sofa with his brother and a bag of carbo-loaded goodies from regional fast food chain, In-N-Out burger.
At precisely 3 p.m. the following day Mark Stoermer meets me in the hall lobby of a hotel opposite Grauman's Chinese Theater. We take the lift to the top floor and enter an opulently furnished 1,200 square feet space that turns out to be his room. The 35-year-old bassist is residing apart from the rest of the band chiefly because this address is much closer to their various planned appointments. He also values some degree of independence. 'On a day off I take advantage of doing my own thing instead of being in a confined situation where every decision's made as a group,' he says. 'I'll go to a museum or, more often, I'll just chill out and try to pretend like it's normal.' Stormer might also call his girlfriend, have a very occasional drink or watch a film; he especially admires the work of Woody Allen, Federico Fellini and Ingmar Bergman.
On 21 June 2011 Flowers turned 30. None of the killers got him anything as the band has a tacit agreement not to buy presents for each other. This hasn't always been the case though. Six years ago Stoermer bought everyone a Beatles songbook as a Christmas gift. 'I had this vision that we'd learn these songs on the road and sing them backstage,' he says. 'That didn't happen. I never even saw anyone carrying their book around.' Stoermer doesn't recall hearing anything in the way of gratitude, either. Introverted by nature, Stoermer is in the all-too-rare habit of speaking only when he has something to say. 'I feel like I'm out of my shell compared to when I was 16,' he says. 'I definitely was shy. I only had a few friends but I had music. I would listen to albums everyday in their entirety, just sit there with headphones on and escape to a different world.'
As an adolescent one of Stoermer's few friends was Tommy Marth. They knew each other from playing together in a jazz ensemble at school. When The Killers wanted some brass on Sam's Town, their 2006 follow up to Hot Fuss, Stoermer thought that Marth would be perfect. A capable saxophonist with a big personality, Marth fitted in well and returned for Day & Age before becoming a touring member of the band. There was talk of having him contribute to Battle Born but it never happened. Marth was found dead in his Las Vegas home on 23 April 2012, killed by a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head. He was 33 years old.
Stoermer: I knew Tommy probably the best. What can you really say? I think in hindsight I knew that he was going through stuff and was disturbed about a lot of things but at the same time he always put on this kind of joker persona. I took it pretty hard.
Flowers: It makes...it's just shocking. He's the last person you would think would do that. What strange is that he's the one who brought light to the backstage area, brought levity when it was a grind.
Keuning: I'll never forget that he texted me a few days before saying, 'Hey, if you're in town let's hang out.' I said, 'No, I'm sorry, I can't. I'm in San Diego.' His response was like, 'No worries, Dave. You're a good guy.' That struck me as odd that he would say something really nice. But he already knew then what he was doing. I wish I could call him but I can't.
Vannucci: My heart just goes out to his family. I mean, how I feel ...who gives a shit about that? He was a whip-smart mega-talented dude who could talk to anybody. He was likeable, you know? It was a tragedy that he just went, kind of, circling the drain all of a sudden. You never can tell, man...it's not a perfect world for a lot of people.
Wednesday, 26 September. It is mid-afternoon and The Killers are preparing to play the Henry Fonda theater, the 1,300 capacity Hollywood venue that they could fill every night until Christmas. Backstage - understage, to be accurate - Ronnie Vannucci unlocks a tall flight case in which his belongings are stored. The top drawer holds Clinique moisturizer ('We got that at the Jonathan Ross show') and a selection of cotton boxer briefs. 'I like to be held in tight when I perform,' he says. 'Then I peel 'em off and throw 'em at the nearest groupie.'
Vannucci has been married for 9 years so these tawdry souvenirs actually end up nowhere than in the nearest bin. He cracks open a lower compartment and conspiratorially nods his head towards the bottle of Laphroaig malt whiskey peeping out. As it is a show day, Vannucci won't be partaking before the job is done. 'I've seen plenty of bands that go on half-cocked and I don't enjoy that,' he says. 'I want to see somebody who's got their shit together.' Vannucci is a straightforward and gregarious character, keen to banter with whoever happens to be within range. As we move into The Killers' dressing room a passerby asks him how he is doing. 'I am hanging in there and loving it!' comes the answer as he pushes the door shut.
Without an audience Vannucci is more subdued. The surreptitiously urbane drummer's interests include classical composition, architecture and the outdoors ('I like riding bikes and shit') but he is disinclined to share too much information about life away from The Killers. Now that the band has been going for 10 years, Vannucci considers whether he originally imagined that it would last this long. 'In a weird way I did but I've reached that age when you realize the mortality of everything,' he says. 'I'm 36 and I have all these friends with marriages dissolving. Nothing lasts forever. I'm sort of like, Fuck, take it day by day because anything can happen. I'm just waiting for the bottom to drop out!'
Perhaps because they first met as bandmates rather than friends, The Killers are four vastly different people. Vannucci says that, having spent most of their adult life together, these disparate characters have nonetheless formed an extremely intimate connection. 'It's deep, man,' he says. 'You sort of have this suspended adolescence where you're the kids and you've got mom and dad doing your laundry and taking care of you so you bicker about the small things. Just like, God! Where are the avocados? I think we're growing out of that a bit.' Fruit quarrels aside, Vannucci is mildly piqued at the reoccurring misconception that they are all Mormons. In common with Keuning, the drummer is broadly agnostic. Stoermer, a former philosophy student, doesn't follow religion or think that there is 'a guy with a beard watching us' but trusts in a transcendent universal force. Any doubt about Flowers' beliefs evaporated last year when he became the face of the church's 'I'm a Mormon' video PR campaign.
Providing this endorsement earned Flowers sufficient brownie points with the church that he was permitted to examine some of the artifacts held their Salt Lake City headquarters. Here he thumbed through a Book of Mormon, the group's sacred guiding text, previously owned and rigorously annotated by Elvis Presley. 'Elvis wrote, There can only be one King,' says Flowers. 'He didn't like being called The King because, to him, Jesus Christ was The King. It was so cool that I got to see that.' Flowers has been feeling a lot of questions about his faith lately. Politics, too. This is because Mitt Romney is a fellow mormon. The Republican presidential candidate has officially acclaimed The Killers, a bunch of country artists and Aerosmith. In 2011 Flowers met Romney at Caesars Palace on the Las Vegas strip for a lunch, the specifics of which he keeps purposefully vague.
Would life be a bit easier for you at the moment if the world's most famous Mormon wasn't running for president?
A lot easier [laughs].
Is that because people expect you to express a political opinion?
Yeah. I mean, I have an opinion on certain things but I don't feel educated enough to really be weighing in. One thing I can tell you is from my interpretation and observation of growing up, the left side in America is seen as sort of elitist sometimes. So, even though their ideals are to help poor people more, it's off-putting to the poor guy. I can see why my dad would have said, 'I'm a Republican' without hesitation when really the left side is more in his favor [Flowers' retired father, Terry, had a varied but steadfastly blue-collar career]. I'm just coming to grips with all that and absorbing it. I'm definitely not in any place to be preaching either way. I have a foot on both sides, I think.
Where are you in the top 10 Mormons?
Ha! I must be number 2, right?
What about the Osmonds?
I don't know. They're on the way out.
Is the music business really any place for a good Mormon boy?
I have no problems with it [laughs]. I'm making my way alright.
The Killers are due on stage at nine o'clock, which is 45 minutes away. Loosening up by the building's side entrance, Keuning cheerily holds out a large plastic cup. 'Do you want to try my drink?' He asks. The guitarist was right; his viscous crimson formula of liquor, fruit juice and sugary caffeinated water really is very tasty. After the show Flowers will be the only one who doesn't mingle with invited guests at a modest party held on the roof. This is standard practice; there are, he explains, only so many Cokes you can have at the bar. When Flowers approaches his microphone he feels as if an internal switch is being flipped that puts him into frontman mode. Reverting to wholesome type is just as immediate, though residual energy absorbed from the crowd when the controls are set to rock tends to keep him awake. Sometime around 4 a.m. in a silent hotel room three miles away Brandon Flowers says his prayers and goes to sleep.
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2021.12.20 05:47 interstellarlovesong34 [M4F] #NYC/USA - Brown man looking for a White Girl

I’m a 34 year old Indian man who is looking for a young girl to date (18+ only). I am looking to talk and see how things go. Though I do prefer something long term. I am open to all girls, but I have a very strong attraction to white girls.
Location doesn’t really matter to me. I understand you might be from the west and I’m from India, but I’m open to travel or relocate for the right person. I would love if you want to have marriage and kids, because I do. The idea of a happy mixed family just warms my heart. I also like traditional gender roles of the man earning a living and the woman taking care of the family and house, but this is not a deal breaker. If you are modern I would love that too.
I do have some sexual likes and we could discuss them, but to be honest sexual stuff is secondary to having a real connection for me. If an older and dominant man of colour is something that you desire, send me a message and let’s talk.
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2021.12.20 02:50 throwawayrandrAccepting gf past

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So I’m 27 and she’s 24. We’ve been dating almost a year and she’s been opening up about her past. She wants to settle down and is telling me everything because she said she doesn’t want anything to pop up later and me get angry. Ima go in order from her being in higschool to now. So I’m high school she used to have a reputation for sucking off dudes in a small town and small high school. Already not good. She then moved to a bigger city and started off with her first week there by having a different guy every single night for a whole week with random dudes she met from tinder. She can’t “remember “ how many of them used protection or not or if any of them used protection. So she’s barely 18-19 and she started a sexual relationship with her store manager at a grocery store she started working at. Mind you he’s older then her own dad. She begins blowing him on lunch breaks but then she says she stopped after a while because it felt wrong, who knows. She then fucks random coworkers there and also blows vendors that come through the store. She started seeing this guy and was having relations with him when his gf showed up and punched her in the face so she stopped seeing him. She continues having a lot of random dudes over while her roommate/sister is not home. Her sister just sees a lot of random dudes coming over that she doesn’t know and begins thinking/calling her sister a slut/whore. Her quote unquote final straw in this town was when she invited yet another man she didn’t know that she met off tinder over and he got what he wanted then robbed her of some money she had put away. Who knows what the body count is at this point. She was just having dudes over left and right. So she then moves to another town and picks up where she left off. She’s seeing a couple guys at once and she meets her little future boyfriend of a couple months. He cheats on her, she goes back and cheats on him. They try to do an open relationship and work thins out. He lives about an hour away and beats on her and she keeps seeing him over and over. She then begins to sell herself on a sugar daddy website to yet another old man older then her father. She met him a couple times and did what she did for money to help out her abusive bf with bills. They break up she sleeps around then moves back to her hometown. She begins to date her aunts old boyfriend who ding ding ding is old or older then her dad yet again. She breaks it off and starts messing with another manager at her new store job. She blows her drug dealer at this time too. She goes out of town with her friends to club and sucks and fucks other dudes over there and catches an std. she gets it cleaned up and continues messing with other guys around her town. Fast forward we get together and are eventually trying for a kid. She goes to a dr appointment and comes out positive for 2 stds this time. We’ve been together 8 months at this point and I come back clean, no stds on my part and we haven’t been using protection. I don’t know what to think anymore. This std situation has been heavy on my mind, it’s like the last straw including her past. Any thoughts/opinions are welcome
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